Opinion on a 50 year old woman and 18 year old man?

[TheLoudJadeCritic]

What do you think about a 50 year old woman having sex with an 18 year old? weird or okay?

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I have a 54-yr-old friend having sex with a 21 year old. Not a relationship, just shagging.

What do people think about that?

I would assume some sort of imbalance of power. I say that as someone who used to be friends with someone who dated a 19yr old in his late 40s, we are not friends any more. Much later on she came to me to tell me just how messed up he had left her and that she felt vulnerable, one of the crooks of the relationship was him paying for things expecting sex in return. At first him spending money on her was nice and then it wasn't. She's had a lot of help to get her life back on track.

Would that be the same truth as is claimed by all the men making up stories about having started their periods due to hrt, or the men claiming that they are being hit on by their straight male friends just days/weeks after transitioning

Truth hurts

Just as grim

I had a brief fling with a man in his mid 40s when I was 18. It was fun, nothing serious at all though, just sex and a few date nights type thing.

Honestly, I think we both found the age gap exciting and taboo.

I look back on it now with no regrets, I don't feel I was taken advantage of at all, and it was very much something I was happy to do.

However I also now look at 18 year old girls and it feels insane to me in a way as they still seem so young. But I know how I felt at the time. I would drive myself to his house, no alcohol or drugs involved etc. I can't have been that much of an outlier - there will be other young people at that age who are happy about having sex with older people, like I was.

I definitely wouldn't have wanted a relationship with him though, although I did properly date some older men, that gap was too much, and we would have struggled to find enough in common to sustain any form of real partnership.

Sam Taylor-Johnson was 43 when she gave birth to Aaron's child and he was 20, having known her since he was about 14

Weird. At my uni, we thought it was too young even if a 20 -21 year old dated guy who was 18. Most of them haven't even stopped growing yet, and that is very evident if you've ever lived in an area with a high student population.

Having an 18 year old lover is not paedophilia

I am 40 and this year I had sex with a 19 year old.

It was an accident though. I look young for my age.

I met a man at a group and we went on a few dates. He looked about 28 and I have dated men around 30 before. He talked about his job and he looked that age.

I had sex with him. The next time we met, our ages came up. I told him I was 40. He thought I was around 28. He told me he was 19. He looked old for his age.

I stopped seeing him as he was too young and moved away anyway.

If i knowingly knew someone was 19, i wouldnt be with them.

It has taught me to ask for peoples ages.

we have to ve careful!

But men lie too. A man told me on online dating that he was 30. Then he told me he was actually 20. I said why did you lie. He said because he thought i would prefer to be with someone older

Are you talking about young 18 year old adults or children? You have to be specific if you are going to use terms like pedophile.
Is it your son you are talking about?

I mean teenage boys are just.... smelly

Who mentioned gender im talking about the male sex class and no unfortunately its not the minority of men its a majority who perv on teenage girls and young women

Which is grim, especially as she was his boss at the time.

The 29 year old man with a 62 year old woman. Have you heard of them?

Gross

This was the subject of Ian mcwwans novel Lessons and the booker prize listed Flesh by David Szalay.
Everyone in the book clubs, male and female, can't think of any school friends, colleagues, relatives that were actually part of the young male older female trope. We just couldn't and we are a fairly worldy, honest bunch, happy to anonoymise.
On the contrast we all had young women and men stories with older men. Hit on, ONS and longer relationships. Bonking Barry the builder, then 40ish, who used to pick up my mate in her uniform from outside the school, she wishes you'd been a bit younger because 30 years later she wants a porch on her house ( not a euphemism)

Definitely more common with creepy older men. I do know of one with an older woman though. 19 year old man and 44 year old woman. He was her sons best friend! Then there's Macron the french president and his wife, he was 15 and she was his teacher in her 40s when it started I believe.

I am 40 and I have been with a 19 year old.

I dont know how i feel about it. I mistakenly thought he was older than he was.

Its hard to tell peoples ages these days

Back in the mists of time when I was a teenager, it was just taken for granted that you'd be perved over by older men. We'd warn each other to look out for these men walking home from school, waiting for the bus, in the swimming pool, everywhere. It was just how life was for young girls. Probably still is, though perhaps it's no longer regarded as 'just the way things are' anymore. At least I hope not.

How many men look back on when they were teenagers and used to warn each other about that pervy middle aged woman who hung around waiting for the boys to be let out of school every day? I'm guessing zero.

It still is a thing for teenaged girls sadly. There was a thread about how public libraries are practically no go areas for them now. I see men staring at mine every time we walk through town. I know I don't even notice teen boys unless they block my way or are being noisy in town. I certainly don't look at them in a sexual way. Girls still get harassed for sex more frequently when they are wearing school uniform.

It's not these lovebirds is it?

https://www.kentonline.co.uk/medway/news/benefits-couple-thank-taxpayers-for-38577/

She was 61 and he was 35. That is more realistic Cougar goals frankly. For their wedding she made her own sausage rolls

I copied and pasted this from the internet.
"Cheryl and Quran first met in 2012 when he was 15 and she managed a fast-food restaurant where he worked. They reconnected romantically much later, on November 4, 2020, after seeing each other working at a convenience store."

They are now married.

He was well into adulthood