Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

I live in the UAE, and I’m really interested in knowing exactly what you base this upon?

Agree with this. Ask on the dubai ex pats forums you'll get a far better idea of the realities then on here

He doesn't care about you or the children, all he cares about is money. Greedy really, do you have a happy life in the UK?

That's a good plan of his, but i disagree with living separately. You and the kids should with him. The school are better there and they are private. Life is so much better there.

Uk is going downhill.

Definitely move with him and its good for the kids too.

Good luck with everything and im sure you wont regret it.

I just think the summers there would be brutal

This is a good point this literally happened to me/ you can kid yourself in his motivations. My ex moved to USA for work and put in a divorce saying I was too work motivated. lol. I would not trust a man who suggested this sorry!

With waste yes 100 percent. But I also disagree with the 40 and 45% rates applied - especially at the level they are applied to. I also disagree with the loss of personal allowance. I disagree with the way benefits are set up we hear both ends people taking advantage of the system yes for sure - but others that don’t have enough! Both tax systems and benefits system plus government spending and civil service all needs an overhaul.

Brexit. It damaged us and it damaged the EU's economy. Only adversaries of Europe at large cheered on that crap.

Surely it's in both of ours interest to get the free trade deal and remove the custom checks?

It is indeed - but sadly politically can't see it happening any time soon...

To clarify- i mean if we rejoined the single market and customs union. If you meant the recent deal, it's a start and better than nothing but still very small steps.

He needs to be turning over good money to cover all that you need if you go as a family!

Would this only be done with freedom of movement as well? Which I want tbf. I think my DC want to move to the EU

Before Brexit the government tried to explore staying in a free trade zone without free movement of people and were told no free trade without free movement of people.

If free trade had been allowed without free movement then Brexit would never have happened.

I can't see us going into any agreement that involved free movement of people now when immigration is generally the number one issue of the electorate.

Again (assuming you are one of the high earners), I have absolutely no issue with you leaving.

Please do so.

This is the internet.

It's wealthy people pretending to be average people panicking about wealthy people leaving.

I've told you already- the general public does not give a shit if wealthy people leave.

OK, I know recent reforms mean it's OK for most women.

What about migrant workers though?

What about the sex workers who are treated as porta potties?

What about the influence of Sharia and conservative Islam on Muslim women?

You're not going to get stabbed to death in the UAE that's for sure

What about the sex workers who are treated as porta potties?

That's not a government policy! You get filthy perverts everywhere.

Forgotten the 2010 austerity budget then? 2008 banking crash? Can't blame bloody Brexit for that

Dubai is a tax haven whilst you live there, I lived there with my husband and children but returned after18months because one of our children, youngest son, couldn't get a place in school. He continued to work there for further 2 years and make great holidays.....(This is about 15 years ago).
My husband who is arbic speaking, his line of work used take him oversea a lot and had a good employment status there( he's original from Moroccan, long standing connection to the UK) I'm from here.
The schools aren't free over there or the medical cover, often tied to his/ your job and cover will included the kids as well. You do need to have school places or it isn't easy to get a place, also some of the better school your child may need to take an entrance exam to get in or even the waiting list.
The other important note; on return you do need to still pay some tax and start paying back into national health insurance to our government and be warned the NHS isn't automatically free on return, you'll need cover, this includes us native UK too.....
Over there life is fab for a while, i missed home and our seasons....lol, it is very hot and lived from car to buildings mostly, apart from night life, the children do very early morning school times. You get used to it though and lots to do, shopping is beyond believe, especially the gold shops, like 'WOW!' I also learnt to shop in some of their local markets, bought some beautiful arts and crafts, natural foods, perfumes plus all the spices you could wish for and ordinary life there always events for children, then there is the beeches, oversea sections you can just be a brit, no worries, their beeches are lovely too but more of a dress code, not too much for you but they do, I respected the culture and they were really lovely and made many friends from there and people from all over the world.
No real crime on the streets and very safe compared to here, be sensible though and definitely more family friendly, more than our own country cities, children are just part of family life and very catered for in shopping malls, lots of fun fairs and restaurants etc .

Dubai is a tax haven whilst you live there, I lived there with my husband and children but returned after18months because one of our children, youngest son, couldn't get a place in school. He continued to work there for further 2 years and make great holidays.....(This is about 15 years ago).
My husband who is arbic speaking, his line of work used take him oversea a lot and had a good employment status there( he's original from Moroccan, long standing connection to the UK) I'm from here.
The schools aren't free over there or the medical cover, often tied to his/ your job and cover will included the kids as well. You do need to have school places or it isn't easy to get a place, also some of the better school your child may need to take an entrance exam to get in or even the waiting list.
The other important note; on return you do need to still pay some tax and start paying back into national health insurance to our government and be warned the NHS isn't automatically free on return, you'll need cover, this includes us native UK too.....
Over there life is fab for a while, I missed home and our seasons, my mum had health issues and London....lol, it is very hot and lived from car to buildings mostly in summer, apart from night life, the children do very early morning school times, nap once home and then early evening to night you go out.
You get used to it though and lots to do, shopping is beyond believe, especially the gold shops, like 'WOW!' I also learnt to shop in some of their local markets, bought some beautiful arts and crafts, natural foods, perfumes plus all the spices you could wish for and ordinary life there always events for children, then there is the beeches, oversea sections you can just be a brit, no worries, their beeches are lovely too but more of a dress code, not too much for you but they do, I respected the culture and they were really lovely and made many friends from there and people from all over the world.
No real crime on the streets and very safe compared to here, be sensible though and definitely more family friendly, more than our own country cities, children are just part of family life and very catered for in shopping malls, lots of fun fairs and restaurants etc .

With respect, you sound revolting.

The real question is do you want a 90 day husband and father for you and the kids?

Life doesn't really pause like that, does it?

I think I'd be too disgusted at my kids father preferring money to time with them.

What is the issue with migrant workers in Dubai? Several posters have mentioned this but don't understand what exactly is the problem ?