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To flash at middle lane huggers?

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WhatMummyMakesSheEats · 02/11/2025 16:33

it really angers me how many people don’t know how to drive on the motorway. Especially the M25.

Why are there so many people who just sit in the middle lane and don’t move over? I don’t want to undertake people. So if I’m being made to slow down by a middle lane hogger I’ll flash at them to move over. More often than not they will move to the outside lane, so they obviously know where they should be?!

I do want to add that I also hate people who weave and undertake but I think they are just aggressive drivers and also if no one hogged the middle lane they wouldn’t be able to!

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DappledThings · 03/11/2025 18:08

RedToothBrush · 03/11/2025 18:05

It's the OVERTAKING lanes, NOT the fast lanes which the flashers fail to grasp. If you are screeching up the back end of someone and flashing you aren't reading the road well.

But we aren't talking about flashing while tailgating. I am talking about flashing twats in the middle lane as I sail past their rear moving from lane 1 to 3 in one move before coming back across their bows from 3 to 1.

RedToothBrush · 03/11/2025 18:08

NerrSnerr · 03/11/2025 18:06

People are agreeing that you shouldn’t be driving up someone’s arse- of course you shouldn’t. But that still doesn’t change that people should not hog the middle lane- which is what this thread is about!

Read the quoted post before. There are enough people who seem to think that driving at 50-60mph in the middle lane shouldn't be done full stop.

They seem to think everyone should be driving at 70mph (or above) or they shouldn't either be on the motorway and especially not in anything other than the 1st lane.

And they think flashing aggressively is ok.

It's not.

DappledThings · 03/11/2025 18:15

There are enough people who seem to think that driving at 50-60mph in the middle lane shouldn't be done full stop
They shouldn't be. Unless lane 1 is only moving at 50 because otherwise they can't be using lane 2 at that speed and actually overtaking.

If lane 1 is moving at 50 then it is congested and the usual rules about changing lanes are suspended. As a PP pointed out there are often signs telling you specifically to stay inane in those circumstances. But that's still irrelevant to the conversation as that doesn’t make them a MLH.

SoubbG · 03/11/2025 18:16

RedToothBrush · 03/11/2025 18:08

Read the quoted post before. There are enough people who seem to think that driving at 50-60mph in the middle lane shouldn't be done full stop.

They seem to think everyone should be driving at 70mph (or above) or they shouldn't either be on the motorway and especially not in anything other than the 1st lane.

And they think flashing aggressively is ok.

It's not.

Do you mean the person who said:

Middle lane hoggers driving at less than 60mph are a pain in the backside if you are towing a trailer. You can’t use the outer lane to get round them.?

If so, they specifically talk about “middle lane hoggers”. Not middle lane overtakers. A middle lane overtaker will pull back into lane 1 when finished so the person quoted above can then get past. Middle lane hoggers will not do that. So that person behind with the trailer will never ever be able to get past them.

NerrSnerr · 03/11/2025 18:29

RedToothBrush · 03/11/2025 18:08

Read the quoted post before. There are enough people who seem to think that driving at 50-60mph in the middle lane shouldn't be done full stop.

They seem to think everyone should be driving at 70mph (or above) or they shouldn't either be on the motorway and especially not in anything other than the 1st lane.

And they think flashing aggressively is ok.

It's not.

I read through the quote history and they said ‘middle lane hoggers going 60’. That’s the issue- not people who are overtaking. There are so many drivers who join the motorway, go straight to the middle and do not move until their exit. They’re the issue.

Redpeach · 03/11/2025 18:31

DappledThings · 03/11/2025 18:08

But we aren't talking about flashing while tailgating. I am talking about flashing twats in the middle lane as I sail past their rear moving from lane 1 to 3 in one move before coming back across their bows from 3 to 1.

With such 'superior driving abilities, could you not just get yourself home without harassing other drivers?

