To think people are naive re cocaine

[Knockonw00d]

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

Yes people are naive. Cocaine is addictive and if you become addicted you are likely to lose everything.

Your job
Your home
You family
Everything.
I have witnessed this but lucky the person involved had strong family support and was able to conquer their demons

Good thing you are here to patronise everyone

Good. I am absolutely a "judgeypants" of people who cannot seem to even have a MEAL out without sniffing random crap up their noses.

People truly need to take a long hard look at themselves. Unfortunately it usually takes a death for reflection to happen in , however people will still say it'll never happen to them / that person wasn't careful enough / it was that person's comorbidities which caused it.

The total lack of personal responsibility by people who take "recreational" drugs is absolutely astonishing. It's always justifiable as "only a bit of fun", "I get anxious, this helps me have a night out", "it's no different to alcohol".

I'm in my mid-40s and when I was in my late teens and early 20s, it wasn't so common. It was starting to become more common around the time I stopped going out to pubs and clubs and football aways as much so yes, I think it possible people don't know the extent of cocaine use either in that context or more casual contexts. I don't think it's something to criticise people for not being aware of.

At that time in my mid-20s my boyfriend had started doing coke and it took a while for me to realise that he became as much of a dick on it as he did on the drink. He was an arrogant arsehole on both.

It's common, but not as common as you seem to think it is. It is still very much the norm not to do coke.

Oh they don’t do it until after they’ve eaten. Appetite suppressant.

FYI people won't enjoy a meal if they have been sniffing coke. It suppress your appetite

What’s the point in an appetite suppressant after you’ve ingested all the calories 😂

Okay. Yet you are trying to educate people with your zero experience. 🫣

You need to look at statistics to appreciate the very real problem there is in today’s society.

It suggests me to they haven't been raised correctly. None of my kids have ever done drugs. DH and I have never touched it

Yes it’s common but it’s obvious when people take it. All illicit drugs cause behavioural issues.

This is a really very odd take. Do you think every decision taken even by someone well into adult hood comes back to “being brought up correctly”?
You must know all sorts of people has drugs and there is no commonality in the way their parents would like to believe they brought them up.

Yep I quoted the statistic in my previous comment.

Powder cocaine use has remained steady in the last year for people aged 16 to 59 years (2.1%) and 16 to 24 years (3.8%), compared with year end March 2023

So as I said, it's still very much the norm to not do coke, and if people know a large amount of people who do it then that's just the circle you're in, it doesn't represent the general population.

It depends what social bubble you are moving in. I'm as sure as I can be that none of my colleagues or close friends take it, nor DH. You are moving in circles where it's common, but in other social circles, it isn't.

I've taught my kids what's right and what's wrong. They've never done drugs and never will. I don't even drink myself.

Horrible, horrible drug. Thankfully ive grown out of it now, but i had far too many indescribably bad comedowns, vile self loathing, and lost days because of it.

As does alcohol!

Naive to the extreme. You really think they’re going to phone you up and tell you? Honestly, have a think.

You’re saying that like it means something. Don’t you expect them as adults to develop their own sense of right or wrong, and accept that might be different to yours? It’s either controlling or naive, and you don’t actually want to give it too much thought because then it might apply to you

About 1 in 60 according to some studies. That makes it reasonably common but not ubiquitous. I think the OP just moves in a social circle that finds drug use acceptable. I would not socialise with a Class A drug user

I don't need experience in taking cocaine to understand it. As I said, I come from a background of sellers, not takers. That's how I know a shitload of women spend lot of money on coke to give to people to be their friends and don't actually have that much of a coke habit at all. They're just lonely and nobody but the people who can use them want to be around them for whatever reason.

Yes, I'm not naive enough to imagine that coke use isn't rife in many walks of life (including amongst some individuals I know), but I also think it takes a certain lack of knowledge of society to know that there are significant numbers of people who are cautious, prudent and reserved in their choices, regardless of their social circle.

They're not nuns who live in a cloister either - they drink, they party, they have fun. But the "just say no" message stuck with them, because that's the sort of personality they are.

They just won't tell you and you'll look like an idiot when people know your husband and sons' are in the toilets doing lines and you think they don't even drink. Everyone will be laughing at you.

I think it’s always been common, I remember being at a house party in my 20s and someone belligerently trying to get me to take coke after I told him i didn’t do drugs, until eventually I had to shove him away and another person intervened. People on coke are insufferable.

But I don’t think it’s as invisiable as you think. I think there are signs of a come down and people can get really sucked in by it all. A lot of the people that I know who have taken Coke have ended up with serious issues. One guy used to go on benders fri-sun, he’d spend mon- weds at work absolutely miserable on a come down until he got sacked and I know a couple who used to do it every weekend and they’d stay out all weekend partying and barely see their kids, one of them ended up moving on to smoking crack and they broke up. So I don’t think it’s naive to think that it’s a problem