‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

OMG, I worked with a young woman who did that. She'd go to Tesco at lunchtime and bring back a whole hot cooked chicken and pick it apart at her desk.

So you'd cook meat for everybody and not be in the least bothered if some of your guests left hungry? I've often read threads from people who've been provided with sod all to eat over Christmas for reasons like yours and I've always wondered who these determined carnivorous hosts were. It seems I've now found one.

If dsis is so bothered she can offer up her portion of meat.

I agree. I love vegetables of any description (well ok - not chard or okra) and hate it when they're smothered in oil or honey or butter or dressings.

Not even to boil it after for soup? After the first time I’d definitely make a point of saying before people arrive “and please don’t run off with our leftovers - if you’re still hungry there’s cheese and crackers.”

Gluten free isn’t a choice, eating the way this guy dies is an absolute choice.

My DS could be described in the same way but if he’s a guest, he eats what’s put down to him, and will make up his ridiculous amounts of protein later on.

Your sister is nuts! He may not even be aware she’s asked this of you!

I'm not a fan of turkey soup so perhaps it's just as well that he did take it home for a cuddle!

How many have you got coming? 2 chickens and gammon is enough meat for at least 12? Unless you are more than that, I would just crack on with what you were going to do and I'm sure it will work out fine.

He can’t politely eat a normal meal for the sake of good manners?

Surely you just plate up what everyone else is having and he’s welcome to have as much of the meat leftover as he likes

Is sister desperately trying to stay in the good books of her daughter and future son-in-law here? Is it a case of trying to be a perfect mother-in-law? And not seeing how insane it is to insist that a lot of extra chicken is provided because of his dietary peculiarities? Does she do penis portions and thinks all men should get the best bits?
It must be costing her a fortune if she is expected to cater to his whims every time she sees him.

I think it’s down right rude and the OP doesn’t need to provide so much meat. Also meat in my family is the best bit. If I cooked a plateful “piled high” for one person, the others would want more. Meat is expensive!!

surely nobody goes to a new family members house and expects a massive pile of meat?! He can eat what he’s given and then if he needs more protein he can eat more when he gets home.

I meant stock not soup! Oops

Yep. You’d think. He may not expect it anyway. This may just be the sister trying to pander to it.

Feel free to decline invitations where someone else cooks what they fancy for you. The problem will probably resolve itself then over time.

Jeez the whole chicken update is giving me vibes of old fashioned cartoons where Tom or Wile E Coyote or whoever would sit at a table with a whole creature on a plate in front of them before tying a tablecloth as a bib round their neck

I'd provide extra and then use it as leftovers if if didn't all get eaten. I wouldn't mind as an occasional thing.

If you were having a dinner party and mentioned you were serving oysters for starters, fish and veg for main and some pudding, and your guest said he was on the shellfish diet and would just pile up his plate with the oysters… would you be meant to provide him with a heap of oysters!? Surely not. Isn’t this the same thing.

I just find this so anti social. If you're bothered and don't want to eat carbs, then decline the invite, don't make special demands for you dinner so it suits you. It's rude.

Or eat a bunch of meat before you get there!

Actually, you know, I've never tried turkey stock or soup, thinking about it. My mum always said it was too strong and she only made it for Christmas to feed everyone, so I actually have no idea whether I like it or not!

I do exactly that - whack some frozen veg in a saucepan for 10 minutes!

I think honey on veg is REALLY weird!

My children have tried this 'because they need the protein'

They have been told very clearly that complex carbohydrates, vitamins and minerals are all equally important and will be gracing their plates.

I get high protein diet - but when you are meeting someone for the first time, especially if you are not closely related it's not the time to start making costly demands on your host.

SIS needs to keep her beak out - she's not cooking, not paying and doesn't get to dictate to you in your own home.

As for 'he can bring a chicken' - no he can't. This is one meal. He can adjust his macros at his other meals to hit his protein target.

I agree. This nonsense may not be driven by him at all. The likelihood is that he’s a decent guy who will just turn up and grateful for what he’s given. If he was being very strict diet wise, he would be unlikely to accept the invitation as he would be weighing/tracking his food.

Not if he's eating shedloads of fresh meat - that's anti-scorbutic.