To find the homeschooling fad really braggy

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Am I wrong to think there's something braggy and arrogant about homeschooling?

I'm NOT talking about the parents of SEN children who may not have been able to access a school, or feel it's in the child's best interest. I'm not even talking about the quiet ones who just get on with it. I do acknowledge our school system has it's problems but...

I'm talking about the loudly wholesome parents bragging about their lives and day, how much richer their kids are for being home schooled, outdoors yahdiya.

I mean I would love to be able to homeschool but the reality is I a) can't afford to and b) quite like the little bit of sanity I have left and c) I'm not so arrogant that I think I can undermine qualified teaching professionals with years of experience.

It's almost like these parents are basically announcing their wealth and privilege to the world without announcing their wealth and privilege and making everyone else feel inadequate.

😂

Insecure? Because i touched a nerve with you?

Not anything I’ve noticed, but then given home schooling is my idea of utter hell I don’t pay any attention to home schoolers. Sounds like you might be a tad jealous OP?

@ThisGentleRaven Well seeing as I neither home school any children or brag, thats hardly going to be the case. But you do come across insecure and defensive. I don't feel the need do obsess over other people making different choices to my own, I don't think anyone who is happy in their own life does.

What ?? I find the home ed community one if the most content and less invasive ever . I’m yet to see what you mention . I home ed my sen child years ago and my younger kids go to school now ( oldest is a adult ) . I’ m not sure if I’m missing a new trend or something but the home ed community really keeps to itself mostly .
I’ve always found the school going children parents tend to be the ones really not understanding the concept and often throwing punches and I think this post and its replies prove it with lots of ignorant remarks about GCSE’s and A levels . As someone who did both , I wish you realised it’s not a competition .

I voted YABU because I only know one family who homeschools and they are not at all braggy about it - quite the opposite, they dearly wish that their child could attend school. Where are you meeting all these braggarts?

Child led...right okay that's somewhat worrying, but if you can do it crack on.

I'm interested to know how this works from the class teacher's point of view? Given the cumulative nature of learning, how do they juggle the lessons around the child who has significant gaps in basic knowledge because they weren't at school when the topic was introduced? Or more than one child, missing different things? It's difficult enough when it's unavoidable through illness, but this is deliberately creating work for the teacher (who they don't trust to educate their child fully).

We are nearly at the end of home edding. DS2 sitting final 2 A levels next year. We are the 'quiet ones'. I have never followed any influencers or anything of that kind...just got on with it. We are not rich and our children have no SEN. We have found some people quite hostile over the years but have never let it bother us. I don't 'judge' people for sending their children to school.Obviously we are all different. I would avoid the influencer/ social media stuff then you won't be annoyed.

I wish people would stop saying home schooled. It's almost never "home schooled" in the U.K., it's home education.

The point is to be a very different environment than schooling children.

Some children thrive anywhere, some suit formal education, some suit a different approach. I think it's reasonable to accept the education system will not be appropriate for every child. If someone wants to home educate, good luck to them.

My daughters class has 3 children in flexi schooling , it’s more common that you realise and some councils actually have policies on it so pretty much anyone can do it . If you are interested research it . I’m yet to see anyone claiming it’s bad in any way or that children are behind but I can’t speak for everyone obviously.

Yeah some of them on TikTok like to subtly imply that they like their children more than parents who send their children to school like theirs.

But then your issue is …that you can’t do it yourself??

You need to decide on your own head - do you really wish you could homeschool?
I know I couldn’t. Fir the reasons you describe - needing my own space, being myself etc etc…..
Because I’m confident it’s the rigut choice for me, I have to say 1- I dint read SM posts on homeschooling and 2- if I stumble in one, they just do nothing fir me? Like a SM post on bike racing does nothing for me either…. Not my thing, not my world 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

So stop liking/watching those people, step back from the bragging parents in RL that flexi school (who would like to be close to people bragging anyway?) and live your life how you see fit

I think in most cases (not all) attending school is far better for children than homeschooling.

Why do you want to - has she already started at mainstream school?

why are you having a go at me?

I told you, I don't care.

I have noticed the people bragging when they pop up to shout about their homeschooling on groups or subjects that have nothing to do with homeschooling 😂

I am not obsessing, I am mocking them

I can't think of anything worst than "home educating" myself 😂 but even so, I still know it's a luxury to be able to make that choice.

You physically cannot hold a full time job to pay the bill AND home educate your child full time AND give them access to all the social groups and activities they need.

Again, 24h in a day, and some of us need to sleep.

It's a privilege. No one is jealous or envious, it's just stating a fact. Parent might have worked hard to have that financial luxury now, who knows, it's not a judgement, just factual.

Having to justify the educational choices made for your own kids is exhausting IME. There is so much thought, effort, worry that goes into choosing the non standard options (or there should be!)
However I do agree that regulation/quality control/audit needs to be in place regardless of chosen setting and no one who actually cares about their child’s educational outcomes should/would kick against it.
Smug, overbearing people exist in all walks of life so better to learn how to manage them

I know someone who makes a big deal about how wonderful her home education is and how happy her girls are. She isn’t wealthy at all, relies on benefits but she is very defensive because she’s received quite a lot of criticism for her choices.

I’m the opposite tbh, trying really hard to get a school to take my DC full time, he has SEN and I literally cannot cope with him 24/7. I’d go insane, it wouldn’t be healthy for him either imo but people are so quick to tell me, “just homeschool” like it’s the easiest thing ever.

No, I am not offended by people making the choice to home educate their children, I have seen people taking it personally though. My DSis home educated her DC and one or two people seemed to take it very personally. Clearly being offended that she decided school wasn't good enough for her DC 😅

Touched a nerve eh?! 😅

Oh we how we laughed about those people! 😅

Coming from a person who clearly has no clue about home education and how it works 🙄

@user1471538275 was spot on.

These "homeschooling" threads it's home education actually, do my head in, so much crap spouted from people who have no idea how it works. You carry on with your blinkered, narrow-minded and institutionalised way of thinking 👌

Why is it braggy? I have friends who are homeschooling and they are far from wealthy - live in the poorest part of a big city and only afford holidays due to house swaps. The Mum is returning to work now they are all sixth form age and they will finally have some money spare.

Home educators can seem quite prickly as everyone you meet is generally judgey. You never really get criticism in everyday life for sending your kids to school but everyone gives their opinion unsolicited to homeschoolers.

I know what you mean about the smug and judgemental types you encounter in certain groups. My DC have SEN and to so many on "support" groups the answer is always home educate. Just stop sending them to school and let them learn by playing out. That's nice if you spend all your days raising chickens on a homestead while your DH earns a fat salary somewhere before coming home and doing bedtime, but if you're a lone parent and have to pay a mortgage (on a tiny house in town) yourself it's not so easy. I'm so tired after work that I couldn't even begin to think about planning and delivering a curriculum for two kids as well. And if the kids are pulled out of school they would still need to be somewhere while I work so not solving the issue of strangers, sensory overwhelm etc at all. I think some (not all) live in their own little bubble and can't comprehend how others have to live and the compromises involved.

Er yes it is. These are competitive examinations. Our children are competing not only with each other but lso those DCs in Singapore and AI.

speaking of smug and judgmental.. 😂

I home educate. I like to think I’m not braggy. I have nothing against schools. Lots are very good and children do well. I just chose what I thought was best for me and my child. Other people make different decisions and that’s fine.

I have met several home edders who are very anti school and that annoys me. They come across as very insecure in their choices when they slag off other choices.

There are a number of fairly recent TikTokers that make being home Ed families their whole personalities and some of them do come across as being insufferably smug.