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Opinion on a 50 year old woman and 18 year old man?

195 replies

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 14:48

What do you think about a 50 year old woman having sex with an 18 year old? weird or okay?

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Radiatorvalves · 21/10/2025 15:50

Grim. DS is 18 and I’m not that much past 50. I can’t imagine thinking of any of his friends in that way. Nor his friends’ mums looking at him in that way.

all sorts of wrong and inappropriate.

VIOLETPUGH · 21/10/2025 15:50

filthy dirty woman ! Little more than a paedophile !

BMW6 · 21/10/2025 15:50

Well its not paedophilia as the young person is over the age of consent, but 50/18 is just distasteful whatever sex the participants are.

aCatCalledFawkes · 21/10/2025 15:50

I find it gross. I'm not far off 50yrs, my kids are 18&14yrs.
One of my exes is 50, the idea of him laying a finger on my 18yr old girl makes me feel sick. And as for my 14yr old, the idea that a woman my age would want to sleep with him in 4yrs is pretty horrid.

sumayyah · 21/10/2025 15:50

Geez, definitely predatory
Here's me sometimes wondering if I'm too old for the guy I'm dating as hes just under 40 and I'm just over 40
Why would you want to be with some teenage kid, all the nopes there

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:51

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:49

No, not the same. Many men, both gay and straight, would like to be with teenagers. Some actually are with teenagers.

Very few women have the same desires, and there's no point pretending it's 'the same' because it certainly is not.

Look, we can disagree, that's it. Its not the point of this thread anyways.

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LeanToWhatToDo · 21/10/2025 15:51

I think there is a general consensus here.

Go and tidy your room and help your mother load the dishwasher.
A bath wouldn't go amiss either.

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 21/10/2025 15:51

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 14:48

What do you think about a 50 year old woman having sex with an 18 year old? weird or okay?

18 year old is considered to be adult and not young enough to be vulnerable.
50 year old is considered to be adult and not old enough to be vulnerable.

I presume both parties consent.

We're meant to not give a damn about what genitals people have, or what genitals they prefer to play with. On the whole we're pretty good at not discriminating.

To be disgusted by consensual relationships between generations seems to be the equivalent of homophobia etc

To be openly disgusted or questioning has to be getting close to some hate crime or other these days, though its a view I commonly hear expressed.

If it's purely physical where's the harm?
If it's emotional as well I can't see it lasting but each to their own

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:52

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:51

Look, we can disagree, that's it. Its not the point of this thread anyways.

I think we're all wondering just what the 'point' of this thread is.

And it's not about 'disagreeing'. It's simply a fact that attraction to teenagers is predominantly a male thing. Women might find young men attractive, but not boys.

Plinkyplankplonk · 21/10/2025 15:53

Fucking creepy.

Catwalking · 21/10/2025 15:53

“no such thing as gender traits”, can you hear yourself?
im going b4 i laugh my sox off!

AltitudeCheck · 21/10/2025 15:53

As I said, if it's only the age difference at play then yes its grim / predatory but whats the full picture?

Some 18yr olds view women as objects to have sex with, just like (some) men of any age do. I work with some military men through a sport. I can think of 18 yo blokes who've been to visit brothels and deliberately had sex with much older women as a bet / dare. Same goes for pulling an old / unattractive woman on a night out. Men, especially in groups, can be vile, in a way women rarely are.

Hoardasurass · 21/10/2025 15:53

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:33

Go on reddit, tons of stories about older women and teens. Ask men, lot will tell you on internet their experiences. In real life they might lie, especially to a woman.

Stats say 20 percent of pedos are women too.

Please state what stats your talking about as 97% of sexual offences are committed by men in the UK Ergo your 20% of pedophiles being female is a non starter.
Redit is not a reputable source of statistics nor information.

BuckChuckets · 21/10/2025 15:54

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

I don't believe it. Where is the evidence? Don't say reddit or Google.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:54

AltitudeCheck · 21/10/2025 15:53

As I said, if it's only the age difference at play then yes its grim / predatory but whats the full picture?

Some 18yr olds view women as objects to have sex with, just like (some) men of any age do. I work with some military men through a sport. I can think of 18 yo blokes who've been to visit brothels and deliberately had sex with much older women as a bet / dare. Same goes for pulling an old / unattractive woman on a night out. Men, especially in groups, can be vile, in a way women rarely are.

Really? girls manipulating old men for money and blackmailing them is common and well known.

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PorpoiseWithPurpose · 21/10/2025 15:55

Hoardasurass · 21/10/2025 15:53

Please state what stats your talking about as 97% of sexual offences are committed by men in the UK Ergo your 20% of pedophiles being female is a non starter.
Redit is not a reputable source of statistics nor information.

Yeah. Please enlighten us with your “stats” 🤣

HelenSkeleton · 21/10/2025 15:55

TheDeerPlains · 21/10/2025 14:54

Hello Andrew

Windsor or Tate?

applegingermint · 21/10/2025 15:55

As grim as I’d find a 50 year old man and an 18 yo woman.

Dagnabit · 21/10/2025 15:55

It’s legal but it’s a no from me! I’m 50 in a few months and I couldn’t imagine getting it on with an 18 year old 😬

BuckChuckets · 21/10/2025 15:55

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:42

Because everyone talks about older men but not older women and i see it happening just as often

No, you don't.

Dollymylove · 21/10/2025 15:56

According to mumsnet any age gap wider than 6 months either side should be banished. I can hear the pearls being clutched from here 😉

Survivingnotthriving24 · 21/10/2025 15:56

They need to write the half your age plus 7 thing into consent laws, vile.

Bluegreenlake · 21/10/2025 15:56

It's gross.

northernerinsomerset · 21/10/2025 15:56

Flipping weird thread.

takealettermsjones · 21/10/2025 15:56

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:54

Really? girls manipulating old men for money and blackmailing them is common and well known.

Put down the red pill son and go outside.

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