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To think people are naive re cocaine

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Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 08:50

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

OP posts:
imogena · 19/10/2025 09:07

My best mate’s nephew died with several other people from taking cocaine that had been cut with fentanyl.

Thaimonstera · 19/10/2025 09:08

Do you take coke op?

AbsentosaurusRex · 19/10/2025 09:08

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 09:02

I don't give a fuck if it's common.

I think dramatically less of anyone who uses it, including my 21yo BIL and SIL who used it in my local pub when we took them out for a meal. They will never be invited again.

I have been in law enforcement for over 20years. The misery of drug dealing, county lines, associated sexual abuse and rapes, the extreme violence, the importation, the dumping of drugs into water courses, the impact on the countries of origin for the drugs..... And people are also only now hearing the risks of things like ketamine and the effects on your bladder, the use of extreme synthetic drugs like nitazenes which has an extraordinarily high risk of death - and you wouldn't have a clue what the substance actually is until your body reacts because you assume your nice drug dealer knows what it is (and most of the time they don't know what it is).

All so some twat can sniff an unidentified white powder up their nose on a Friday night in a quiet local pub because they think they are cool?

Nah, fuck off.

Totally agree

Tiswa · 19/10/2025 09:08

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:05

The point is that you aren't going to be robbing grannies and selling yourself in the streets for cocaine. You can hold down a job and still have a raging cocaine habit. You won't be still working as a banker with a crack habit.

True but that doesn’t mean your behaviour isn’t going to be change that you aren’t fundamentally affecting your personality

it Is what makes it such a dangerous drug

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 09:09

Just under half of all drug-poisoning deaths registered in 2023 were confirmed to involve an opiate (46.8%; 2,551 deaths), while 1,118 deaths involved cocaine, which is 30.5% more than 2022 and represents the 12th consecutive annual rise.
12th consecutive annual rise, this will get worse.

NerrSnerr · 19/10/2025 09:09

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:05

The point is that you aren't going to be robbing grannies and selling yourself in the streets for cocaine. You can hold down a job and still have a raging cocaine habit. You won't be still working as a banker with a crack habit.

They’re not robbing grannies because it’s a middle class drug. People are still getting into huge financial trouble. I know someone who lost their house because of coke. It’s problematic, just a different kind of problematic.

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:09

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 09:02

I don't give a fuck if it's common.

I think dramatically less of anyone who uses it, including my 21yo BIL and SIL who used it in my local pub when we took them out for a meal. They will never be invited again.

I have been in law enforcement for over 20years. The misery of drug dealing, county lines, associated sexual abuse and rapes, the extreme violence, the importation, the dumping of drugs into water courses, the impact on the countries of origin for the drugs..... And people are also only now hearing the risks of things like ketamine and the effects on your bladder, the use of extreme synthetic drugs like nitazenes which has an extraordinarily high risk of death - and you wouldn't have a clue what the substance actually is until your body reacts because you assume your nice drug dealer knows what it is (and most of the time they don't know what it is).

All so some twat can sniff an unidentified white powder up their nose on a Friday night in a quiet local pub because they think they are cool?

Nah, fuck off.

Not sure where you're going with this. Nobody is saying for you to think that is fine or healthy or whatever. But when you are totally oblivious to how common it really is, it shows you as out of touch and yes, naive. Like my neighbour who thinks that only the poor and the common take drugs.

Bumblebee72 · 19/10/2025 09:10

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:03

County lines kids arent abused into doing cocaine. They rarely even sell cocaine. It's usually crack and heroin.

That shows how naive I am then. I thought crack was a type of cocaine. I don't consider myself an expert, in fact I would disassociate myself with people I know to take drugs, as I would if I knew people were burglars or peados.

ainsleysanob · 19/10/2025 09:10

It is incredibly common. 40 year old woman who I worked with and who became a ‘friend’ for a short period of time would take Coke to sit on the settee on an evening with her husband and on a Sunday morning when she was doing her ironing. She had her 11 year old daughter in the house.

teacupzs · 19/10/2025 09:10

It's just such an incredibly selfish thing to do considering the harms the cocaine industry causes in central and south America.

often the same people who take it complain & tut about local crime.

ELO10538 · 19/10/2025 09:10

Wolfiefan · 19/10/2025 08:53

It’s common in your social circle. That is all.

This.

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:11

NerrSnerr · 19/10/2025 09:09

They’re not robbing grannies because it’s a middle class drug. People are still getting into huge financial trouble. I know someone who lost their house because of coke. It’s problematic, just a different kind of problematic.

Yes and nobody is saying that it isnt problematic. It's just that a lot of people don't understand that someone close to them has a serious drug habit because they've still got their professional job and a lot of people assume that anyone with a serious drug problem would not be able to also work and they'd be doing some sort of survival crime like shoplifting or prostitution. It's one of the ways people are naive about drugs.

