Is this a good result?

[underthetrees1234]

New poster. DD (21) plead guilty for perverting course of justice. Three charges, concurrent etc. First offence, MH issues etc and she got 18 months suspended for 18 months and 12 month Mental health treatment requirement. I didn’t have chance to ask solicitor/ barrister what he thought on result but I just think this seems a little harsh? I thought a community order. I won’t go into much detailed but she told multiple lies etc to police. NO one was arrested as a result of her lies. she had MH issues. Probation recommend community order so I I think this seems harsh tbh. Any one any experience.

Cancer if your lieing about that you cant get any lower. (disgusting)
You both sound like a right pair.

Stop petting her up and put her in her place.

I know she’s done wrong I know ok. And past abused doesn’t excuse it. I am at a loss I love her so much.

Are you lieing about the cancer?

She knows I am not happy with her. Put I will never abandon her or chuck her out. Would you seriously do that your child. Lots of people cover for their kids for worse.

You're also lying about her having cancer? That's disgusting.

No, I’m not lieing about the cancer. She generally has physically health issues just not cancer. When I found out she didn’t have it I told family members she’s gone in remission.

No, as soon as I found. I said gone into remission. I know that’s wrong but I couldn’t say she lied.

I know the cancer stuff is disgusting ok. She didn’t benefit anything from it didn’t do it for money etc. she is exceptionally vulnerable and troubled.

So, you also lie? Which shows her that it is a good thing?

You mean, yes, you did lie. She cannot go into remission from something she never had. You seem to keep minimizing what she does and try to protect her from any consequences.

Yes. I said she had gone into remission ok.

Well it's clear where she gets it from!

That is a lie.

Is this even real because its sounding a bit sus?

Yes this is real. Don’t know how I’d prove it but it’s real. I am not a troll.

I’d have said she’s incredibly lucky.

If it`s real you both sound like a pair of attention seekers.
And Lying about cancer is just awful.
See where she gets it from.
Are you both that lonely you have to lie to people.
You and your daughter need help.
And stop blaming the past and MH for what you and her are doing and have done.
Disgusting think of the ones your daughter has hurt over lies and you petting her up for it.

So that's lying about cancer... you're really not helping her to be honest

If you love your child then stop enabling her lying. Speak to your GP about getting some therapy for yourself to help you be an more effective person in her life rather than just petting her and endorsing her lies. We just lost my Dad to cancer, my Mum is soon having surgery to remove a cancerous lumpa dn it's been hell. The idea of someone lying about that makes me sick.

Yes you are lying about her having cancer. Telling people she has gone into remission is a lie if she didn't have it in the first place. You need to wise up. You have lied on her behalf to your family.

Then stop lying for her. Adults need to face the consequence of their own actions. Her MH problems are hers to deal with. She needs professional help not you covering for her.

I think she's been very, very lucky and hope she manages to get the mental health support she needs.

I work within the prison system and know people who have custodial sentences for perverting course of justice and false allegations

OP please get yourself the therapy instead. Theres a lot of shame and guilt that comes with having a child like this and you need support. You can't help someone else when you're not doing well yourself. Ask for a referral to your mental health services, talking therapy can help a ton. If your DD has those diagnosis she will already be known to a mental health team and would need to engage with them, which she clearly hasn't been and you can't change that.

You are doing her no favours at all in colluding with her lies.

She needs to take responsibility for her own actions and consequences.

Tbh OP also needs to tread carefully with this, otherwise she may end up with a suspended sentence for colluding with this person's lies.