Step daughter wanting help to gut her house and in not happy to help

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I'm unwell and have a demanding physical job three long days a week, step daughter shall we say is very not houseproud barely does housework and I'm fairly disgusted with how she lives in her rented property, her dad often comments, both herself and her partner have good well paid jobs but they would simply rather goout or play computer games, she has a check by property mananger Thurs I have a long shift at work weds but am after after working two long days Mon and Tues in which I intend to spend one day cleaning and one day food shopping and relaxing, am I wrong to say no I won't spend my day off going and gutting her out I really wouldn't know when or where to start!!!

Exactly. How ridiculous.

And they're shameless.

Oh right. So they do nothing and go out but then the inspection is suddenly an emergency and you are expected to step up. No.

They've got no shame.

They went away for the weekend???

Do not lift another finger.

I bet if you went they would just stand watching you clean or do gaming. No it's not down to you. Lazy sods.

Grown adult demands her parents help her clean her house? Because her and her partner are a pair of bone idle feckers? How embarassing.

Grown adult demands her parents help her clean her house? Because her and her partner are a pair of bone idle feckers? How embarassing.*

This.

They can take a day off work each and do it if it's that bad.

I'm sure they would much rather keep their hands clean whilst you did it all for them, but surely you're not going to let them get away with that?! Are they both cleaning all evening today?

Why the feck aren’t these adults adulting?

why is your husband doing it?

Update..... I have been out and bought cleaning products and mold spray cloths and air freshener upon request of my husband!!!!

This makes me think you're on the wind up.

That'll be change the locks then? :-)

Not if OPs husband is just going to allow them to live there. OP needs to have a real plan in place, would she leave, where to, does she have the cash to do that or does she need to free it up etc.

There's so many threads all over the internet about similar and it's happened to 2 friends of mine. One she refused to pay towards her step sons rent and he moved in and she was stuck there for ages before she could move and the other she wouldn't baby sit her step daughters child and step daughter and child moved in as step daughter couldn't work so couldn't pay rent.

Let her get mardy with you. That way she probably won't ask you again!
Win,win 😀

They’re massively cheeky asking for help. Your DH is daft for going, but it’s his decision to make obviously. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty. They’re basically saying you should clean for them so that they can slob around and play on computer games. Just because the two things aren’t happening at the same time, doesn’t mean it’s not true.

OP - Do NOT give in!!!

Are you in an abusive relationship?

Being afraid of his reaction to your refusing to skivvy for his daughter is coercive abuse.

Talk to Women's aid.
He sounds like a prick.

I wouldn't have gone out and bought cleaning products. Your DH could have done that if he wanted as he's retired.
Or the two lazy fuckers could have done it. They could put whatever plans they have for tonight, tomorrow and Wednesday on hold and get the place cleaned up easily in that time.

She/they've made the mess they clean it up
Or they pay someone to do it for them

Whenever I get asked to do something that takes up my precious time and energy I always ask myself the question 'would they honestly do it for me?'
9 times out of 10 it's a 'no, they actually wouldn't would they'

So...there you go

Why the string of nasty little laughing faces?

You are not BU to not want to do this if you are unwell, but why not leave it at that?

Instead you've sunk to belittling her and being nastily judgmental.

Yes I think you're right

Good - Stick to your guns. Pure lazyass immature behaviour!

Since it's your DSD I'd bet money that her DF never made her do anything at your place because he was afraid she'd stop coming to visit, now she's supposed to be an adult she still expects everyone else to clean up after her. Your DH is doing them no favours by running to the rescue, she and her DP need to learn that as adults they need to keep a reasonably clean and tidy home, if it's that bad they can't make it OK in a couple of evenings then they're living like messy children.
Tell your DH this is down to him, if his DD gets in a mood that's really just tough shit

Sod that! They can clean their own crappy house

Maybe the reason they’re the way they are is because they know other people will pick up their crap.
they’re old enough to live independently, and make the mess in the first place so they’re old enough to tidy up. If the letting agent / landlord is unhappy there will be consequences. Maybe they need to learn the hard way instead of having their arses wiped

It is people like these that give renters a bad name. No responsibility or respect.

All these replies saying to get professional cleaners in are nonsensical. The inspection is Thursday. Nobody is going to have availability before then.

How do you know? Lol