She's dying isn't she?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

I’m so sorry to hear your update op. I wish you a peaceful time with your Mum now and hope she is as comfortable as possible after such a horrible time.

So very sorry that your poor Mum has had to go through this and that your instinct was right. So sorry.

Thinking of you all. I am so sorry.

We were told in June that there was nothing more that could be done for our son (28) and it would be palliative care only. He was dx with a Glioblastoma in June 22.

Keep talking to your mum and perhaps play her favourite music?

We had a hospice bed delivered on the 25th June - he was heavily sedated from this point, we had some fantastic hospice at home nurses coming in 3 x a day. His music playlists were on constant loop, friends and family came to sit and talk to him. He was listening...he responded out of the blue to his brother who was telling him that the day before he had gone for the Friday Lunch Special at DS's favourite deli. DS loved his food.

DS passed away on the 29th June.

I’m so sorry OP. I’m sure you will find out more in the coming days but I would see if you could get a hospice referral as soon as possible. I’ve sadly had more experience with them than I would ever have wanted but they are fantastic in terms of managing pain and offering support.

I'm so very sorry, OP. Sending you all my best.

So sorry OP x

So sorry to hear this ❤️‍🩹

I couldn’t read and run! So sorry OP! Absolutely heartbreaking

Like @KellsBells7 I would see if you can get her moved to a hospice if possible. They are much more focused and care is second to none. It will also be more private than a hospital ward and you and your family will be able to spend time with her and talk as much as you want. I went through similar with a parent in 2022. It's heartbreaking 💐

I am so sorry OP, you knew all along your poor Mum wasn’t well.

I am so sorry OP to read your heartbreaking update, I’m holding you and your mum in my thoughts and prayers🙏🏻 I hope you and your family have support and comfort during this awful time 💔🫂

I’m so, so sorry for your poor Mum and for you and your family. The NHS has behaved disgracefully.

I’m so sorry to read your update OP. When you’re feeling stronger i hope you can complain to PALS - sounds like the hospital has been horrendous.

I’m so sorry that it is not a better outcome. sending you and your family much love.

💔

Sorry for the news OP.

So sorry - you did your best OP.

So very sorry OP 😞 💔

I'm so sorry OP. What awful news.

So very sorry to read this update OP, absolutely tragic news, your Mum is only in her sixties, and she has been treated so badly while waiting for a diagnosis . It’s heartbreaking.

I’m so sorry to read this update. Sending you all the “remote” support I can. This time last year we were three weeks away with my own mum from the situation you’re in now - and we had no idea what was about to happen.

We didn’t quite as long a wait in A&E as you TBF, but still when she, and we, were told 48 hours later that she had a few weeks left, the shock was just, well. I can’t even describe it. It still shocks us all nearly a year later. We keep wondering if we missed something but I can’t see what. And we’ve gone over and over it so many times. So keep that in mind for yourself: it just happens and it’s not necessarily anything you could have prevented.

The other thing I wanted to say is that although it is very, very hard to go through this, hopefully now you’ll get help, so that she’s not in pain. That’s the most important thing now, and we found the palliative care team were fantastic. I think it was Marie Curie but that was just who were sent to us. I think that’s who has the NHS contract in Northern Ireland. I’m sure MacMillan are fine too. But the palliative care people really have a handle on everything in a way the GP or even the hospital, despite doing their best, just didn’t.

All my very best to you and your mum. 💔💐

Heartbreaking outcome OP, so very sorry x
Sending lots of love, strength and hugs to you, your beautiful mum and your family as you go through this awful time xx

Be proud of fighting for her care the way you all did x

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. Sending you so much love and strength xx

I’m so sorry my lovely. Life is so cruel. Be with your darling mum as much as you can & try & make her last times as comfortable & as happy as you can.
sending virtual hugs.
After the worse happens raise merry hell. This is absolutely atrocious & whilst I disagree with suing the NHS lessons must be learnt here.
so so sorry for you. Ax