MyLimeGuide · 03/11/2025 18:34

SoubbG · 03/11/2025 08:55

But others HAVE seen it where lanes 2 and 3 are clogged up and 1 is empty. I have seen it. And I’ve also been driving for many years. Let’s take the photo here (that I also posted above). Ok it’s not the busiest road going. But similar to what I see often. Let’s say the middle lane are driving at 58mph. That white car that’s very visible in lane 3 is overtaking them. Technically no problem there. He’s using the lane correctly. However he is driving at 60mph. Only 2mph faster than those in lane 2. It will take him ages to clear all those middle lane drivers. Can you not see how lane 3 will now be getting clogged up? With everyone trying to get round those incorrectly driving in lane 2? If all those cars driving at 58mph moved over, white car could be overtaking in lane 2 at 60mph, leaving those who wish to overtake him with lane 3. As it stands, white car (while driving correctly) is still causing a hold up in lane 3. But it is those who are driving in lane 2s fault. Because it is now a 2 lane motorway with everyone driving at a maximum of 60mph.

Yes in this single snap shot things look crazy.

Chinsupmeloves · 03/11/2025 18:35

The middle lane is meant for overtaking only so we're all doing it wrong these days!

NerrSnerr · 03/11/2025 18:37

Chinsupmeloves · 03/11/2025 18:35

The middle lane is meant for overtaking only so we're all doing it wrong these days!

No we’re all not. Many of us still only use it for overtaking. If the left hand lane is going 58mph with the lorries and there’s a stream of traffic in that lane you can drive in the middle lane as long as you’re making progress. Once a gap appears on the left you move back over. That is how most people drive- it’s the ones who don’t do that who this thread is about

DappledThings · 03/11/2025 18:48

Redpeach · 03/11/2025 18:31

With such 'superior driving abilities, could you not just get yourself home without harassing other drivers?

I remain in hope that they might cop on and realise they are behaving twattishly and stop being a MLH next time. It's worth a try.

EngineerIngHappiness · 03/11/2025 18:50

WhatMummyMakesSheEats · 02/11/2025 16:33

it really angers me how many people don’t know how to drive on the motorway. Especially the M25.

Why are there so many people who just sit in the middle lane and don’t move over? I don’t want to undertake people. So if I’m being made to slow down by a middle lane hogger I’ll flash at them to move over. More often than not they will move to the outside lane, so they obviously know where they should be?!

I do want to add that I also hate people who weave and undertake but I think they are just aggressive drivers and also if no one hogged the middle lane they wouldn’t be able to!

Sometimes I can't get out of the middle lane because of people like you driving up my arse and flashing. I'm waiting for a safe gap to move.

KeepYaHeadUp · 03/11/2025 18:54

I’m not sure about flashing but I do enjoy the passive aggressive two-lane overtake then moving back over to the inside lane right in front of them. Honestly, most people on motorways these days behave like mouth breathers. They’re utterly oblivious to their surroundings.

xanthomelana · 03/11/2025 19:00

RedToothBrush · 03/11/2025 18:08

Read the quoted post before. There are enough people who seem to think that driving at 50-60mph in the middle lane shouldn't be done full stop.

They seem to think everyone should be driving at 70mph (or above) or they shouldn't either be on the motorway and especially not in anything other than the 1st lane.

And they think flashing aggressively is ok.

It's not.

Even lorries are going faster than 50mph in the inside lane. Why would you drive slower in the middle lane than those on the inside?

PineappleCoconut · 03/11/2025 19:03

What about the overtaking/fast lane hoggers?
I learnt to drive in Germany, and was told to put your inductor on to signal you are coming through 😉

Annoyeddd · 03/11/2025 19:07

I get annoyed when going along in the "second" lane on M25 and get tailgated and flashed for going at under 70mph when the left hand lane is actually the feeder lane for the M1or other major turn off so actually a different road.
Also happens on M6 when taking the third lane for the toll road or the turn off for Tunbridge Wells on the M25.
People have no patience

VivienneDelacroix · 03/11/2025 19:11

Tits? Or arse? Arse would be quite dangerous if you're driving, but tits I can see might be more doable.

StrongLikeMamma · 03/11/2025 20:23

Annoyeddd · 03/11/2025 19:07

I get annoyed when going along in the "second" lane on M25 and get tailgated and flashed for going at under 70mph when the left hand lane is actually the feeder lane for the M1or other major turn off so actually a different road.
Also happens on M6 when taking the third lane for the toll road or the turn off for Tunbridge Wells on the M25.
People have no patience

Anyone who tailgates and flashes should have their license removed.

