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AIBU?

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please can someone tell me who's being weird here!

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:44

I posted a while back (have name changed since I think) about DP's attitude to food (washing pre-packed lettuce to be specific!).

We went away last weekend on Saturday afternoon and came back on Sunday afternoon. Before we left, we made a jug of real coffee and left the jug in kitchen overnight.

When we came back, I poured out the rest of the coffee, added milk, and, before putting it in the microwave to heat, I took a small sip as the mug was very full. DP shouted in amazement and looked totally horrified. He started ranting about 'don't you know the germs you'll have picked up from doing that'

I then mentioned that - funny that - it was him and most of our friends who came down with a stomach virus a week earlier, but I breezed through without catching anything, despite the fact this virus is apparently highly contagious.

This is messing with my head! I keep the house clean and I really don't think I'm unhygenic, but he's making me doubt myself...

Am i being unreasonable paranoid?

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cornsilk · 06/06/2008 20:45

He does sound a bit OTT.

Desiderata · 06/06/2008 20:47

What are his parents like? This sort of germ paranoia is usually inherited from childhood.

ConnorTraceptive · 06/06/2008 20:48

Reheated coffee [boak] but only from a taste point of view doubt you're likely to come down with disentry.

Some people are just odd about these things. DH's family are freaks about hotel bedding

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:49

I've never noticed anything out of the ordinary with parents. His sister and DP are lovely and laid back.

I know it sounds like a silly post, but it's making me doubt my judgement as to what's okay and what's not!

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Shitemum · 06/06/2008 20:49

I wash pre-packed lettuce (the once or twice a year I have it) because I imagine the industrial wishy-washing it's had and it doesnt inspire confidence.
You shouldn't re-heat coffee as it makes the oils in it 20 times worse for your colesterol levels...or something.

Can you guess I'm the 'weird' one in our house?!

bluewolf · 06/06/2008 20:50

Does he do lots of cleaning and stuff around the house as well or just freak out that you'haven't done it properly'?

LuckySalem · 06/06/2008 20:50

He's over the top. My DP is like that and went nuts at me for giving DD a spoon to play with that I had rested on her highchair!!

"she'll put it in her mouth, there'll be lots of germs"

It had been sterilised and the highchair had been wiped with those germ killing wips

I think it really depends on how you're raised. I'm like you wigparty. Dp gets ill on anything and I breeze through all his bouts of "foodpoisoning" I'm sure its cos I was left to play with anything I wanted and it's how I intend to raise DD

FrannyandZucchini · 06/06/2008 20:50

I dunno, I am maybe a bit funny about things like this sometimes so am loath to condemn him
you should wash prepacked lettuce, though, they wash it in horrible crap

Katisha · 06/06/2008 20:50

I wash pre packed lettuce! It's all chloriny! But I don't have a problem with the cup one!

funnypeculiar · 06/06/2008 20:50

I would wash pre-washed salad - but to remove the chlorine & other foulness that most of them are washed in, not to clean it...

BEAUTlFUL · 06/06/2008 20:51

You should wash pre-packed lettuce (although I'm lazy and forget to), as it can have lots of chemicals like bleach! honest in it. And I wouldn't have had day-old coffee. Not because of germs, just because it would be nasty.

However, I'm more like you than your DH, and, like you, I never get ill.

calsworld · 06/06/2008 20:52

I wash all salad after buying a bag of pre-washed, ready to eat watercress to find a live fly inside the packet! Got a £10 return on my 64pence bag of salad - but haven't been able to eat watercress since.

Your DH sounds like mine - he's obsessed too. I don't think there's anything wrong with what you did because we're talking about black coffee...if it was dairy based I think that would be different.

TotalChaos · 06/06/2008 20:52

I would have been grossed out by the day old coffee, but I wouldn't have ranted, would just think - your body, your choice of risk iyswim.

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:53

bluewolf, luckily not. All housework etc. is down to be and I do a damn fine job and he's grateful!

Luckysalem it's odd isn't it. I wouldn't even say I was sailing close to the wind with sipping cold coffee but his reaction was bizarre (nothing to do with cholesterol levels btw, pure germ perspective).

Like Luckysalem said, he's the one who's come down with all sorts, while all I've had for the last 3 years is 2 colds.

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ConnorTraceptive · 06/06/2008 20:53

I don't think you should doubt yourself to much.

If I doubted myself according to in laws standards I would take my own pillows and duvets to 5 star hotels. They are incredulous that anyone would do otherwise

Doodle2U · 06/06/2008 20:53

Sounds a bit OTT to me. My DH is like this with rice....I am well aware that cooked rice can harbour all kinds of nasties but DH is manic about it!

I'd wash the lettuce though - same reason as other posters have stated.

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:53

It was black coffee, I still don't understand the problem

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BEAUTlFUL · 06/06/2008 20:53

My DH is here now with his weekly Man Flu.

I could eat the bin and live.

francagoestohollywood · 06/06/2008 20:54

I'm not bothered by people sipping from my cup etc.
I don't usually re-heat coffee because I don't like the taste.
But I do rinse pre-washed salad, they use chemicals to wash it.

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:55

Lol Conor!

I was actually just chuckling to myself that I'd actually started this thread about really what is something quite trivial!

I just wanted to get other people's take on it.

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LuckySalem · 06/06/2008 20:55

Don't doubt yourself. If I were you, do what I do. When he's around make a fuss of making sure you sterilise EVERYTHING. I poured BOILING HOT water on the cooker top the other day while he was there and made a point of saying ouch ouch all the time (wasn't that hot by the time I touched it ) when he asked why I was doing it if it was so hot I said "well it has to be sterilised properly hasn't it, in case DD catches something from it"

[evil woman]

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:56

Oh and thanks all for the lettuce advice - I got pretty much the same feedback from the last time I've posted so have reformed and now wash it (DP very happy )

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wannaBe · 06/06/2008 20:56

connorTraceptive there was a piece in the news once about hotel bedding and all the various things it contained .

to the op, could your dp have OCD?

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wigparty · 06/06/2008 20:58

Wannabe I did wonder that, but he shows no sign of OCD in other areas (his studio is a health hazard but a no-go area for me re cleaning as I'll 'move something vital'!).

If OCD can manifest itself in a very limited area, then perhaps he has?

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ConnorTraceptive · 06/06/2008 20:58

Oh I'm sure if you looked under a microscope it would be hidious but if going away from stress's you out that much then why bother??

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