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Do people really think their friends don’t notice re-gifted toiletries?

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MoustachaNatasha · 24/10/2025 13:32

I know this will sound ungrateful, and I know the obvious answers are “just stop doing gifts,” “be glad you got anything at all,” or “maybe that’s all they can afford.” I get all of that, but that’s not really my question.
I always put thought into gifts I think my friends will genuinely like, but every year I seem to receive a random mix of toiletries or odds and ends that I can’t use, and feel too embarrassed to re-gift. Some of them are literally the free gifts you get when buying full sizes. They go straight into a cupboard and today I’m bagging them up to donate to my DD’s Christmas fair. It even crossed my mind that I’ll probably end up receiving something back from there in the next round of gifts.
So my actual question is: if you re-gift toiletries, do you honestly believe the recipient won’t notice, or do you just not care if they do?
Genuinely curious how others see this.

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Bleachedjeans · 27/12/2025 06:24

I think it’s the basic dishonesty with regifting that people don’t like. Pretending you’ve shopped, chosen and wrapped is so bad.
I called out my step daughter (in her 40s) one year. For my birthday she regifted a gift that my DD had given her at Xmas. I said ‘Oh I recognise this! My DD gave it to you for Xmas! I’m so glad it’s not going to waste.’

tommyhoundmum · 27/12/2025 09:54

Bleachedjeans · 27/12/2025 06:24

I think it’s the basic dishonesty with regifting that people don’t like. Pretending you’ve shopped, chosen and wrapped is so bad.
I called out my step daughter (in her 40s) one year. For my birthday she regifted a gift that my DD had given her at Xmas. I said ‘Oh I recognise this! My DD gave it to you for Xmas! I’m so glad it’s not going to waste.’

I was given a gift with the original purchaser's message from a previous year tucked inside.

tuvamoodyson · 27/12/2025 10:17

Motnight · 24/10/2025 17:06

That's really sad.

Tell them to stop wasting money on expensive gifts you are only going to give away.

DickDewey · 27/12/2025 10:29

I am sending my son off today with a gift bag for his friend’s bday containing regifted items from me.

She is getting Neom products - magnesium body butter, luxury bath foam and body scrub. I don’t think she could possibly know they’re re-gifts. They are from a big gift box I was given, but they’re all sealed and full size.

I hate Neom, so I always re-gift.

KimberleyClark · 27/12/2025 10:39

I’ve never regifted. The idea of giving someone something I have not specifically chosen for them does not sit well with me. Have been given regifted items frequently though. Bags of mismatched toiletries, photo frames, candles…

Makemineacosmo · 27/12/2025 10:44

I'm not bothered about regifting really, though I've never done it. It's better than it going to waste I guess, but people should at least not give something back to someone who has gifted it to them.

paradisecircus · 27/12/2025 10:52

Not your question I know, but this really is an argument for not doing presents with friends - such a waste of time and money, particularly when you find yourself with lame regifts.
I do regift things but I'd always ask the recipient if they wanted them first and make it clear where the gifts came from.

Acommonreader · 27/12/2025 11:20

JillMW · 24/10/2025 14:53

My offspring arrive with beautiful expensive gifts that I could never afford. I take great joy in regifting to friends who I know would love the item. Usually I say but sometimes if I am expectedly going somewhere with a friend I might take them a bottle of Boli or a nicely packaged scent/ candle that I know they like and then I would not say as I usually leave it on their hall table as I leave.
i have friends who leave random gifts, sometimes with a raffle ticket attached. Lovely friends whom I love because of their personalities..

I’d be really upset if my parents did this. I’d feel like my lovely gift was being passed on for the convenience and brownie points! Your kids have bought YOU something not your mates. Very thoughtless.

Minglingpringle · 27/12/2025 16:39

Acommonreader · 27/12/2025 11:20

I’d be really upset if my parents did this. I’d feel like my lovely gift was being passed on for the convenience and brownie points! Your kids have bought YOU something not your mates. Very thoughtless.

Or you could say that a gift is a gift and the aim is to give the recipient joy. So if they get more joy from regifting it, especially if they would not get much joy out of keeping it, then that’s their prerogative and the giver should be happy for them.

Giving is about the recipient, not the giver.

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