To think this dream job is just sad.

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MN posted a link with a ‘dream job’ so of course I clicked it and when I saw the insane salary I read on.

It just made me so sad.

It feels like they’ve had children just to moulded them into what they think is the perfect person.

They waited too long for the 5yo, so now they’re starting on the 1yo.

Its like something out if a movie where babies are bred and moulded into a certain design.

Why not let kids be kids and give them support and opportunities but let them choose their own path.

AIBU to feel so sorry for kids like this?

www.tes.com/jobs/vacancy/private-tutor-london-england-oxfordshire-2256768

I would imagine you'd have to be one of the landed gentry or similar to have the knowledge and skills they were after and then you'd never want or need such a job in the first place. Maybe Fergie could do with earning a few bob ....

I mean when I take my one year old to museums I spend most of my time persuading them not to lick the glass, best of luck to the tutor! I agree this is very sad to read.

Somebody hasn’t learned that English Toffs are born not made, and if you try to pay your way in, you’ll never be in the club.

How sad for those little boys.

😂 omg yes she’s the perfect candidate!

Absolutely batshit.
I’d be very curious to know the nationality of the parents. Emirati, maybe? It’s one thing to hold aspirations for your kids, but this is just embarrassing.

But isn’t that a quintessentially English way of growing up.

Perfect candidate for teaching British culture

Surely Megan Markle is the perfect example that marrying into doesn’t mean they are accepted.

Quintessentially English is probably more Vicky Pollard than Lord Ponsonby.

It’s all so weird and cringey. Who would want to be “accepted” into a social group that’s not their own anyway? It never really works out well. You don’t feel happy or comfortable or yourself.

I worked in the City in a team full of international super wealthy public school Oxbridge types. Dh and were literally the only normal ones from state schools there - no coincidence we found each other and got married!

Do the international elite want to be accepted into an archaic British social group or do they rather want to create a paradigm based on a British ideal of the past amongst their own social group? A bit like the Russian Aristos modelled themselves on the French until the French Revolution?
I think the international elite have their own code, the kids also speak several languages. Hardly traditionally British to be multilingual.

I’d also ask if they have garden/estate with sufficient quantities of mud and dogs. The latter are essential for true English socialisation and a robust immune system.

It just makes me think how much I have failed my DS8 who can’t speak my native language and can only speak a rougher version of Scouse. Sigh.

Exactly Araminta. It’s not something you can put on or be taught - you either are or you have been properly accepted by those that are via marriage or deep friendship. And even that can not be enough. It’s like the line from Common People “everybody hates a tourist”.

They should accept how their family are and enjoy and nurture that not ape some imaginary English Ruritania.

Poor boys, but who on earth would actually eat this job? It occurred to me how funny it would be if these parents do invest this volume of money over a number of years and ten little Johnny decided to join Greenpeace or open his own tattoo shop or something!

The desperation of these parents must be such a miserable existence, obviously uncomfortable in their own skin, God knows what level of pressure their children will find themselves under over the coming years. Sao sad.

I read the advert with a Hyacinth Bucket voice 😊

Goes to show that money cant buy class

Honestly? It’s easy to jeer at this advert but I suspect that many extremely rich families are looking for very similar people. I remember a story about Gwyneth Paltrow looking for a nanny who spoke several languages (including Latin), could sail and teach the children to play tennis and chess.

Reading through the advert, I suspect that this was first written in Chinese then translated. It may be that this sort of advert is not considered as peculiar in other countries (and the salary is impressive).

The bit about the five year old is weird but I expect they have someone else employed for him / her.

It may be that this would be a really interesting job for some people - taking young children out to Westminster Abbey and the polo. I bet the parents won’t be the type to get cross when the nanny / tutor gets a taxi home because it’s raining.

They may not be easy to work for but that is true of loads of nanny employers. At least these are specific as to what they want rather than expecting the candidates to read their minds.

Sounds as though a non British family somehow thinks that they need to train their son up to be the ideal British Old Boy. Very odd.

I think the parents are setting their children up to fail
To be culturally English/British comes from themselves acting culturally English/British. Throwing money around and trying to buy your way in is going to get them nowhere because it isn’t what culturally English/British landed gentry do and it’s going to stick out like a sore thumb

They might get somewhere if they actually changed their own lifestyle. Bought an estate and learned to work the land, learned to ride a horse and knuckled down to living in wellies and windbreakers and all things land and estate related etc

Living in north London and swanning around in designer clothes and thinking they do not have to do anything except pay money to buy their way in is just not going to work
The very people who they want their children to be like would be more accepting if they owned their own culture and were parents who took an interest in their own children