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Opinion on a 50 year old woman and 18 year old man?

195 replies

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 14:48

What do you think about a 50 year old woman having sex with an 18 year old? weird or okay?

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TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:27

AltitudeCheck · 21/10/2025 15:21

The age difference implies a power difference which people have rightly pointed out is pretty grim ... however I would want to know more before reaching that conclusion, some 18 year old men can also be predators / visit prostitutes/ take advantage of vulnerable women.

LOL you think an 18 year old can take advantage of a 50 year old?

This is so ridiculous its laughable.

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KnightandDay · 21/10/2025 15:28

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:25

Yes,google it. Tons of teens having sex with much older women. Cougars are literally a thing.

Female pedophilles don't get the same attention as male ones and boys don't speak out, either because they enjoy it or are scared because of the gender stigma. But there are lot more female pedophilles than people think.

Mumsnet does not represent the general public.

Why did you ask MN then?
Is it just to get your rocks off?

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:29

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:26

Men, both straight and gay, are often attracted to teenagers.

Women hardly ever are.

Edited

Then you need to do more research.

I am a woman and against this btw.

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PreciousTatas · 21/10/2025 15:29

By 'Google it' do you actually mean 'I see lots of it on porn sites'?

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:30

KnightandDay · 21/10/2025 15:28

Why did you ask MN then?
Is it just to get your rocks off?

Because i am curious how people see it because its not talked about when the older person is a woman

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TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:30

PreciousTatas · 21/10/2025 15:29

By 'Google it' do you actually mean 'I see lots of it on porn sites'?

No, forums, people etc

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IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:31

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:29

Then you need to do more research.

I am a woman and against this btw.

Could you link any relevant research? I'd be genuinely interested to see it.

Everything I have ever heard and seen in my 50 plus years of life suggests that attraction to teenagers is a male thing, whatever the gender of the teenagers. You may very occasionally find a woman who fancies teenagers but it is extremely rare, while it's depressingly normal for men.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 21/10/2025 15:32

AltitudeCheck · 21/10/2025 15:21

The age difference implies a power difference which people have rightly pointed out is pretty grim ... however I would want to know more before reaching that conclusion, some 18 year old men can also be predators / visit prostitutes/ take advantage of vulnerable women.

That equally applies to 18 year old girls then.

HedwigEliza · 21/10/2025 15:33

Utterly depraved. Any woman of that age considering the idea is perverted.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:33

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:31

Could you link any relevant research? I'd be genuinely interested to see it.

Everything I have ever heard and seen in my 50 plus years of life suggests that attraction to teenagers is a male thing, whatever the gender of the teenagers. You may very occasionally find a woman who fancies teenagers but it is extremely rare, while it's depressingly normal for men.

Go on reddit, tons of stories about older women and teens. Ask men, lot will tell you on internet their experiences. In real life they might lie, especially to a woman.

Stats say 20 percent of pedos are women too.

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BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 15:33

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:30

Because i am curious how people see it because its not talked about when the older person is a woman

Is there a real life situation you had in mind, as it’s quite a random thought to be curious about?

SumUp · 21/10/2025 15:33

No!

Friends of my daughter were talking about this, and although it is a thing for young men to seek out much older women for sex, they are all in their mid twenties and older.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 21/10/2025 15:34

Deadringer · 21/10/2025 14:53

Ick, ick, and thrice ick.

And ick again.

Ugh.

PoliteSquid · 21/10/2025 15:34

Revolting predatory behaviour

I8toys · 21/10/2025 15:34

Absolutely vile

PinkyFlamingo · 21/10/2025 15:34

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:29

Then you need to do more research.

I am a woman and against this btw.

Against it? So who is it to you that's in this situation?

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:35

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:33

Go on reddit, tons of stories about older women and teens. Ask men, lot will tell you on internet their experiences. In real life they might lie, especially to a woman.

Stats say 20 percent of pedos are women too.

Reddit is not 'research'!

It's an anonymous internet forum. I could say I'd had a threesome with Alexander Skarsgard and Chris Hemsworth on Reddit, and nobody could tell me otherwise!

And could you link to the 'stats' in question?

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:35

BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 15:33

Is there a real life situation you had in mind, as it’s quite a random thought to be curious about?

I got it from Netmums where nearly everyone is supporting the woman

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BauhausOfEliott · 21/10/2025 15:35

I mean, depends on the circumstances really. A situation in which an 18-year-old man has a one-night-stand with a 50-year-old woman to win a bet with his mates is a bit different to a situation in which an 18-year-old man is pursued by his 50-year-old boss, for example. Same if the genders were reversed.

Marylou2 · 21/10/2025 15:36

God help us. Who even needs to ask this ?100% not OK.

Eastie77Returns · 21/10/2025 15:36

Is that you Mme Macron?

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:35

Reddit is not 'research'!

It's an anonymous internet forum. I could say I'd had a threesome with Alexander Skarsgard and Chris Hemsworth on Reddit, and nobody could tell me otherwise!

And could you link to the 'stats' in question?

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

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Cavello · 21/10/2025 15:38

I see its half-term again. If this is genuine, which I highly doubt, the whole thought is absolutely disgusting.

Fwiw - people who go on reddit are not a true sample of the general population.

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:38

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

How can you possibly know they are 'true'? Anyone can say anything on reddit.

And on this forum, for that matter.

Why are you hanging out on discussions about 'cougars' can I ask?

BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 15:38

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:35

I got it from Netmums where nearly everyone is supporting the woman

I’ve not been on that. I guess the question is, is it something she keeps a shameful secret or is she open about it to her family, friends and colleagues. Would she take him as her plus one to social events etc.