LionelMushroom · 03/11/2025 20:24

I’m with you, middle lane hogging motorway driving is very irritating. (I was following a person on the M25 once who decided on an almost empty motorway - it occasionally happens! - that lane 4 doing 60mph was the thing to do (daylight, dry and perfect conditions) 😡)

2Rebecca · 03/11/2025 20:33

It depends what the point of the flashing is. Flashing and tailgating may just encourage the driver to be bloody minded and slow down in the middle lane. It also depends on how full the left hand lane is. Most people don’t change lanes just for 10 seconds. Weaving in and out of lanes when it is busy is more dangerous than slowly overtaking. I just overtake if 3 lanes. Other people’s poor driving is not my problem. If only 2 lanes and an empty left lane I may flash

StrongLikeMamma · 03/11/2025 20:34

2Rebecca · 03/11/2025 20:33

It depends what the point of the flashing is. Flashing and tailgating may just encourage the driver to be bloody minded and slow down in the middle lane. It also depends on how full the left hand lane is. Most people don’t change lanes just for 10 seconds. Weaving in and out of lanes when it is busy is more dangerous than slowly overtaking. I just overtake if 3 lanes. Other people’s poor driving is not my problem. If only 2 lanes and an empty left lane I may flash

I deliberately wouldn’t move if you flashed. I may even slow down. So RUDE!

WhatMummyMakesSheEats · 03/11/2025 20:42

2Rebecca · 03/11/2025 20:33

It depends what the point of the flashing is. Flashing and tailgating may just encourage the driver to be bloody minded and slow down in the middle lane. It also depends on how full the left hand lane is. Most people don’t change lanes just for 10 seconds. Weaving in and out of lanes when it is busy is more dangerous than slowly overtaking. I just overtake if 3 lanes. Other people’s poor driving is not my problem. If only 2 lanes and an empty left lane I may flash

Yes I’d be flashing to encourage them to move over if I had nowhere else to go due to the next lane being full with a car/cars overtaking me. I would not tailgate someone (so dangerous) and that isn’t part of my AIBU.

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Redpeach · 03/11/2025 20:56

LionelMushroom · 03/11/2025 20:24

I’m with you, middle lane hogging motorway driving is very irritating. (I was following a person on the M25 once who decided on an almost empty motorway - it occasionally happens! - that lane 4 doing 60mph was the thing to do (daylight, dry and perfect conditions) 😡)

So if the motorway's nearly empty, you've got loads of space?

WhatMummyMakesSheEats · 03/11/2025 20:58

Redpeach · 03/11/2025 20:56

So if the motorway's nearly empty, you've got loads of space?

Why are you trying so hard to justify driving objectively wrong?

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bumptybum · 03/11/2025 21:15

SoubbG · 03/11/2025 08:21

Here’s a picture I found online to give you an example. So you’re happily driving in lane one at 70mph. Lane 2 up ahead looks like this and everyone is driving at 60. But lane 3 is also clogged with people doing around 62. So your choices are: slow down to under 60 and stay in lane 1. Move to lane 2 (if you can) and slow down to try and get into lane 3. Even if you do manage to get into lane 3 you’re still only doing 62mph and barely overtaking anyone because it’s so busy. That motorway is now a 2 lane motorway because of all the people in the middle lane who shouldn’t be there!!

No. You just carry on in lane one at 70. This is not undertaking. Read the Highway Code. Undertaking is a specific act of changing into lane one to pass someone in lane two. You are simply driving at the speed limit down lane one.

it is not for you to artificially slow down. The others are simply in a congested lane.

are you telling me that when lane 2 or 3 stops due to a hold up you stop also even if there is nothing in front of you in lane one?

AgentPidge · 03/11/2025 21:18

You're flashing them to alert them to their error? I don't see how that will let them know their error unless you're flashing a big sign that says MOVE OVER YOU IDIOT. Otherwise it could be about anything - that they have a handbag on the roof, that their wheel is about to fall off... Bad idea. Don't flash people unless you're warning them of a hazard, especially since so many headlights are blinding these days. You're more dangerous than they are.

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