To have cried at Dr not to send me home

[Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave]

For 3 weeks I’ve had left flank pain that’s slowly been getting worse, coupled by loss of appetite and loss of weight for past 2 months (unintended). 3 days ago things really went down hill which ruined my work projects and the pain becoming so bad I started vomiting from the pain and passing out; this prompted me to see the GP who sent me straight to A&E.

29hrs later I’ve finally been told my blood test and urine test suggest something underlying but my CT scan came back clear so I can go come. He said maybe it’s an infection but my temperature isn’t that high.

I just burst into tears at the thought of going home in this pain with no meds to fix anything. He was taken back by my reaction and asked if I felt I needed to stay, I explained what’s been going on and he was surprised as he hadn’t realised how long it had been going on for (I had said on arrival and it was in my GP letter). I then begged to not be sent home and he has agreed but now I feel silly.

You poor thing. Don’t feel silly, it sounds like a perfectly reasonable and normal reaction to me. I hope you feel better soon, OP.

Oh bless you, I hope they give you something for the pain. Being in pain is just rotten and clouds everything else that’s going on. Don’t feel silly, sometimes crying is the only way to let someone know how bad things are.
I hope you feel better soon and get some answers for your symptoms.

Not at all. You are quite justified and they need to find out what's causing it. I hope you get some answers soon.

Well, it worked and you're still there. So don't worry. I hope you are better soon x

Not at all, get well soon x

A friend of mine was sent to A+E the other day by her GP due to similar symptoms you’re experiencing. After all her test results, she’s being treated for a UTI and now feels so much better. Her pain has almost gone. Are you on antibiotics?

That is completely reasonable and it should be much easier to investigate further while you are an in patient .Definitely it was the right thing to do . I hope things improve very soon .

Only you know your own body. Honestly I once knew someone who felt a nuisance in hospital, they didn't know sepsis nearly got them until couple of months after discharge. They were really blasé so scary.

Sorry you are having a rough time.

How high up is the pain? Trust me CT doesn’t
show everything as i’ve discovered over the years

Were you scanned for kidney stones? The pain from that is excruciating. I hope you feel better soon, and you were dead right to demand/ask to stay.

I did the same when I had a gastric bleed (v. serious thing). It was during Covid, I live alone and visitors either to hospital or home were not allowed at the time but my sister broke the rules in the end and made sure I was OK at home. I had to have multiple transfusions etc. and was weak as a kitten and they wanted to get me out of there asap. In fairness the risk of infection at the time of covid was high. But like you, I cried and said I was on my own and was very fearful of getting another bleed and could they keep me one more night to make absolutely sure things were healed. They did.

Absolutely quite right to ask to remain in hospital until your pain is under control and until you get a diagnosis.

Thank you for reassuring me I’m not wasting their time. Actually in the space of that conversation to around 10 minutes ago, I’ve spiked a temp of 40.2 and they’re now treating it as sepsis

interestingly, they have also advised it seems like I have early onset menopause too and should get seen by my GP

You did absolutely the right thing so don’t feel bad. Your pain needs to be investigated properly and a CT scan is a good tool to rule out obvious things but if it is clear then that merits further investigation until they find and treat the cause. Well done for advocating for yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for a second opinion if necessary. I hope you feel more comfortable soon.

Don't feel silly you have to fight for yourself in the nhs you know your own body

That is a completely normal response to that situation and well done for speaking up for yourself. Does he really think it is an infection still? It sounds like it might need some ore investigation, has he suggested more tests.

I’m having a further blood and urine test but that’s it. This new consultant has said he’s gonna nuke it with a load of antibiotics and some other stuff that appears to be steroids? Or maybe that’s for the pain. Either way, this new consultant has admitted me so at least now I’m on a bed and not the A&E chair

We put our faith and trust in medics thinking they know what they are doing and what they are telling us. My Dad presented at hospital 2 years ago and was really unwell. He was sent home and then readmitted 2 days later - he died 2 days after this with multi organ failure due to sepsis. It is now in the hands of Solicitors and I have just received a report into his care which was written by an expert Professor. The negligence is staggering, even my Solicitor said it is a hard read but good for the case. I say this as an NHS nurse with 30 years under her belt. Ask all the questions you want and ensure you are happy with the answers and the plan going forward. Most of all don't be fobbed off like we were. Good luck and I hope that you feel better soon x

Antibiotics and steroids will help your pain @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave

Wonder if it’s diverticulosis?

Sounds like it was the right thing as the Dr. didn't have the full picture until you cried and he enquired more about the issue. He would have still said go home if he didnt think that you should be there. They don't just let you stay in hospital because you cry, the crying prompted him to ask more questions and he reassessed his original opinion and recommended you stay.

You poor thing. It's good you managed to get them to appreciate how serious this is. You may look back at some point in the future and feel glad that you reacted as you did, because you ended up with the care you needed.

I hope you feel better soon.

Hope you feel better soon <3

Can I ask your age and how they diagnosed the early onset menopause?

Glad you're getting treatment now

No idea what could be wrong as I'm no medic but I don't think you're unreasonable at all not to want to be sent home until they've got to the bottom of it, especially as you're in severe pain. Try and get some rest and let the medication do it's work. If it is sepsis, then it's really bad that they nearly sent you home! Hope you are feeling better soon lovely 💐

Well that didn’t last long, they’re now discharging me. I asked if I can at least have pain meds as it’s on my chart I was prescribed them and they’re now implying I’m trying to get them without needing them. I’m so broken. They’ve given me the discharge letter and said they need the bed.

You’ve been on an NHS chair fir 29 hours?!?

Thats such a long time.

I hope you’ll be able to get some rest now and the pain will calm down 🫂🫂