Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

Makes you realise how shit the UK has become for many!

It's just all so soulless and depressing isn't it

Where to start. Firstly I agree with GG assessment of men and women. It was correct in the 70’s and more so today, sadly. In the uk misogyny and sexism is more covert or less obvious - but women are certainly not equal, we are discriminated against and frankly, it’s not that safe. Approx 2 women a week are killed by men, in the uk. It’s rarely safe to walk alone at night. There’s a significant pay gap. It’s apparently offensive to call a man who thinks he’s a woman, a man. A woman could lose her job for that. A woman who has been raped by a man has to call the man ‘she’ in court, if the man demands it. The list goes on. So no I don’t think the uk is that much better, if at all.

According to Grok, which I'm confirming from other sources now, women's legal status was very constrained by Sharia law and the guardianship system there until a few years ago-

Personal Status Law: Family matters (marriage, divorce, inheritance, custody) were governed by Sharia-based laws. Women faced disadvantages:
Men could divorce unilaterally; women needed court approval and specific grounds.
Inheritance: Daughters typically inherited half of what sons received.
Custody: Mothers usually got young children, but guardianship (legal decision-making) remained with the father.
Guardianship system (male guardianship): Although less rigid in Dubai than in Saudi Arabia, women still needed a male guardian’s permission for certain actions (e.g., marrying, sometimes traveling abroad if under 21, or obtaining certain government services).
Domestic violence: A federal law criminalizing domestic violence was passed in 2019 (Federal Law No. 10/2019), but implementation was criticized as weak, and marital rape was not explicitly criminalised.

Quite.

... In order to have services we have to pay tax.
... all tax systems have one element that is based on income ... anything else is clearly unfair.
... we do not have socialism in this country contrary to some posts. We are a capitalist country
... other European countries being quoted here as having a better health service use a part insurance system ... is that what we want?
... there is no way that governments will spend tax income to suit everyone. No government can.
... it is important to remember all the services that we do have and simply take for granted.

I'd happily get ride of the NHS for a European or Singaporean style healthcare system

I wouldn't land at the airport in Dubai. If my DH even floated this idea he would be my XH as soon as I could make it happen (he wouldn't though, because he is not a misogynistic capitalist arsehole).

I expect plenty of people who disapprove of Muslim countries' stances on gay rights don't go there on holiday.

Don't think that view is restricted to the middle east! People are just too 'tolerant' to call out intolerance over here.

Half of all British Muslims think homosexuality should be illegal, poll finds

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2016/apr/11/british-muslims-strong-sense-of-belonging-poll-homosexuality-sharia-law

I mean you don't get killed for being gay in the middle east. Yes it is illegal, but you can choose to refrain from engaging in sexual activity or at least don't do PDA in public

We’re not allowed to talk about some British (or otherwise) Muslims homophobia or grooming of young white girls. It’s racist.

Well no but equally we are allowed an opinion on someone who thinks its ok to sod off to not pay any tax, whilst leaving his wife and kids behind to take advantage of all the of the things that said tax should have contributed to.

So it is “a bit off” now compared to your very angry original post.
that’s ok, glad you came to your senses

So if he was like "my company wants me to go to Dubai for 3 weeks on a very important business trip" you'd divorce him for the mere thought of going to Dubai

A tax payer

I've heard the summer months are uncomfortable and brutal though

What if the wife pays taxes of her own? 😄
or if years of past tax contributed towards their upkeep for years to come?😁

btw what’s your opinion then on low earners and benefits claimants, since they are not contributing in taxes?

I mean imagine being against immigration?

Surely people are allowed to move for a better life and opportunity? (And actually be economically active and contribute)

People can move to the UK? Yay

People want to leave the UK? Grr we want your tax money

So he is willing to sacrifice seeing his kids in order to dodge paying a bit of tax, and you don't trust him with other women?

He sounds a real catch.

I mean, this. Sounds like not paying more tax is more important to him than being with his family.

That's certainly a choice.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

He is showing you his priorities. Those who cheat on their taxes will happily cheat on their wives.

You need legal advice. The UK family court does not have jurisdiction over foreign assets and cannot enforce orders against assets held in Dubai.

Sorry did I ask you I don’t think I did.

I mean as far as OP said they don't want to unsettle the kids by the move.

If the DH's business improves and thrives he has more to give his kids

Wanting to move to a low tax jurisdiction is not cheating on tax!

But why should anyone’s opinion matter,it doesn’t.