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Can you break wind around others or do you hold it in!?

149 replies

lowdownuphigh · 29/10/2025 18:24

Oddly, I cannot seem to relax enough to fart when around others but when I leave work I get in my car and suddenly there is loads of trapped air coming out with ease. Is this normal? I'm not purposely holding it in when around others, I genuinely don't feel the need but then when alone I can trump away.

OP posts:
TheZanyZebra · 29/10/2025 21:47

Nolift · 29/10/2025 21:43

And then you asking “to do what?” 😆

😂😂😂

Nolift · 29/10/2025 21:47

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:44

I never said I would announce I am going to change my tampon.

but yes if we’re leaving a room we’re all sat in we’ll say we’re off to the toilet, or if we’re coming out we’ll say we’ve just done a poo etc

not everyone is weird about bodily functions.

Head. Wall. Bang!

To quote you

But do you lie every time you go to the toilet?
I’m perfectly honest and say I’m going for a poo, or tell them I’m on my period.

which would indicate you do offer up the info despite no one seemingly enquiring!

Nolift · 29/10/2025 21:48

PracticalPixie · 29/10/2025 21:46

Tbf, some people would find it weird to announce you have just had a poo. Is it to warn them before they go in or just...for info?

I get the impression . With @HeavenInMyHeart that it would
be pride! Or a source of humour!

lowdownuphigh · 29/10/2025 21:48

What I meant really is that I don't get the urge or need to fart unless I'm alone. I can be at work for 8 plus hours with no issues but as soon as I drive away from the carpark it's like I've opened a bottle as they fire out! I'm not consciously holding them in so maybe it's subconsciously that I do it!

OP posts:
HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:49

I guess I’m just not a prude who pretends that they don’t have a working digestive system

TheZanyZebra · 29/10/2025 21:49

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:44

I never said I would announce I am going to change my tampon.

but yes if we’re leaving a room we’re all sat in we’ll say we’re off to the toilet, or if we’re coming out we’ll say we’ve just done a poo etc

not everyone is weird about bodily functions.

Someone is weird all right, but I am not sure they are who you think.

have you run out of topics of conversation or something? 😂😂

Do you also narrate everything else: I am off to shave my legs, off I go to cut my toenails 😂

Why do you think everyone else needs to know exactly what you're doing?

KickHimInTheCrotch · 29/10/2025 21:50

I generally hold them in at work or when in an enclosed space with other people but they definitely build up, subconsciously, and they all get let out in the car or on the walk home. I also generally let out a lot of high pressure gas when I get into bed of a night these days. I didn't when I was in a relationship but I'm sure its definitely better "out than in" generally.

Nolift · 29/10/2025 21:50

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:49

I guess I’m just not a prude who pretends that they don’t have a working digestive system

😆

SSRI · 29/10/2025 21:51

I must be weird as I don’t fart, ever really, in the daytime. I let out a massive loud one first thing in the morning and that’s me done for the day.

Surely a decent diet and healthy digestive system means you don’t get wind on the regular? My diet isn’t even that great tbh, maybe I’m just lucky. Wind to me is a signifier of digestive trouble!

No5ChalksRoad · 29/10/2025 21:58

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:49

I guess I’m just not a prude who pretends that they don’t have a working digestive system

Everyone does. Civilized people refrain from demonstrating that fact.

familyissues12345 · 29/10/2025 21:59

I used to be able to hold them in, but since losing my gallbladder I really struggle. I do try to be discrete though!

BertieBotts · 29/10/2025 21:59

I would have to consciously hold them in. I don't think it's polite to fart around others but I wouldn't mind if I was outside.

I did once think I was starting my period due to the cramps, and then realised as I was getting into bed that I had simply been holding onto my farts for the last couple of days as we had family staying Grin

I think it's normal to fart but if they are smelly then I would think I probably need to do a poo.

Clutchball · 29/10/2025 22:04

purple590 · 29/10/2025 18:42

I wouldn't fart at work but I fart at home, it's very odd to me that there are people that would give their husband a blow job but not fart in front of him. I can't imagine how these people do anything sexual. There's nowhere more anal than MN, mind you they'd probably happily rim their OH but then faint at the idea of using his toothbrush.

Edited

Your post has massively given me the ick in multiple ways I didn’t know I had, I’m not sure you’re making the point you think you are. 🤢

SwingTheMonkey · 29/10/2025 22:09

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:29

They’re funny, and I think anyone who says they’re not is lying.

