She's dying isn't she?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

So so sorry for you and your whole family.
Please take care of each other and hug each other tight 🩵🩵🩵

@McSteamyorMcdreamy

So sorry for your Mum’s situation. It’s so hard but you can be there for her and love her with all you’ve got.

Oh OP, that's the worst news, you must be reeling. Look after yourself and wishing your Mum a peaceful journey

I'm so sorry OP, I hope she's comfortable and you've got some family/friends to support you both.

OP - i’m so sorry to hear that. At the outset, there didn’t really seem to be any basis for your supposition that your mother was dying but your instinct was correct. It’s very hard to face losing a parent and this does seem to have been very sudden. Hopefully there are people who can be with you IRL. It’s about the small comforts now - you are with your mum and she is probably as comfortable as she could possibly be in the circumstances.

I’m so sorry to read this update. Been there with my dad. Remember to look after yourself as well. Once palliative were involved it was much easier for my dad to be pain free. X

I’m so sorry. Like others, I’ve been following since you first posted and have been refreshing for an update whilst hoping for positive news.

You should be proud of the way you’ve advocated for your mum- without you she’d still be in pain and being humiliated by her circumstances. My mum passed due to a liver problem - 6 months from diagnosis to death. I had to advocate really strongly at the end and my complaint included the words ‘your denying my mother a dignified death’ Hopefully, whilst you’re in hospital it won’t come to that. My only consolation is that because we knew the end was near, there was nothing left unsaid and my mum knew how very loved she was.

I know the words “I’m thinking of you” can be used too often to hold any significance. But please know, there’s a whole army of women out here holding you and your mum in our hearts.
Take care. And please, if there’s anything us army of strangers (but supporters) can do for you - just say

So very sorry. Wishing you strength in the days to come.

I'm sorry. It wont be any consolation but the poor care will not have made any significant difference. At least now she will be out of pain.

I have also been following and am very sorry to hear the update - although suspected that would be the case when you mentioned the shadow on the scan. You’ve had a terrible shock and may still have some emotional ups and downs to come. As another poster has said, you’ve done a lot to advocate for her. Sadly too many people get cancer diagnoses via an emergency presentation to A&E. It is often a shocking way to digest and take in the news as people often are expecting treatment for something else and it just hits so hard. I hope you can get some support from this thread and in real life.

So sorry OP, I've been through something similar with my dad, please lodge a safeguarding concern with PALS when you feel ready : sat in A&E for hours and given nothing but paracetamol. Awful.

I'm sorry.
My father was palliative care in hospital. As previous people have said the hearing is the last to go, chatting all day is hard so I had the radio on and podcasts of his fav radio comedy shows. Don't underestimated your presence, it will be of comfort.

Take care .

I am very sorry @McSteamyorMcdreamy . I hope your mum is as comfortable as possible and that you can all support each other to come to terms with this shocking news.

💔

I am so sorry. Hold in mind that you fought for her to be somewhere she will be made comfortable

Oh love.

We're going through similar with MIL. Please be kind to yourself.

They will be moving heaven and earth to ensure she's pain free and comfortable.

Make sure you have something to eat and drink. Speak to your own gp to get something to help you to sleep.

I’m so sorry @McSteamyorMcdreamy . My Ddad’s cancer had metastasised by the time it was discovered (actually in not dissimilar circumstances, come to think of it), so I know how this must have completely floored you.

I hope you now all get some good support from palliative care, and do make use of whatever organisation (eg MacMillan, Maggie’s, local hospice) is available to help support your DM and your family.
Holding your hand through this 💐

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you x

So sorry OP. This resonates with me so much, I went through it 4 years ago. I hope she remains comfortable. Sending you loads of strength 💐 x

Edited: I didn’t see your update until I posted. Sending you love and strength at this time. So sorry

I have too. The palliative care team was amazing. Love to you, OP.

I’m so sorry op, sending love xx

I am so sorry. Thinking of you.

Just read your update, I'm so so sorry

I'm so sorry 💐❤️