To ask you to reconnect with that person you’ve drifted away from?

[officiallybringing]

I’m not talking about people you had a massive falling out with or estranged family members, unless you want to of course. But everyone has that person you used to be close to that you’ve drifted away from. This is your sign to send the message to reconnect. We can discuss the outcome of sending that first message here

You first OP. How did it go?

Is it just me that absolutely hates the phrase ‘this is your sign’? Overused and means nothing. Makes me irrationally angry and feels patronising (yes, I know I’m missing the point of the thread!)

Well I regularly delete phone numbers of people I haven’t spoken to in years and don’t have social media, so I couldn’t even if I wanted to!
But as others have said people drift apart for a reason, and I think most people wouldn’t welcome a message from someone from the past.

It's a coincidence - but I've just sent a message to someone I used to be really close to - saw them at an event and we hugged and said we should catch up, I sent an email today (about 5 hours ago) It's been read - but they have not responded - I think there is no harm in trying,

Beautiful warm heart OP

No story to share yourself, op?

Did you just hope to have people fawning over how wonderfully inspiring you are?

MN's very own Cilla Black I suspect.

There’s a difference between suggesting to people that, if they keep thinking “oh I must contact Jane “ but then forgetting that it may be worth making that effort than saying unless you’ve had a massive falling out then you need to get back in touch with people.

if we are “asking” people to do things, can I ask you to do some work on emotional intelligence and your locus of control.

I think this is quite normal, they will likely be at work etc and want to respond properly when they have some time. Hope it goes well for you.

I got deleted?! Wow that’s not happened in a very long time and the sentiment was spot on and I used a MN approved acronym too. I think I will dampen it down and say references to only certain posters having “beautiful warm hearts” are both patronising and smug, I think that’s appropriately sanitised!

Wow it's like walking into a room of teenagers who've been asked to unload the dishwasher ' fuck off, you can't tell me what to do'
I actually text my ex co worker yesterday. No fall out just life got busy. We are meeting for coffee later this week and I can't wait.

I'm getting the impression that this is an issue rather close to the bone for OP.
Only instead of posting about it openly, she's projecting it randomly onto MN users. 🤷🏻‍♀️

MARCH? Neither of you have a date free in your schedule for 4 months?

Definitely @TryingAgainAgainAgain

Ah, I did this a couple of years ago. Went to a school reunion. Someone I had loved wasn't there. Contacted her to say 'You were missed' Got back in touch - having not seen each other in forty years. Never stopped talking. As if no time had passed. Been on holiday together twice now, with another planned for next year.

Beat me to it!! I’d only let them down again 😅

Well it's been four years! Another few months won't kill us! 🤣

Nope.

I spent nearly a decade maintaining relationships with my friends from school/uni. Until a few years ago I would have said we were a very close friendship group.

One day, after a close family tragedy had left me devastated, I suddenly realised I hadn't heard a thing from any of them. If I didn't call, then there was no call unless they wanted something from me like support or a favour (which I was only ever too happy to give). If I didnt organise parties, dinners or holidays, no one else did. I never cared about the material things but it dawned on me that I and my dc never received gifts, but I always gave them.

My 'close' friendship group was completely happy excluding me unless I was being of use. And when I was upset and going through something myself, I was suddenly of no use.

That realisation hit like a ton of bricks. I can't say I don't miss having friends, but I can say I don't miss being used.

Oh, nice little passive-aggressive, thinly-veiled dig there! So people who aren't jumping up and doing exactly what you ordered them to do in your OP, are 'cold-hearted' are they? 😆

Seriously, @officiallybringing You are not doing yourself any favours, or encouraging anyone to do ANYthing that you tell them to do. Please stop! I'm cringing for you now!!! 😂

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@Zov- who pissed on your chips?. Why so hostile,

I think you need to aim that at the OP luv. 😎

Funeral pre paid. My husband and I have decided to pay for our funerals now. We agreed on a simple cremation with no attendees.
when we discussed this with my son and daughter, my daughter would prefer that we have a regular funeral not a direct cremation. We have small families and after loosing my mum this year we thought it would be a good idea to pay for the funerals job done. No expense for our adult children.
has anyone else made funeral plans? My husband does not want a funeral but I’m not so sure now. He thinks we should plan pay and forget about it!

Have you posted on the wrong thread?

That's a horrible realisation, @BlueDwarf.

Look mate, you can reconnect or whatever with however you want but leave the rest of us alone