Having sex straight after baby

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I don't understand those who can be arsed.

Aibu

Edit - I don't mean straight away but generally. So tired, house is a rip, fat belly, body is tired, mind is tired. I just don't care if I don't have sex again

Why are you focused on what other women do with their vaginas? I wouldn’t do it either but a thread about isn’t needed. Strange and seems obsessive.

It's asking for infection, is what it is. Why the hell would do this?

Absolutely gross and a massive infection risk.

Why do you feel the need to understand other people's sexual relationships?

Really???????

Other people feel differently. That’s okay.

I think the vast majority of new mothers feel the same op. It’s natural. YANBU.

11 days after a c section (carefully) my hormones made me randy af

I wanted to straight away but I didn’t for various other reasons.

I don't think you're supposed to have sex for at least 6 weeks after giving birth due to the infection risk.

You need time

I took weeks to heal up so no thanks! But everyone different. Even bleeding went on for ages

For the ‘cool’ people who have posted a negative response, just scroll on by surely? The OP is stating a perfectly valid point of view.
If people can’t do that about a variety of subjects on MN then what’s the point of it?

Also, what does the OP mean by 'straight after baby'?

Are we talking a few weeks or mad shagging in the delivery room before the tea and toast arrives?

By 2 weeks I was horny as hell. But understand someone still don’t want to 6 months later. Different strokes for different folks.

The OP didn't state a point of view at all at first.

She then edited her opening post.

But still, she doesn't need to understand what other people do/don't choose to do when it comes to their own sex lives.

There is a theme on here sometimes of making out that anyone who wants to have sex shortly after a baby, is not concentrating on their baby, is a traitor to women etc.

Live and let live. If you don’t want to, fine. There’s nothing wrong with people who want to.

Depends on how you define straight after. We started very gently as soon as bleeding stopped. I was asked at my 6 week check up if I’d sex and if there were any issues! No problems here. In fact my two are a year apart and if second had arrived on time I’d have had two under 1.

You don’t have to understand others who want to do it. Other peoples sex lives aren’t your concern. I can’t imagine someone else’s sex life being something I thought about ever, and there would definitely be nothing further from my mind when I’d just had my children, so I find this a strange thread.

The things you mention though, my house wasn’t a tip as we had a cleaner and my partner did everything else that was needed, my belly went back to pre pregnancy size fairly quickly and I wasn’t even that tired as my partner looked after our babies so that I could sleep between feeds.

Just concentrate on what is right for you, when you start comparing your life in any way to others, it’s not really helpful.

If you want to and had an easy delivery with absolute no trauma (me), why not?

Because it means the OP won't understand you doing something differently to her.

Plenty of people do though. I know several people who have been pregnant again within weeks of giving birth including a friend who had a September baby then twins the following June. So 3 children in the same class.

I was 6 weeks, but it was me that wanted it. Your choice.

Hormones are a crazy thing and they affect people in different ways.

Surely it's whatever the woman feels comfortable with?

I waited 3 weeks and then 4 weeks. I was told to go ahead when I felt ready, I was never told I had to wait 6 weeks.

Eh?

The OP asked ‘AIBU’. The post is literally asking for people to state their opinions. And why on earth do you think people who wanted a sex life after a baby would be trying to seem ‘cool’?!