Would you have told this woman that half her bum was hanging out?

[CalonHapus]

DW and I were at a train station on Saturday which was full of people dressed up for Halloween. A bit ahead of us were two women whose costumes incorporated extremely short skirts. The woman on the left had got her skirt just long enough to cover everything but the woman on the right had the lower half of her bum showing.

DW wanted to say something to her, as she was worried she might not be aware and would appreciate being told. I said I didn't think this was a good idea, as she might have deliberately worn her skirt that short and therefore might react badly to someone bringing it up like it's a bad thing.

We ended up just carrying on to our train and not saying anything. Was I in the wrong to persuade DW not to get involved?

YABU - you should have said something to the woman

YANBU - you were right not to get involved

What, even the skanky ones?

Your internalised mysogyny is showing xx

I had a feeling OP was a woman and checked with her, but I don't think it's necessarily wrong to assume a poster talking about their wife on a mainly female forum is likely male. The vast majority of threads are still about heterosexual relationships. Yes, ideally people will always check but I don't think it hurts men to assume a poster is male.

I saw on woman posing for a photo on the walls of Dubrovnik. The photographer was at her side, but I was walking up the hill towards her and saw right up her skirt. Definitely no knickers! I really didn't want to see that on my holiday - I considered telling her, but what exactly would I say? "Please keep your privates private!"?

You assume she didn’t know and it wasn’t intentional? I’d have 100% thought that it was intentional and she couldn’t have not known. There’s a trend amongst the younger generation to wear shorts that expose their ass cheeks, this is just a variation of that.

In the spring I saw a woman walking down the road in what would be best described as a peplum rather than a skirt. She possibly had a thong tucked away there, but her bare bum cheeks were certainly hanging out for the world to see.

It's an unfortunate fashion. I hope it passes quickly.

I would never say anything to anyone about this kind of thing in this day and age. You never know what you'll be accused of.

Given that it's a mainly female forum, I tend to assume everyone here is a woman. Even the ones who mention their wife I tend to assume are gay until they state otherwise.

This is despite being a man on Mumsnet myself. Go figure!

The man was having a conversation with his DW. A man asks a question on MN about a female body and it’s considered inappropriate!

Maybe I am naive!

OP is a woman, not a man.

I think you're a minority.

OK, I'm laughing! Apologies x

Its no-ones business really. I’m sure she knew her arse was hanging out.

Go outside and recreate the look and you will feel that your buttocks are exposed without actually seeing them!

Of course she knew.

No I wouldn’t have and would have assumed it was deliberate

I love how self righteous this is while also being arrogantly heteronormative.

The misogyny is staggering.

I'm pretty sure this is the fashion at the moment? We get it loads here, and have done for months.

On a mainly female forum why not assume female?

Oooh, I remember being one of these a few years ago! Always had an absolute blast, wish I could go back in time for a night & do it all again...

DW isn't an 'old dear' 😂 And she was concerned for the woman, not judging her.

But yeah, maybe we have been 'living under a rock' because neither of us were aware that this particular look is in fashion at the moment.

(And, to be clear, I'm not judging either. Not least because when I was a teenager, the fashion was to wear very low rise jeans with your thong showing...)

DW wasn't trying to 'police what women wear' - she assumed the woman hadn't realised and wanted to let her know. Neither she nor I were judging her.

Yes, I was going to mention Liverpool. I assume it IS a fashion, even though it looks bloody awful. I always just think about the poor person who has to sit in the seat they've just vacated....

Where are you getting 'moral outrage' from?