One of my kids was in the car with a friend and his sister and dad. The other child farted and nobody said a word. No sniggering, no complaining about the smell. My son found it the most bewildering experience ever. Who

Clutchball · 29/10/2025 22:09

HeavenInMyHeart · 29/10/2025 21:49

I guess I’m just not a prude who pretends that they don’t have a working digestive system

Why would avoiding sharing the smell of the insides of your digestive system, when possible, be pretending you don’t have one? I don’t think people are worrying that you're hollow if they haven’t heard you fart…

SwingTheMonkey · 29/10/2025 22:14

Clutchball · 29/10/2025 22:09

Why would avoiding sharing the smell of the insides of your digestive system, when possible, be pretending you don’t have one? I don’t think people are worrying that you're hollow if they haven’t heard you fart…

I wouldn’t actively subject anyone to the smell of my digestive system but I’m quite happy to have my immediate family hear me fart - in that I wouldn't scuttle off to the toilet, I’d just move away from the area. It’s a natural bodily function

mamagogo1 · 29/10/2025 22:14

If you have a choice you obviously are younger than me, there are times I cannot help it, another menopause thing!

No5ChalksRoad · 29/10/2025 22:24

SwingTheMonkey · 29/10/2025 22:14

I wouldn’t actively subject anyone to the smell of my digestive system but I’m quite happy to have my immediate family hear me fart - in that I wouldn't scuttle off to the toilet, I’d just move away from the area. It’s a natural bodily function

So is sex, shitting and clipping one’s toenails. But decent people do bodily functions in private.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 29/10/2025 22:27

Do it with my best friends and husband. Not so close friends but if they’re good friends, I will announce I’m going to do one and leave the room. Too honest ya see. Acquaintances, hold it in until I die

SwingTheMonkey · 29/10/2025 22:28

No5ChalksRoad · 29/10/2025 22:24

So is sex, shitting and clipping one’s toenails. But decent people do bodily functions in private.

Well I definitely don’t clip my toenails in private - I’ll do it in the bathroom but don’t care if anyone can see me. Shitting is similar to farting in that I don’t care if my family is aware I’m doing it. I wouldn’t subject them to the smell by keeping the door open but if any of them needed to come in and get something from the bathroom whilst I was doing it, I wouldn’t care.
Sex is a completely different issue and is subject to decency and child protection laws.

ETA - it’s using the phrase ‘decent people’ like you’re fucking Hyacinth Bucket and better than anyone else, that makes your side of the argument look ridiculous.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 29/10/2025 22:31

SSRI · 29/10/2025 21:51

I must be weird as I don’t fart, ever really, in the daytime. I let out a massive loud one first thing in the morning and that’s me done for the day.

Surely a decent diet and healthy digestive system means you don’t get wind on the regular? My diet isn’t even that great tbh, maybe I’m just lucky. Wind to me is a signifier of digestive trouble!

lol, I’m pretty farty and have a great diet. Vegetables, all the beans (not baked) will do that to ya. Also onion and garlic are bad for it (I’ve been looking into this lately as I’m bloated so been on doctor google. Anyway, it def doesn't mean you have a bad diet that’s for sure

DarkYearForMySoul · 29/10/2025 22:39

My body seems to hold on to all wind during the working day (I do work in a stressful environment) then when I get home and relax it all just let’s go💨💨💨😂😂😂

Sunnysideuptoday · 29/10/2025 22:46

Today I sneezed and farted in front of a new employee. I was mortified. But carried on as if nothing had happened. They must have heard!

TheZanyZebra · 29/10/2025 22:53

SwingTheMonkey · 29/10/2025 22:28

Well I definitely don’t clip my toenails in private - I’ll do it in the bathroom but don’t care if anyone can see me. Shitting is similar to farting in that I don’t care if my family is aware I’m doing it. I wouldn’t subject them to the smell by keeping the door open but if any of them needed to come in and get something from the bathroom whilst I was doing it, I wouldn’t care.
Sex is a completely different issue and is subject to decency and child protection laws.

ETA - it’s using the phrase ‘decent people’ like you’re fucking Hyacinth Bucket and better than anyone else, that makes your side of the argument look ridiculous.

Edited

if having minimum self-respect and standards is being "Hyacinth Bucket", I take that 😂

nothing worst than crude people "telling everything like it is" and sharing their bodily function. Grim.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 29/10/2025 22:54

Um, why would you fart around other people? It is v inconsiderate.

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