Mounjaro jabs! WWYD

[MangoRose]

I have just started mounjaro jabs and haven't told anyone at all. This may be a really stupid question but would you tell people or just say eating less/exercise. I have recently started at the gym after a long break so it wouldnt be unbelievable I guess.

It feels really deceitful, but then again its no ones business and they shouldn't really ask (IMO).

Do you take offence to everything that’s said that disagrees with you?

I think if someone says to you “I’m really struggling with my weight, how have you lost yours?” and you turn around and say “it’s just diet and exercise!”, knowing full well you’re using a medication that helps you be in a calorie deficit, that’s wrong and deceitful. Why would you not just say “I’m using Mounjaro”? It’s not as if it’s something to be ashamed of?

If you only have half a stone go lose no legitimate pharmacist would sell it to you.

Ditto.

Mothers are impossible.

I have told everyone who has noticed i have lost weight

went out with 3 friends the other day, 2 of the 3 i had already told. I told the 3rd, she has lost loads of weight since January, and explained how they work etc as she seemed very interested.

she dropped my two friends home and as she parked at mine she said that she was on the jabs but has been too embarrassed to tell anyone

i felt a bit of a twat as id been earnestly explaining everything 😀

@SoEasyToFall whether other people feel shit about themselves is out of my control and could be caused by anything that I say or do, as it's about them and their issues, not me going about my business in a reasonable way. I have seen many friends and acquaintances lose weight over the years, through various ways, and not once has that made me feel shit that I haven't managed it. I have no idea if what they say they did to lose the weight was what they actually did, and it's not something I need to or should be expected to know. I was just pleased for them that they had achieved their goal.

I was refused by two providers before managed to get them. They seem quite strict but my friend has a colleague who is tiny and is now extremely thin who has openly said she is on them.

If they ask I just say I’ve changed what and how much I’m eating drastically. It’s not a lie…

I think it’s offensive when a holier than thou poster is preaching about others being deceitful, unfair, wrong or inconsiderate to not share private medical history with everyone yes. As would most normal people. I disagree with you too but you’ve still carried on about how wrong and deceitful you think it is.

Am I not allowed to think that?

I just think it’s a shame that it’s so stigmatised people feel ashamed to say they’re on them. I also think it is unfair to pretend you’ve found a huge load of willpower when you’re using a drug that help you a lot 🤷🏼‍♀️

Who said you’re not allowed to think anything?

It's a personal thing so up to you, but I find that it becomes a major topic of conversation when people start talking about it. I take them and my sister and brother know, but no one else does. I don't engage in talking about other people's weight gain/loss and when people say anything about my weight loss I say nothing and redirect. That's enough for most people, I've only had to be blunt with one person who wouldn't take the hint. I told them 'Its none of your business, I don't talk about my weight with others' and I left it at that.

I don’t pretend I’ve found a huge load of willpower at all. I say i eat less and exercise more and that it’s not easy to do. And that’s only when directly asked by a couple of people who are not close friends who were simply being a bit nosy. Not desperate obese people who wanted to know the secret to my weight loss success and wouldn’t have been able to figure out that WLI are now an option for them unless I specifically told them about them.

I wouldn’t say anything at all.

If someone comments that you’ve lost weight, I’d just say thanks.

They’re nothing to be ashamed of but if it’s making you anxious, just don’t say anything.

I do agree it shouldn't be something to be ashamed of but people always have something to say about stuff like that. I am definitely an over thinker with everything!

Thanks for all your responses, its really helpful and definitely motivating with all your success stories.

@MangoRose I wouldn't tell anyone. There are hundreds of posts on mumset which demonstrate how arsey people are towards people on the jabs, from calling them cheats, calling them lazy, doling out the old use self control trope, good old eat less move more and my personal favourite, the faux "concern" .
It's nobody's business.

Well unless they have lived in a monastery on an uninhabited island, your dueting colleagues can't be unaware of the existence of the jabs. They dont need you to tell them. It's in every news paper.

Its crazy how often people who have put on weight are called lazy. I have found its the opposite, my life is so busy I have got into dreadful habits of eating late at night (convenience food) and going to the gym erratically, many people I know are in a similar situation. I don't sleep enough, I don't say no to doing anything, I also eat too much when working from home more often.

Cheat?
Why is it a competition? Is there a leader board or something I should've cheating my way to the top of?

I took it for 6 months and lost 3.5stone, which was only put on due to a medication I had to have 4 years ago. MJ has got me back to my normal weight and I haven't felt the need to tell anyone. Ive come off it and easily maintaining. When asked, I said I've been eating less (which isn't a lie). It's private medical information and absolutely nobody's business except yours and any medical professionals.

I don’t think it’s fair my colleague has just had a new kitchen and I can’t afford it. They should immediately give me access to their private financial information so I know how they do it.

No one is entitled to another persons financial, emotional, medical, sexual etc information unless they choose to share it. It has nothing to do with “fair”.

I didn't say anything at first but once I got to the point I'd lost seven stone in a year I was honest with anyone who asked. Tbh it's mostly other people who struggle with their weight and I wouldn't want to bullshit them about how I just upped my protein and increased my activity when that's not the full picture.

I agree, its not about fairness, there are lots of things I'd love to be able to do or afford but can't. I feel like the way forward for me will try to steer clear of over explaining unless I feel like I want to disclose.

7 stone is incredible, in only a year too!

"Fatty bashing" 😂

I've been on the jabs since March and down to goal last week!

I don't like lying about them, because that feels to me like something a person would do if they're ashamed of something (which of course I'm not). I also think lying creates a stressful situation, where once you start, you have to keep it up, otherwise people will know you were initially being dishonest. I'd hate to be forever stressing about getting "caught" in the lie, too.

I didn't bring the jabs up in conversation either, mainly because I didn't want to bore people with details of my health / diet. But anytime anyone asked about my losses, I was matter-of-fact and honest. Or if people started talking about the jabs in the general sense, I'd get in quick and say I was on them, because I didn't want an awkward situation where they said something negative about them, then felt embarrassed when they found out I was on them.

Most people I've found, are moderately interested, and ask about them. A handful admit to being on them themselves. A smaller minority still, are judgy. My mum was one such person, but I guess in fairness she has a greater interest than most in my wellbeing. Although she periodically worries about the long-term consequences, she has grown less hostile to the concept of them, the longer I've been on them successfully, with no side effects etc. She grudging now accepts that "they seem to have worked well for you". A couple of the women at work were a bit negative too, under the guise of "being concerned" for me. However, they've become more judgemental the better it's worked. On reflection, I think they were hoping something bad would happen to me, to prove what a "bad" idea it was. The petty side of me actually enjoys their frustration, now I've clocked what's actually going on 😶

So in summary (sorry for the essay!), I think lying is more hassle than it's worth. There might be a thread of people who started at the same time as you, who will no doubt be having these same concerns about now (try "Monjaro September 2025 Starters" or similar). Might be worth having a look for them x