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 09:12

Also, many people moan about the cost of living, how can they afford to waste money on something so stupid? Sorry but if I found out someone I knew was a user I'd probably just report them, especially if they had children that needed to be protected.

RaraRachael · 19/10/2025 09:14

I personally don't know anyone who takes cocaine. If they did I wouldn't have any more to do with them

There were rumours that our Head Teacher " took drugs" when she was out with her friends at the weekend. But as to what drugs and whether true, I don't know.

KimHwn · 19/10/2025 09:14

I agree, OP. It's a horrible drug, and so so common. I think it's moved from being a going out drug to people using it as we used to use Pro Plus 20 years ago! I know so many professional people who take it at work to get the extra focus and energy, and I absolutely wouldn't have been able to tell if I didn't know- I'd just have thought that they were very friendly and efficient.

None of my circle of immediate friends and family are people I'd imagine to use coke, but that doesn't mean they aren't doing it. And that's true of every circle of people.

MajesticWhine · 19/10/2025 09:14

I know people that take cocaine that I work with professionally because I am a therapist. It’s definitely problematic for mental health especially for people that take it weekly.
No friends of mine take cocaine. I think it’s an age thing. Most people into their late 30s or older or with families grow out of this sort of lifestyle.

Coffeeishot · 19/10/2025 09:15

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 08:53

How sad. Perhaps more jobs should bring in routine drug testing.

My dh works for a national company they drug test randomly and cocaine is apparently the no1 result of the people tested, cocaine ruins lives and "casual " useage is seen as part of a Friday night but it isn't just a Friday night it affects them and their families the rest of the week/month/year.

NerrSnerr · 19/10/2025 09:15

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:11

Yes and nobody is saying that it isnt problematic. It's just that a lot of people don't understand that someone close to them has a serious drug habit because they've still got their professional job and a lot of people assume that anyone with a serious drug problem would not be able to also work and they'd be doing some sort of survival crime like shoplifting or prostitution. It's one of the ways people are naive about drugs.

But then wasn’t the OP saying the opposite to this? She was saying that so many people do coke and do normal jobs with no behavioural changes and those who have the behavioural changes do spice or heroin, and that’s why people are naive. So, on this thread people are naive to drugs because they think coke causes behaviour change and they’re naive because they don’t realise how it affects behaviour.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 09:17

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:05

The point is that you aren't going to be robbing grannies and selling yourself in the streets for cocaine. You can hold down a job and still have a raging cocaine habit. You won't be still working as a banker with a crack habit.

Well you may have to steal when you lose your job, fuck up due to cocaine use a it erodes your personality.

When your holding down a job with a raging cocaine habit, you won't be doing a good job, talking from experience.

I haven't done it in nearly 20 years, but took a lot in 2005/6 the celtic snow tiger.

A lot of cocaine heads don't realise they're messing with crack by sprinkling cocaine in a joint, it is a tiny step.

It eventually gets you.

Oh Users, wait until you're out with a friend, who suffers a cocaine induced psychosis. That's fun to manage, not . Just hope it is your friend, not yourself.

Tiswa · 19/10/2025 09:17

Bumblebee72 · 19/10/2025 09:10

That shows how naive I am then. I thought crack was a type of cocaine. I don't consider myself an expert, in fact I would disassociate myself with people I know to take drugs, as I would if I knew people were burglars or peados.

It is a different drug but still cocaine isn’t it as in crack cocaine so I agree with you

isthesolution · 19/10/2025 09:17

Yes it’s very common now. It’s cheaper and easier to get hold of and the police are just far too busy to intervene every time they suspect.

I also agree that random drugs tests should be carried out by work places. Particularly those responsible for caring (healthcare, schools, childcare etc)

Telephon · 19/10/2025 09:18

You’re right - it’s very common.

I work with a guy who I know for a fact uses it recreationally.

To be fair, it has zero effect on his job - he’s actually brilliant at it.

ImSoJulia · 19/10/2025 09:19

It was around 25yrs ago, I'm not in London either.
Quite glad I don't go out anymore tbh.
Isn't it the Kinahan Cartel and some Albanians who have cornered the UK coke trade?

Themagicfarawaytreeismyfav · 19/10/2025 09:21

Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 08:50

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

Cocaine absolutely does cause massive changes in behaviour and personality! It causes people to behave in ways they most certainly wouldn’t had they not taken it, it can cause manic behaviour and crashing depression!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 09:23

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:03

County lines kids arent abused into doing cocaine. They rarely even sell cocaine. It's usually crack and heroin.

You are fucking joking me.
Are you really that naively educated around drugs. Of course they carry white.
Most foolish comment of the year.