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To think this dream job is just sad.

219 replies

Cucy · 22/10/2025 08:42

MN posted a link with a ‘dream job’ so of course I clicked it and when I saw the insane salary I read on.

It just made me so sad.

It feels like they’ve had children just to moulded them into what they think is the perfect person.

They waited too long for the 5yo, so now they’re starting on the 1yo.

Its like something out if a movie where babies are bred and moulded into a certain design.

Why not let kids be kids and give them support and opportunities but let them choose their own path.

AIBU to feel so sorry for kids like this?

www.tes.com/jobs/vacancy/private-tutor-london-england-oxfordshire-2256768

OP posts:
ZebraStripeys · 22/10/2025 12:12

Nifty50something · 22/10/2025 08:50

Good lord! Quintessentially English? Does Nigel Farage have a 1 year old? The biculturalism bit makes sense also given his wife is German.

The whole thing is sad but also very bizarre. That kid is going to write a book about his messed up childhood someday I reckon. Hopefully he'll have the wherewithal to rebel as a teen and figure out how to live his own life rather than fit a very tight mould his parents want to cram him into.

Edited

Farage seems absolutely fine to me. Likeable and honest. Not afraid of the truth. So I actually think its parents probably did a good job . It’s really immature, cretinous and rude when people bring random politics and ad hominem insults in a thread just to stir up division on an unrelated thread.

SprayWhiteDung · 22/10/2025 12:14

GingerBeverage · 22/10/2025 11:49

It would be just as weird for someone to stipulate any other accent.

If anyone gets to interview, please dress up as Mary Poppins.

Probably not if they're a man, though - as per the non-too-subtle message in the job spec!!

kerstina · 22/10/2025 12:15

QuickPeachPoet · 22/10/2025 09:49

Those parents sound insufferable

Agree ! Wonder what the parents jobs are.

ThisGentleRaven · 22/10/2025 12:20

they’ve also decided that this kid will like cricket and rugby- poor child can’t even choose their own hobbies

knowing they're not optional sports in most schools (state secondary included), and a standard in most private schools, there's some logic in their reasoning.

SprayWhiteDung · 22/10/2025 12:24

Maia77 · 22/10/2025 11:12

They obviously know nothing about child development and what's really important at this stage of child development. Poor child.

Edited

Yes, it's very sad. What their 1yo (and 5yo) would treasure most of all is special time with Mum & Dad doing normal everyday things - yet they seem so keen on throwing money at never having to actually spend any time at all with their children and just expecting a team of staff to provide them with the adult that they want in 17 years time, as though he's an item in a catalogue; and not even mentioning their poor 5yo whom they've already written off as unsatisfactory and a waste of their time and demands expectations, by the sounds of it.

Jellycatspyjamas · 22/10/2025 12:24

I can’t help with tutoring but I’ll happily sit on retainer for the therapy the child will undoubtedly need.

BoringBarbie · 22/10/2025 12:24

It sounds like it was written by Dodi Al Fayed.

shampop · 22/10/2025 12:31

This is so intriguing but also terrifying

Araminta1003 · 22/10/2025 12:31

Or they could just get a posh local childminder SAHM and let their kid hang out with them, would be more balanced and far cheaper and donate the rest to charity!

MrsSlocombesCat · 22/10/2025 12:34

ThisGentleRaven · 22/10/2025 10:13

very little care or education
they just have a different view than yours about that, rightly or wrongly.

zero recognition of the fact that education needs to be guided by a child’s aptitude, personality and interests
who said that? Literally from the ad

a more explorative Montessori style will likely be more appropriate, allowing him to develop his own interests through having been exposed to a wealth of different activities.

I don't really care about them one way or another, they from a different world than mine, but I find some of the posts on this thread very hypocritical - and posters sounding more jealous than anything.

I am personally not a fan of the "Montessori" style either, but that's not the point

I don't see any jealousy here. The ad sounds deranged.

Praying4Peace · 22/10/2025 12:40

This is extremely worrying for those children.
What about unconditional love?

ThisGentleRaven · 22/10/2025 12:41

MrsSlocombesCat · 22/10/2025 12:34

I don't see any jealousy here. The ad sounds deranged.

It's not like I agree with them, but their attitude is such a common attitude and the requirements such common ones for that kind of wealthy and British-crazy family? or what they think is "British culture" 😂

Look no further at the number of foreign students in some of the top private schools, how they were raised in their home country to start with.

It's not "unusual". It might be wrong and alien to us - but it's not new.

I am not sure there are so many other cultures who bring so much attention, must be the royal family and they chance to marry or get close to them, who knows 😂

FairKoala · 22/10/2025 12:42

Anyone think this is a spoof post.

No one can be seriously thinking that tutoring their 1 year old to be English landed gentry when they don’t sound English, they live in north London and don’t have a title

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2025 12:45

I guess Fergie could apply (Not Alex Ferguson), not got a lot on at the moment, could do with the money and knows a King. 🤷‍♀️

Megifer · 22/10/2025 12:45

That 1 year old is going to turn out to be a proper wanker.

blankittyblank · 22/10/2025 12:49

I felt like I was reading an ad from the rich family in Parasite at first! Maybe their existing nanny will happen to know of someone suitable... 😄

LancashireButterPie · 22/10/2025 12:51

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2025 12:45

I guess Fergie could apply (Not Alex Ferguson), not got a lot on at the moment, could do with the money and knows a King. 🤷‍♀️

Small matter of her being married to a creep though?

akkakk · 22/10/2025 12:53

It is a fascinating study in attempted social mobility...
It however seems to be unaware of the one key criteria for entry into that world - being born into it. However much money you have / however many test matches or regattas you have been to, whether you start playing polo at 3 or stalking at 5 - doesn't matter - the world of old money is all about the 'old' bit (pedigree and family connections) not the 'money' bit (as no-one in that world has money any more!) - so right from the outset they will fail as money can not buy exactly what they want...

As King James VI of Scotland (1 of England) replied when his nurse asked him to make her son a gentleman:

A gentleman I could never make him, though I could make him a lord.

LancashireButterPie · 22/10/2025 12:54

I'm concerned what the 5 year old is doing that means he has failed? Running with drug gangs
Or telling his teacher to go fuck themself? or eating with chopsticks and watching Bollywood films?

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2025 12:55

LancashireButterPie · 22/10/2025 12:51

Small matter of her being married to a creep though?

Married? When did that happen?

Araminta1003 · 22/10/2025 12:56

Yes I also thought it was spoof at first! Most likely drafted by a public school boy. Imagine a string of Etonians and Harrowians studying Early Years instead of PPE. Who needs to aspire to be Prime Minister if you can get paid more on a 5 hour work schedule and party on the side. The only thing missing is the Westminster wine cellar.

AKnitter · 22/10/2025 12:58

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2025 12:55

Married? When did that happen?

Edited

1986 🤔

(Divorced in 1996)

TheaBrandt1 · 22/10/2025 13:00

That kid would so run away at 18 and join a band.

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/10/2025 13:00

AKnitter · 22/10/2025 12:58

1986 🤔

(Divorced in 1996)

Exactly, no longer married, like the PP said.

Toddlerteaplease · 22/10/2025 13:03

That poor child.