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Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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TwinklyFawn · 14/10/2025 13:13

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

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haveaword · 15/10/2025 05:48

youalright · 14/10/2025 22:51

I use sarcasm to tell people to their face what I really think of them they think I'm joking I'm not

Nasty

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 05:52

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 14/10/2025 23:20

It definitely should be more tightly regulated, I know of a few shockingly unfair situations.

Balance it out in your head with the many people who suffer greatly who can't get anything, or the people who rely on benefits and might lose them, and their homes, and their families.

MassiveTrollop · 15/10/2025 05:56

I’ve been with my current partner for 16 years. He’s the only partner I’ve been faithful to, and that’s mostly because I’ve got too old and lazy to bother.

Iwishthiswasnottrue · 15/10/2025 05:57

GarlicPound · 15/10/2025 01:40

Last I looked, Tonga, Nauru, Tuvalu and Samoa weren't "Western".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_obesity_rate

Tonga and Samoa import and eat a lot of very high fat food.

Pollyputthe · 15/10/2025 05:58

Very mild in comparison but mine is that my ex was the love of my life and im still so so devastated we split up even though i look fine. People keep saying plenty more fish but I need a magic pill to forget our time together as for the first time in my life, I was truly happy with someone. I can't bear that ill never feel like that with anyone again. We were both besotted with each other and I felt seen.

Im pretty sure he feels the same but our lives dont marry up well (I have other responsibilities) and he wants someone without kids etc (like him). Hes a bit of a man child so rationally, we shouldn't be together but in reality, there was a lot of love.

That im jealous of a lovely friend whose marriage went down the pan and she immediately met this amazing man who does everything for her and her child. Their lives fuse perfectly, she doesn't have to do anything as he covers all the childcare and adores them both. Whenever I speak to them, hes so besotted and a fantastic step dad. Makes me sad that my path has always been a lone one.

That Im not white but can see why people feel uncomfortable around immigration as there are so many Muslims in London now. Most of my non white friends feel the same. Its uncomfortable seeing women in full burkhas locally. They dont integrate outside their community though I find this with Jewish people too.

Iwishthiswasnottrue · 15/10/2025 06:00

JHound · 15/10/2025 01:46

This puts the cart before the horse, ignores all the research from actual experts in the field snd shows a woeful lack of understanding of what food availability does to contibute to the obesity epidemic. It’s like being shocked that junkies who are surrounded by easily accessible class A drugs and have a little bit everyday struggle to kick the habit.

There are a plethora of biological factors that make weight loss impossible for some people and WLM assists with that.

Do you have the same view of junkies, alcoholics and anorexics.

Weight loss is down to calories in versus calories out.

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 06:02

Stealth18 · 15/10/2025 05:30

I believe that 90% of all people claiming mental health issues have nothing wrong with them and are simply just inadequate and looking for excuses.

I wonder if you'd feel the same if your child tried to commit suicide, your partner suffered from psychosis or your sister died from anorexia. Would they conveniently slide into the 10% or are they just inadequate.

MiserableMrsMopp · 15/10/2025 06:02

HappyNewTaxYear · 14/10/2025 23:47

Tell us more about the sacking… was it deserved?

Oh yes. He was an arse. The relief was enormous!

dollyblue01 · 15/10/2025 06:03

I hate Christmas and the whole family thing and pressure of having to see everyone and buying stuff , plastering on a smile bc it’s Christmas , always glad when it’s Boxing Day.

babasaclover · 15/10/2025 06:06

SunshineAndFizz · 14/10/2025 22:04

I don’t like receiving flowers. I’ve never told anyone, as lots of people have bought them for me over the years and it’s a very kind gesture. But I don’t like them.

Me neither I just don’t get it 🤷‍♀️ I hate arranging them in the vase then watering them then they die

Dpresst · 15/10/2025 06:11

I hate my Dad. He treated us like shit growing up, acted like he hated us. 5 years ago he had a stroke and became depressed, tried to commit suicide 2 years ago. Since then my brother and I have and continue to dig him out of the financial hole he’s got himself into. Now he’s a walking cringe machine, Hawaiian shirts, stupid hats, embarrassing behaviour, overstepping in everything he does, stupid tone deaf opinions, racist undertones in the things he says.
He only contacts us when he needs us to do something for him (needs money, has some problem he can’t fix himself) I’m so done with him. He works as little as possible, over exaggerates his health problems so he doesn’t have to take on more work. Always working some sort of ridiculous scheme to benefit himself in some way, trying to sell stupid home made inventions. He thinks he’s bloody hilarious too. JUST FUCK OFF OUT OF MY LIFE YOU CRINGEY TWAT.

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 06:15

Soonenough · 15/10/2025 00:11

I wish I was a widow. I do have secret money but I owe my bro £4000. I did influence uncle to cut some relatives out of his will . It is my fault I got sacked for thinking I was the righteous one but I was badly wrong . I am jealous of some of my friends . I think I still love my ex . I don't really care about my friends problems.

You're dark and I like you

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 06:18

I sometimes fantasise about taking a sniper gun to the roof, like that scene in Leon and shooting people who have hurt me. It relaxes me.

In RL I am fully against gun ownership.

Rumplestrumpet · 15/10/2025 06:37

I'm currently miscarrying, but don't want to tell people Because I was planning an abortion.

