She's dying isn't she?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

OP, I am so sorry to read this. I am also sorry for everything you’ve been through with this, your instinct was right all along and you weren’t listened to. Be with your lovely mum as much as possible. X

Sending love, I am so sorry x

I’m so sorry OP, what an awful shock. The only small comfort in this is that now she has a diagnosis they can ramp up the pain meds to keep her more comfortable. I hope she stays calm and out of discomfort. Wishing you strength and the courage you need.

So sorry about the news and sending you all love.
My experience of palliative care is that hearing is one of the last senses to go so a great playlist and chatting about enjoyable experiences really helped us to believe we were helping our loved one - and they smiled a lot (mostly to the music rather than us recalling Aunty X's embarrassing portaloo moment whilst camping for the gazillionth time).
Strength to you in this difficult and horrible time...sometimes life sucks

I’m so bloody sorry.

Hold her hand and tell her you love her. She’ll hear you and know you’re there with her.

So very sorry OP. And after all you and your Mum have gone through.
Sending you courage for the days ahead

Agree. It's horrible.

I'm so, so sorry, OP.

Op I am so sorry to read your update.

We had similar last year with my mum. She had been diagnosed with 4(?) back to back chest infections that antibiotics weren’t shifting and constant diarrhoea. Like your poor mum she discharged herself from A&E after having to sit painfully on plastic chairs, generally treated like a hypochondriac, to then collapse on Christmas Day and then finally scanned to show she was riddled with cancer.

Awful all around.

look after yourself, I dug out our whole garden in January as I didn’t know what to do with myself outside of visiting hours. It surprisingly helped to take my mind of things.

I’m so sorry OP 💕

Very sorry to hear this OP, praying for you and your Mum.

So sorry x

I am so so sorry to read this, heartbreaking the poor battle ur mum has had, this should never have to happen. Our NHS is floored i work in health care, and the weeks coming will be the hardest but do what u can to support you all. If a hospice Is an option please think about it the care is amazing and personal. Please be kind to yourself. Thinking and send love to u all xx

Sending hugs xxxx

Please read the OP's latest update.

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear your update. Thinking of you and your family. Please be kind to yourself x

I am very sorry to read your update @McSteamyorMcdreamyand sending love and comfort to you and your mum and all your family x

I have been following this thread, bless you and your mum. You’ve done everything you could to. I’ve walked in your shoes, so I understand how you feel. Take comfort that your mum is no longer in pain, and look after yourself x

I am so sorry to hear this. It’s awful you have had to fight so much to have her treated also. It’s criminals

Sorry OP. Take care of her and I hope you have people to take care of you x

So sorry 😔

I’m so so sorry.
You knew though didn’t you. Twelve days ago you knew yet the incompetence shown by so many staff to get to this point -what a waste of the last 12 days.
Honestly the NHS is dreadful -I’m sending love and hope as a family you can all pull together in this hard time.

Oh, McS, my heart bleeds for you.
I know it's a lot while this is hitting you & your family like a tonne of bricks, but try what you can to get her into a hospice if there is one in your area. They're experts in palliative care - & in supporting families.

So sorry OP. Hope that your DM receives the care and is treated with the dignity she deserves

So very sorry xx

I echo this.