MIL took down all my Halloween decorations 😒😒

[Orchid90]

Just that .
We went out, invited her to come out too , she refused .
Got home and she took down all
the decorations, which I wanted to keep up a bit longer as it’s my house and I like them!
I know , there are bigger problems in the world , but I’m annoyed and had to tell someone .
I would never clear up anyone’s house without their permission .
she made it clear she didn’t like them and I guess they triggered her OCD .
I am gonna have a very very dark gothic Xmas this year, I always wanted a black tree anyway.

So she doesn't have a complex mental health condition then.
Just likes tidying
God I hate how OCD gets trivialised

Am sure it's not just the evil pumpkins..

Same and left them up until the Christmas decs go up.

Why are you not having this conversation with her? Or why isn’t your husband? You need to establish some boundaries or this is going to carry on and cause real resentment.

A person can have OCD but not be diagnosed.

Another wet lettuce incapable of speaking up and sorting a situation like an adult.
i do wonder how half the people who post manage to live as functional adults in the real world

I work with people with severe mental illness, including OCD, and decorations in someone’s house wouldn’t ‘trigger’ OCD. I imagine OP is using the term in an uneducated and frankly offensive way.

And then all of the neighbours join in, giving thanks that it's finally gone

Another 'tell it like it is' person. Sometimes you can be annoyed by something but realise having a confrontation over it might not be the best strategy. It's ok to have a moan about it though.

I agree as she still hasn’t told us if she had a conversation about it with her MIL instead of moaning on here.

Liking things tidy is not OCD.

I would have put the decorations back up and told her firmly that she is not to take down or rearrange things again.

However, if she has a fear of spiders and you had those awful big ones dotted around your home and she has asked you nicely to take them down then that would be something to consider.

I would put it all back out again. Every. Single. Thing. Whilst drinking a big glass of wine. Sod her, what a bloody cheek!

I know, it's infuriating.
I had a really bad stage where if I went out in the car, one of my things was that I couldn't stop returning to check the handbrake was on. I don't mean once or twice, I mean over and over and over. I'd get to the exit and have to walk back. It's better these days, I've learned ways to cope, but "a little bit OCD" because someone likes a tidy house will always make me roll my eyes.

I hate the tacky - and often sinister - displays outside people's houses.

Somebody near us surrounded their front garden with police crime scene/murder tape and when I saw it for the first time (they were one of the first to decorate their house), I thought it was genuine for a moment. It seems in very poor taste, and is clearly going to be very upsetting to anybody passing by whose house genuinely is/was a crime scene.

But it isn't my house, so nothing to do with me. I certainly wouldn't presume to take it down from somebody else's home.

she does live 100 miles away 😂😂
came to see our daughter during half term , not baby sitting though as I had already taken time off to cover for childcare.
honestly she just likes things her way, everyone says she has OCD. I’m not sure if she has it , tbh probably not . Her house is spotless though and has looked the same for the past 10 years . No even a picture frame has been moved out of its place . Whereas my house …😂😂😂 well..let’s say I’m artistic .
anyway she said Halloween was over and things needed tidying up . I haven’t got the strength to start an argument over it , but I still thinks it’s very rude behaviour. I shall have a Xmas worth of a Tim Burton movie set 😂😂

Halloween decorations only go up for the evening of the 31st so trick or treating kids know which houses are taking part round here…I’d imagine she thought she was helping?

Oh sure she did! If she was trying to be helpful she would have asked first. Because you know something is only helpful if it is what the other person wants. Otherwise it's unhelpful.

I don't think it's such a big deal. Halloween is over and I don't know anyone who would leave the spooky decorations up after the day. There's not a twelve nights tradition like Christmas.

I think it's as harmless as loading the dishwasher or pushing the hoover round. It's not like rearranging your sex toys drawer or cutting your toddler's long hair or fitting a new bathroom as a surprise.

Says who? Maybe in your house but other people might do things differently you know...

Some people are naturally controlling, and they assume that anything that's different from what they would do/want is automatically 'wrong' and needs to be 'rectified' - or at least complained about.

It makes me think of the posters on here who see a TV programme/personality that they don't like and, instead of thinking "Not for me, thanks" and finding something else to watch instead (especially considering there's enough programming on YouTube alone to last you 12,000 lifetimes!), they go to the trouble of starting a thread to tell everybody that they (supposedly) aren't interested in it and wondering who could possibly want to watch 'such rubbish'!

There's a classic Mitchell & Webb sketch, where David's character sees a 'milk helpine' number on the side of his cartoon of milk - and he calls it to ask why anybody could possibly ever need to call it?! It turns out that every call they've ever had has been from similar Victor Meldrews asking the exact same question - except for one, when a young lad called to ask if it was true what his sister had told him that you have to milk monkeys to get banana milkshake!

You posted yesterday and Hallowe’en was on Friday, so maybe your mother in law thought she was doing you a favour taking them down the next day?

she just came to visit, no point arguing as she will not change. She Just starts playing victim, Been there already . Not going down that route .
just have to put up with it , so I’ll have a moan yes, fell better and move on with my dark Xmas .

Just put them back up if you want them up.

If you think that she truly does have OCD (rather than likes to tidy) then help her to seek professional support.

Op you need to come back to this thread in December and show us pics of your Tim Burton Christmas. Please!!