I'm in my 40s, already have 2 kids and just couldn't cope with another. So as soon as I found out I was pregnant I started arrangements for a termination.

I am scared if I tell people I'm miscarrying then I'll have to pretend to be really upset about it. Weird thing is that I AM upset, but don't know why.

And worried those who know me will know I would have wanted an abortion....

And I'm worried colleagues will judge me for foolishly getting pregnant when I should know better at my age

And having struggled with infertility fo years I am worried I'll upset people who are themselves trying for a baby.

I thought last 40 I didn't care what other people think but it seems I do, and that makes me feel really stupid

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 06:37

JHound · 15/10/2025 01:39

So if you acknowledge that obesity causes health issues why oppose weight loss drugs that counteract the biological factors that make weight loss nigh on impossible for some people.

It’s not physically impossible for some people to lose weight! You’re making it sound like being overweight or obese is due to a differing biological make up compared to slim people and that’s absolute bollocks.

As I say, nothing like taking pain relief. I’m not against medication or even the jab to lose weight, as the state has clearly needed to step in, such is the sheer number of obese people and the toll on their own health and the cost to the NHS

Rickyrainfrogsittingonhislillypad · 15/10/2025 06:38

I didn't want to get married on my wedding day
My Dp had had an affair and I'd kicked him out ..but we had 4 kids and 2 had SEN and I couldn't work out how I would manage them on my own and bring in an income...dp had insisted I was a SAHM and insisted I pack my career in ,and he then got given my job as we he worked together,where I was his boss .
So I married him ,for security,so he would have to contribute financially if he left again.
20 years later , sadly,he's still here ..( not sure I mean sadly ..some days I do some I don't)

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 06:43

BeanQuisine · 15/10/2025 02:01

Slim people don't qualify for these drugs, because they obviously don't need them, no matter who's paying for them.

And I'm sure most slim people are happy about that and not inclined to moan about purely imaginary "cheating" by morbidly obese people who clearly do need to lose weight. The effort required by reasonably slim people to stay that way is far, far less than the effort required to shed massive amounts of weight after years of chronic obesity.

The injections help these people stick to a weight loss diet - it's not some magic "quick fix", they have to do massive dieting successfully for a long time to shed all that weight.

In many cases, the drugs make this feasible when previously it seemed impossible.

Obviously, Randian-style "libertarians" will regard anyone not personally paying full price for their medicines as "cheating", as they are opposed to all publicly subsided health measures.

But I'm happy to admit in real life, and here, that I regard such people as basically evil.

There we go again, the assumption that slim people are somehow ‘lucky’ because they are slim. There is no luck about it. Many people make proactive choices to stay that weight and if they didn’t they would ‘need’ the jab too. There is nothing fundamentally different to their bodies!it’s that they don’t eat as many calories etc..

ThisMellowCat · 15/10/2025 06:45

I know this is true, I work the fraud line.

shhblackbag · 15/10/2025 06:46

I hate Christmas.

I'm so worried about my parents' health that I stay relatively close instead of living in a different country, although I would prefer to. I wish they were healthy so I didn't have this consideration.

Rabbitoney · 15/10/2025 06:46

I don’t love my brother. I know I should but I actually think I hate him. I’ve spent the last 15 years trying and failing to help him with his alcoholism and mental health issues. He was sexually assaulted while at boarding school and that has destroyed him. I try to feel compassion for him but I’ve been worn down by over a decade of self pity and delusion and entitlement on his part. He treats me like an ATM and I am sick of it. The worst part is not only that I don’t love him, I don’t even like him. He’s obnoxious and opinionated and apparently determined to spend the rest of his life wallowing in self pity while expecting to be bailed out at every turn. I often think he only dragged me into his mess because he knew that I wouldn’t be able to turn him away because he’s family.

TwinklyStork · 15/10/2025 06:46

HeddaGarbled · 15/10/2025 01:13

I’m not interested in news stories about people being killed or dying, even when it’s children.

I’m not either but only because they’re so common they lose their shock value.

Similarly I’m not really interested in the whole Gaza/Palestine thing. It’s so far removed from my life that I can’t understand the debate and I don’t understand why people from these areas are so hell bent on killing each other - why is the society in the Middle East not more civilised?! It takes up so much of our news coverage when there are things happening here that need reporting. I just switch off and don’t watch it.

Cerezo · 15/10/2025 06:47

I cleaned up but I really really miss drugs.

ThisMellowCat · 15/10/2025 06:48

Do what my dad used to do, tell everyone you are allergic to them, we couldn’t have them in the house.

MirrorMirror1247 · 15/10/2025 06:48

I know someone who's written two books and self published them. They're not very good. The story ideas have promise, but they're so badly written. But I can't say this to her.

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 06:50

Kingsleadhat · 14/10/2025 23:36

I am exactly the same. It almost annoys me when I get them, even though on another level I appreciate the gesture. I know I sound like an ungrateful cow

I love flowers and always have a supermarket bunch on the kitchen table, so people always buy me proper florist bunches for occassions, and I hate them because they're garish and mixed. I always wish they'll die quickly so I can bin them.
I like a single bunch of daffs, or just white tulips, or just pink hyacinths, or just peonies, or just sunflowers....

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