Husband wants to move to dubai

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My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

It's mainly the poor migrant workers and sex workers who are exploited though, tbf. A lot of laws have been relaxed.

Laws against gay sex and alcohol remain, among others,,though alcohol laws are looser for expats.

Yes but from the sounds of it he’d have enough money to be able to do that without going to Dubai. Let’s face it if Dubai is worthwhile due to tax you’re earning big bucks.

So you can have a nice lifestyle and family over here, or an even better lifestyle but no family (if the op says she and the kids won’t go) over there. Seems a crazy choice to me!

I’d rather not say where exactly, but it’s in a southern state. It’s truly wonderful. We have such an active lifestyle there. Lots of horse riding and water sports.

Some things can be a bit more expensive where groceries are concerned, but an overall shop is comparable to the UK. Our home which is rented costs us about £2000 a month, but we have a pool and utilities are far less. The car is also extremely cheap to run. We drive a full size SUV and it costs around $50 to fill the tank.

In terms of what’s more expensive, I feel they break even when you factor in the health insurance. I’ve had to use their health service before and I’d suffered on a waiting list here for 18 months…they sorted it in less than 72 hours.

But again, what I really love is the life at the end of the day. The fact you just grab your SUPs and go. Or swim in the pool. Or go out for dinner. Dinner out is quite cheap. The steakhouse we go to charges about $24 per person for a ginormous steak. We often bring home half and eat it the next day.

We have been able to stay up to 3 months at a time. But I feel very strongly that we’ll try to go there permanently at some point. Not for financial savings, but for quality of life.

X 10000 there tho.

You should divorce him now before he moves and divorces you for unreasonable behaviour for not moving with him.

You should divorce him now before he moves and divorces you for unreasonable behaviour for not moving with him.

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The OP has been to Dubai already, but you clearly have not :).

That is very much the case in most developed countrys though worldwide -if resident it’s taxation on worldwide income - however it’s rarely double taxation , due to treaties, you are usually paying it in the place you are technically resident -

I think you have even bigger worries prior to this - He cannot be trusted. You don't know that he hasn't actually cheated on you, or doesn't think about it. It sounds like this is a marriage of possible convenience because you wouldn't financially survive without him, so you raise your tolerance instead of your standards.

It's a good motto to live by- Raise your standards, not your tolerance. He doesn't sound like he really cares about you. If he did, he would pay his taxes, or find another job. Money doesn't matter when you wholly love someone. You cannot buy love, standards, morals, or time.

Are they really? It wouldn't be so bad if the taxes were used to benefit the UK, then people might just be able to stomach them, then you have a government with no electrical mandate because none of what they are doing was ever on their election manifesto, otherwise nobody would have voted for them in the first place. I am not surprised people with money want to go elsewhere, illegal migrants in 4 and 5 star hotels, most people on here could not afford to and rape gangs operating with impunity, who wants to pay for that?

This thread is a comedy classic, the avaricious posters out in force, with the pseudo indignation and arrogance believing themselves to be the only people that have ever and will ever pay tax!

"People with money" all want to.ho elsewhere do they, do you know any people with money?

He’s not dodging taxes 😂

He’s perfectly entitled to move anywhere he wants as long as it’s legal, people have been doing this for centuries.
Better pay, better jobs and opportunites

Err... we are literally on the thread of someone with money contemplating moving somewhere and would not even ask questions here if their kids were not at a such sensitive age?

The one being unreasonable is your husband, thinking he can leave you and his children behind so he can go live a.new.life in Dubai just to save on paying his taxes to support his wife and child

I know quite a few people with proper money, of course but I am not one of them, like most people in this country, I am struggling with the rising cost of living. People with 50 or 60k a year uncome are considered rich for tax purposes by this government, which is wrong imo, the idea of levelling up is supposed to be to make people better off, not drag others down to a lower level.

Can't disagree with this. I'd move to some places but Dubai would not be on the list. Too hot and too sexist!

Not all wealthy people have to move to Dubai, wealthy people don't have this crude collective mindset that has been fabricated by the likes of The Telegraph and other right wing 'journalists'! The way some posters discuss it on here you'd think being wealthy was a state of grace! But actually with these examples, I can't help thinking more along the lines of the T-Rex, huge and dominant but with a brain the size of a walnut!

It wouldn’t be for me - I LOATHE the very idea of Dubai and have no desire to visit, let alone live there.

However, it does seem like the employment landscape in the UK is changing for senior people in their 40s and 50s. It’s one thing moving countries and uprooting a family to pay less tax. It’s another thing if you are 52 and have been made redundant and can’t find another job here. I have a friend in this position and he is moving to Dubai in order to support his family back in the UK.

Are his businesses registered on the UAE? He'll still have to pay UK tax on any UK income.

Yikes. I quite like Dubai don’t think I’d live there with teenage kids too much of a risk. more to the point any husband willing to do this is emotionally checked out. Sorry he is more interested in him self than the family. He will no doubt meet someone over there. Sorry !

Hope your money lasts because Dubai won't give a shit about you if it runs out. Never mind I'm sure "this shit-hole" will be happy to pick up the pieces.

Edit: Apologies I see you are talking about USA not Dubai. Biggest cause of bankruptcy in USA is health care I believe so as long as you stay healthy should be OK.

Your husband sounds like an a7se. He's married with kids, he doesn't get to ditch his wife and kids to go and live in Dubai.
Give him a divorce and negotiate a good financial settlement from him.

Dubai is not all it's cracked up to be, you're right not to want to take the children there.

Cyprus on the other hand is a wonderful place to bring up kids .... Perhaps you could talk him into a charge of destination?

I think PP lives in the states.

I worked from the age of 16 to the age of 30 full time practically in various places schools, the nhs for 6 years retail and now a private nursery setting. I have paid taxes practically for the last 12 or so years. So forgive me for cutting my hours down to enable me to parent the child I chose to have to parent myself instead of hand them over to someone else to take care of just so I pay taxes and then that means I’d claim more due to being eligible for 85% childcare payments back etc.

it’s a vicisios circle and no matter what you do unless your earning thousands you will be in the loop. I could work full time never see the child I gave birth to and then pay taxes but then take back out the system by claiming the 85% which at one point when I was doing it till January I was taking £800 back I’m rightfully entitled to as a single parent or I could work part time my child go to work pre school I then get to collect and pick up and take care of the child I chose to birth and they only claim 15 hours of the funding until September 2026. If they let mothers stay at home until their child was school age they’d save a lot more money on childcare expenses and funding places.