Is this a good result?

[underthetrees1234]

New poster. DD (21) plead guilty for perverting course of justice. Three charges, concurrent etc. First offence, MH issues etc and she got 18 months suspended for 18 months and 12 month Mental health treatment requirement. I didn’t have chance to ask solicitor/ barrister what he thought on result but I just think this seems a little harsh? I thought a community order. I won’t go into much detailed but she told multiple lies etc to police. NO one was arrested as a result of her lies. she had MH issues. Probation recommend community order so I I think this seems harsh tbh. Any one any experience.

Sounds like both need help really. Enabling a lie about having cancer is quite deeply into a situation.

You need to report your own thread and ask for it to be deleted. OP I truly hope you let go of the shame and guilt you carry for this and get some proper help. You deserve to have peace and firm knowledge that this isn't your fault. =

The OP is chose to lie about her daughter's cancer. That is on her.

She sounds like an absolute menace.

Of course, there are reasons for that though and that's something to explore and learn from in the safety of therapy, not a public internet forum. You think OP is going to feel safe enough to open up to a professional if she's getting this level of slating on here? I think she's got the idea, it's really bad whats happened. Probably better to make her feel like its ok to reach out for help dont you think?

Op is complicit in her daughter’s antics.

I think the punishment seems very lenient to be perfectly honest. They have taken her mental health into great consideration.

I didn't say she wasnt. This was one of many of my comments.

I can understand why you clung on to the recommendation from the Probation Service, but it was probably not realistic to think a custodial sentence wasn’t a likely option.

The sentencing guidelines for the offence are most entirely custodial sentences. It would only be if she had the least possible culpability and caused the least possible harm that a community order should have been in range of the guidelines (and even then it’s only the bottom of the least culpable/least harm range, a custodial sentence is still on the cards).

Sounds like your DD engaged in a sustained and committed campaign to try to use the police against other people and with allegations that can have very serious repercussions for the people accused. So she wouldn’t have fallen into the least culpable category, despite the mental health mitigation.

I agree with a previous poster about the recommendation to try and get yourself some therapy. Some of what you post sounds like you are probably enabling her and your distress is obvious. Therapy should be able to help with this. I would look for a therapist who uses a range of modalities/techniques. You need to have some counseling first and work out what the problems are and what you’re going to work on before you look at things like CBT to help change things.