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To think Sainbury's should not be selling this greeting card.

228 replies

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:13

I can't even think of a reason why this card should exist. And I was amazed to see it being sold in Sainsbury's of all places.

To think Sainbury's should not be selling this greeting card.
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TriesNotToBeCynical · 16/10/2025 15:03

Derbee · 16/10/2025 14:53

It’s one thing for Grandparents to “spoil” grandchildren. It’s a problem for me when they say “don’t tell mummy” because my children are raised to know that they shouldn’t have secrets with adults. It’s basic safeguarding. It’s not that the grandparents are abusing them, but it blurs the lines about when it is ok to keep things from mummy and daddy, and when it’s not.

Grandparents who give children sweets etc and say “don’t tell your parents” are part of a wider problem, but many won’t see it this way unfortunately.

I’d be livid if any of the grandparents/uncles/aunts told my children to keep things from me, and I raise my children to know that they can tell me things and they won’t get in trouble.

I find the card stupid and pointless, but I couldn’t get worked up about it. Wouldn’t buy it, don’t find it funny, but I could say that about 80% of greetings cards probably.

That is very important point. I remember being in hospital at the age of 5 or 6 or so and the nurses taking away (probably for sound reasons) the sweets my parents gave me, and telling me not to tell my parents they had done so. I still remember how stressful this was. It is a very thoughtless thing to tell children, as well as dangerous.

Missey85 · 16/10/2025 15:03

I've seen heaps worse! There's nothing wrong with this card 😂 if your that sensitive maybe you should stay indoors where your safe from the horrible world 🤣🤣🤣

louderthan · 16/10/2025 15:05

DrowningInSyrup · 16/10/2025 14:36

Unless the message inside says "Because she's a Slag" then YABVVU

🤣🤣🤣

Namechange2700000 · 16/10/2025 15:05

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:24

Would they sell a card saying "What happens at Grandad's, stays at Grandad's"?

Get a life.

Namechange2700000 · 16/10/2025 15:06

louderthan · 16/10/2025 15:05

🤣🤣🤣

😂

Missey85 · 16/10/2025 15:07

BallerinaRadio · 16/10/2025 14:53

Like what? I was looking at cards in Sainsbury's the other day and must have missed the 'Happy Birthday you old cunt' cards

I'm in Australia and I remember mum getting dad a card that said just that! 🤣🤣

Notagain75 · 16/10/2025 15:08

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 16/10/2025 14:16

Nah, I'm more disturbed that people buy actual cards for their pets 😂

Do they? That's madness

I think the card in the post is just a light hearted joke I don't see the issue

RaininSummer · 16/10/2025 15:09

Very strange overreaction OP.

PastaAllaNorma · 16/10/2025 15:10

A reach like that could strain a muscle, OP. I hope you warmed up first.

It's a card from grandchildren to their grandma riffing on the face she spoils them rotten, as almost all good grandma's do.

Katiesaidthat · 16/10/2025 15:11

Instantly took me back to my gran´s...those were the days...

Nothing wrong with it, drama llama.

SapphireSeptember · 16/10/2025 15:11

Notagain75 · 16/10/2025 15:08

Do they? That's madness

I think the card in the post is just a light hearted joke I don't see the issue

I saw ones in Card Factory that were 'Happy Mother's Day from the cat/dog' and other variations on the theme. Absolutely nuts!

BCBird · 16/10/2025 15:12

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 16/10/2025 14:16

It's just a joke, probably about the sweets, junk food and late bedtimes kids get at their grandma's that their parents wouldn't approve of.

This is what immediate came to.mind

mrlistersgelfbride · 16/10/2025 15:15

You have way too much time on your hands.

Bikergran · 16/10/2025 15:18

Did something traumatic happen at your grandma's? Just a jokey card to me, but personally I can't think of an occasion for which I'd use it.

Mansionscoldandgrey · 16/10/2025 15:18

Sshh 🤫
What happens in Sainsbury's, stays in Sainsbury's

BadgernTheGarden · 16/10/2025 15:19

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 16/10/2025 14:16

It's just a joke, probably about the sweets, junk food and late bedtimes kids get at their grandma's that their parents wouldn't approve of.

Yes Grandma secretly spoils them rotten!

Why does everything get taken as something sinister these days?

Funnywonder · 16/10/2025 15:21

DrowningInSyrup · 16/10/2025 14:36

Unless the message inside says "Because she's a Slag" then YABVVU

Oh God that absolutely made my day🤣🤣

pilates · 16/10/2025 15:22

Sometimes I just come on MN to read bizarre posts 🙄

Thehorticuluralhussie · 16/10/2025 15:23

BallerinaRadio · 16/10/2025 14:53

Like what? I was looking at cards in Sainsbury's the other day and must have missed the 'Happy Birthday you old cunt' cards

It's in the Fruit & Veg aisle. Next to the pornographic aubergines which frankly are way too phallic for public display.
Tuts theatrically.

MagpiePi · 16/10/2025 15:23

Faceonthewrongfoot · 16/10/2025 14:30

And random capital A's in the middle of lower case words? Absolutely shocking.

At least they used an apostrophe correctly.

DrowningInSyrup · 16/10/2025 15:23

Funnywonder · 16/10/2025 15:21

Oh God that absolutely made my day🤣🤣

They are in production as we speak 😉

limescale · 16/10/2025 15:24

I think I would buy it for my Mum as a thank you for being such a fun and loving grandma to my kids, and that I'm fine with her giving them treats that she knows we limit at home.

Quite niche to be fair and a moot point cos she died 15 years ago. Thankfully she did have quite a few years of having grandchildren.

Uricon2 · 16/10/2025 15:25

AsAliveAsYouNeedMeToBe · 16/10/2025 14:53

And why not? It's a 'you' problem.

My grandad was my favourite person in the world. He spoilt me rotten, spent so much time with me explaining things, teaching me to ride a bike, to read, reading me stories himself, taking me for long walks, train-watching, talking to me. He didn't treat me as a 'baby', really talked to me, and always had time for me, never chased me away. And he bought me everything I wanted, but that's not the point. God, I miss him.

My own dad is a bit more reserved and doesn't have such connection to my DD, but they love each other, and both him and my mum also spoil her rotten and are good grandparents.

Not all men/family members are perverted pedos, you know.

This. I was my grandfather's "little pal", was never happier than when "helping" ( ie utterly hindering) him in his workshop or garden and still miss him very much over half a century later.

Snorlaxo · 16/10/2025 15:26

If you have had a horrible incident happen at your grandmother’s house then I’m sorry and can see why this might trigger you but it’s referring to grandmothers (or grandfathers) spoiling kids with money in the card, staying up late etc rather than keeping “bad secrets” like abuse which is what you’re presumably referring to.

I’ve read your update and grandmothers are usually the ones to buy cards but grandfathers love spoiling their grandchildren too. I assume that this isn’t the kind of grandparents that you had but the majority of people have loving grandparents who might pop a secret tenner in the card.