Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

Yes, and Eastern European women are in high demand to be exploited at the misogynistic and racist porta potty parties
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And yet tax rates on higher earners used to be much higher. And differentials between CEOs and average workers were lower.

Quite. People equate hard work with money and it’s often far from the case. The nurses I’ve seen when I’ve been in hospital are working far harder for 10% of the money than the directors I work closely with.

Homogenous? That causes cultural issues for us, yes, but logically shouldn't directly effect tax if it's less so.

Once we've deported all the illegal immigrants the population will be a bit lower, and our birth rate is steadily falling, so the population should soon be much lower.

Agree re natural resources.

A women walking back late at night has to always take more care in the UK.

Dubai have taken a good stance on safety. But as we see here even if it improves women's safety people complain about it.

It depends where in Europe has a lower crime rates. (Countries with strict immigrants policies on non-EU migration, yes. Others with open borders, not so much)

I had family in Dubai. Based on their experience as business people, I would be very wary of setting up in Dubai. Bear in mind you cannot legally have debt, you cannot operate without certain permission and interest from people in high places etc. They ended up losing a whole business and escaping the country when a sheik basically decided he wanted more of the business take....down to leaving the car at the airport with the keys in...

I also personally could not split up a family for the case of making more money. If you are earning enough to have the option to move to Dubai, then you are already in a very lofty/high earner place. I would want to see my kids grow up and spend time with OH - but then I am less driven by £000,000's in the bank.....

It doesn't bode well. My DH wanted us to move to Dubai a few years ago. I said "you go, we'll stay and the kids will finish school here" and he was so aghast at that possibility that he gave up the Dubai idea.

Agree.

"And yet tax rates on higher earners used to be much higher. And differentials between CEOs and average workers were lower."

So what! That's like saying mortgage rates were 15% in the 80s so suck up an extra 5% now.
It's not your money- it belongs to him and his family- if he finds a tax hike in this present moment unpalatable, you have no right to scold him into paying it.
We need higher earners to sustain the economy- it might be fashionable to lambast them but it's economic suicide.
And massively entitled.

So you don't earn enough to pay tax and only work 16 hours a week? Why would you need to move to a tax haven when you don't even pay tax yet you obviously use all the services that other tax payers pay for?

Do you trust him not to get another girl / cheat while he is there alone most of the time?

I must admit that this was my first thought too.

Oh dear. These 'very attractive younger women' are not 'friends', are they.
I think you'd be best off staying put and getting the children used to being without their dad for part of the time rather than uprooting yourselves and becoming dependent on DH. Then you can decide what to do longer term. Hopefully if you do split up, DH will be in a position to support his family.

Dubai is awful.

@Mummysof I can assure you, you are paying ridiculous prices in Dubai - that’s how their system works, less tax, loaded on certain goods and services - same goes for Switzerland, Singapore and USA to some extent too etc - Suits some , doesn’t suit others - if you want lower prices go to Spain , Portugal Germany, Eastern Europe etc - what you don’t get though is low tax - lowish tax AND low prices usually means you are looking at 3rd world country’s -

I don't think it's weird at all. This man is moving to Dubai while his wife and family take advantage of NHS, public education, etc.., etc.., all paid for by other people's taxes, taxes he refuses to pay. The whole family should go. He can pay out of his own pocket for their school and medical care.

I used to work at a University with a campus in Dubai. There was a policy with instructions for getting any female staff or students out of the country as quickly as possible if they became pregnant outside marriage. It's dystopian stuff. All modern and a utopia for conspicuous consumption and bling yet stuck in the dark ages for women's and gay rights.

Are you illiterate or do you just struggle with comprehension? Had you read my comment correctly, you would see I wrote that it’s a very safe place to bring up children compared to over here.

I’ve lived in 4 different countries and felt safest in UAE. Petty crime rarely occurs due to strict criminal penalties. Shame this country didnt adopt the same stance.

The roles listed are primarily (I believe) funded by the government. So that's why the wages are artificially low. So you have a point there.

But the people who are cleaners, make my coffee, serve me fries at McDonald's or just stack shelves at Tesco, they are getting paid the market rate for their skill level.

She works and pays taxes. Ideally the whole family should go yes.

My mistake. Thanks for correcting

You do realise we get more money from them from the crown estates than the cost of the sovereign grant is.

Because he's typical of the greedy rich who don't want to pay their fair share. As far as I am concerned he can fuck off to Dubai, he clearly cares more about money than his family.

Oh you are such a compassionate human being.

How ridiculous, sad and disloyal.