To think this was really cheeky of my friend!

[BreezyFish]

So my friend has just told me that she’s “only gonna spend a cutla quid” (her words, not mine ) on my DS this Christmas because she’s “saving for Center Parcs next year.”

Now, I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but a cutla quid?? I actually thought she was joking at first. My DS is 7, not some random kid from school you pick up a selection box for. I always spend properly on her DD with last year it was a LEGO set, a book, and one of those slime-making kits that exploded glitter everywhere. Easily £25+.

So I said, “Oh right, just a couple of quid?” and she said, dead serious, “Yeah hun, can’t go mad this year, Center Parcs isn’t cheap.”

Sorry but since when did her holiday mean my son gets shortchanged?! It’s not my fault she wants to go be in a beige lodge with a swimming pool.

She’s now acting like I’m the unreasonable one for being “materialistic.” But surely it’s just basic decency to reciprocate roughly what someone else spends?

Would I be unreasonable to get her DD something from the pound shop this year and see how she likes it?

This.

Oh dear

I'd bin her off for "cutla" and "Hun". Seriously, dealing with that sort of thing sets my teeth on edge.

Would I be unreasonable to get her DD something from the pound shop this year and see how she likes it?

Why can’t you see that this is exactly what she’s hoping you’ll do? Only she would like you to do it with a good grace, rather than centring yourself and your own very narrow values?

It’s not a business transaction. She doesn’t owe your son a fixed portion of her budget, and she’s allowed to have different priorities that are based on her own family’s benefit rather than yours. Lots of people are trying to dial down the Christmas spending frenzy and use their limited funds differently - surely you are aware of that?

She doesn’t owe you an expensive gesture. You, however, owe her a little more respect and grace than you’re showing here.

😂😂😂 yeah, why would the op’s son want a WHSmith voucher… anyone else not shocked her son doesn’t like books? Just agree to stop gifts for friends. Who the fuck prioritises a friend’s dc over taking their own family on holiday? Listen to her very clear boundaries and set some of your own.

What kind of entitled shit is this?!!

Just spend less on her kids and move the feck on.

Jeeeeezus 🙄

No, I’m not friends with people who are pains in the arse, haven’t got the time, energy or inclination. I surround myself with kind and positive people (we don’t get each other’s dc gifts though - it would cost a bomb as we all have 3-4 each)

🤣🤣 yeh she should of lol

Im just gob smacked that people expect friends to buy their children presents?

Cutla her off, she sounds like a rubbish friend anyway

I think yabu for such a drip feed lol.

If that's the case then just take a big step back and give her less of your time. Easy.

YABU - she’s telling you so that you can give an equivalent level gift. I don’t buy presents for any friends children at Christmas, nor do they, mine. Not because we don’t love each other but because Christmas is pricey enough.

You don’t like her, so just bin her off. I hope I never hear cutla again as long as I live.

She’s prioritising her child/family by saving her money to pay for a trip for them…YABU for not respecting that.

Either agree a budget you’re both happy with or knock buying presents for the kids on the head.

🤣 🤣 🤣

I find it bizarre that so many on here don’t realise the friend said “couple a” as in “a couple of quid”.

It’s quite simple she’s told you the limit, that’s telling you how much you should spend on hers. If I was you I would give your child the extra, maybe even as cash in the stocking that they can buy themself sumfin wiv.

I’ve never bought my friends kids Xmas presents and never will. I didn’t even realise this was a thing.

Well you’re a mug then! Your “DF” doesn’t buy your DS anything meaningful, yet you’re chasing her round hoping she’ll do better this year?

Why are you acting like that? Are you desperate to have friends, that apparently are not good enough for you?

Try making better friend, with a cutla other people?

Do you have any other friends?

All you do is moan about her.

Jesus. Grabby much?

Between my close circle of friends there are 13 kids. That is 325 quid before i even start on my own / my family by your logic.

That can fuck off.

I buy for none of them, and they dont buy for mine, and everyones happy.

If someone brought my child exploding glitter I'd tell them not to bother with presents again. £25 is a stupid amount to spend on a friend's child. My best friends kids get a selection box and she gets the same for mine. I wouldn't care if she said she was going to stop though.

Reverse

its fine and normal to buy the kids selection boxes

Who why and where does anyone say cutla @BreezyFish ?

Does "a cutla quid" mean a couple of quid?

Just arskin cuz I'se not sure.

I clocked yabu but other posts show deeper issue than one present.
Do you want to keep her as a friend? Do you enjoy spending time with her? If the only issue are gifts then yes hust spend "cutla" quid on hed dd this year. But sounds like there are other grudges, I would phase her out

It is weird show everyone only wants to correct OP’s spelling but everyone else gets a free pass.