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Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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TwinklyFawn · 14/10/2025 13:13

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

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ThisMellowCat · 15/10/2025 06:51

Because I work from home I stay in my pjs all day.

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 06:51

daddysgirlnot · 14/10/2025 22:03

I regret my entire career & loathe my job, but I’m too close to retirement to walk away now.

What is your job?

youalright · 15/10/2025 06:52

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 06:43

There we go again, the assumption that slim people are somehow ‘lucky’ because they are slim. There is no luck about it. Many people make proactive choices to stay that weight and if they didn’t they would ‘need’ the jab too. There is nothing fundamentally different to their bodies!it’s that they don’t eat as many calories etc..

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Not true at all i was always skinny up until a few years ago I could eat what I wanted never gained wait. Then I ended up on steroids, got hypothyroidism and pretty sure im in peri menopause and now I just gain weight like anything I eat significantly less then I ever have yet I weigh more then I ever have. If I ate what I ate when I was skinny and didn't restrict myself id probably be about 20 stone right now.

Anotherdayanotherpound · 15/10/2025 06:53

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

I feel the same. Have persuaded most of the adults in my family to stop doing the unwanted present swap at Christmas!

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 06:54

I forget my young niece and nephew exist and never give them a thought. I hate it when they come to visit, or we visit them.
We don't live close by and, as much as I've tried otherwise, I realise I just don't care about them any more than I would an acquaintance.
I see people thrilled about the birth of a new niece or nephew and I'm there thinking...🤷🏼‍♀️ meh.
DH and I chose not to have kids and I guess it's confirmed that I'm really not a child person.

Anotherdayanotherpound · 15/10/2025 06:56

namechangetheworld · 14/10/2025 23:32

I married DH because I was desperate to settle down and have children. I convinced myself that I loved him at the start of the relationship because he was a decent sort, but certainly didn't on my wedding day. We didn't spend a single minute of the reception together. I vividly remember my new SIL coming over and laughing to come and watch my DH's drunken dancing, and privately thinking that I really didn't give a toss and just wanted to chat to my friends.

I'm sure it was painfully obvious to everybody around us; he didn't love me either.

We're still married, eleven years later.

Are you content though? Or frustrated?

Reallyneedsaholiday · 15/10/2025 06:59

Unbelievable2025 · 15/10/2025 00:26

Just wondering why you married him? Did you think he would be a good husband/father?

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Yes, and I also thought we’d be happy together. And for a very long time, we were.

FamilyPhoto · 15/10/2025 07:00

Jtfrtj · 15/10/2025 01:18

I am naturally skinny and would struggle to put weight on if I tried, I would have to eat an overwhelming amount of food and barely move day to day. I think most fat people make excuses for their weight, when most of the time it boils down to laziness and lack of self discipline with food. The ones who admit this and don’t care, you have to respect. But the ones who don’t take accountability are tiring to listen to. Just own it. The average UK dress size for a woman is now a size 14, this highlights how deluded we have become to what is considered a healthy weight. And people will defend to the death and scream that a size 14 is not big. It might not be obese but it’s not healthy and slim either.

I am from a country where fast food didn’t exist growing up, we did not have takeaways. Just simplistic veg and meat. The majority of the population is slim, even through our middle and old age.

It really isn’t rocket science.

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Bollocks.
My DH is like you , he eats much more than I do, similar height . He is retired and quite sedentary due to an injury and has weighed the same ideal weight for 30 + years.
Im active and eat far less than him but Im 3 stone overweight.

Im on medications for chronic pain ( was ideal weight when starting on them) and on hrt for menopause.

EVERY BODY IS DIFFERENT.

Anotherdayanotherpound · 15/10/2025 07:00

OctoberNight · 14/10/2025 23:59

i have a fear of being the centre of attention at a party - or a funeral. The thought of my partner dying terrifies me, not only because of the grief, but because I’d have to make a speech, or read a poem, and it wouldn’t do him justice. I fear not enough people would come or they’d discover I don’t have that many friends and judge me.

This sounds so shallow - I’d never say it in real life.

You don’t have to speak at al
at a funeral. None of us children spoke at a parents funeral. It was a traditional religious service and we were all very upset and didn’t see any need to put ourselves through having to say something on top

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 15/10/2025 07:01

I never tell people that I post on here. Sometimes I’ll say “I read online…” but I’d never admit to posting on an online forum and I’d never say I was a mumsnet user.

CautiousLurker01 · 15/10/2025 07:03

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:45

Get yourself a vibrator, you’ll thank me I promise!! No need for a man!

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Isn’t that cheating too?

ThisMellowCat · 15/10/2025 07:04

I hate when people call you on a customer service line, and threaten to harm themselves if you don’t do what they want. Why are you telling me this? My job is already sh#t without dealing with that too!

Achewyhamster · 15/10/2025 07:04

I wish my brother hadn't saved my mothers life

She was taken ill and was told that if he hadn't rang an ambulance she would have been dead within the hour

That's all he did-pick up the phone

it was me that was running around after her for months while she recovered (I had 3 dc under 3,one was a newborn and I had crushing pnd)

Of course,she was on her knees with gratitude that he'd picked up the phone but didnt give a fuck that I ran myself into the ground,looking after her (and my father and 3 brothers-men can't be expected to look after themselves)

When the shit hit the fan and I went nc,she told me she wished id never been born as I was always 'the noose around her neck'

She never loved me,I was only around to do the donkey work,provide for her financially and to put down

Many more stories but that one crushed me

I really wish he hadn't picked up the phone

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:09

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

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Yes but those people are in competition. If jabs make you lose weight I can’t see why others should look on it as cheating, unless there is some resentment at play by the accuser.

youalright · 15/10/2025 07:09

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 15/10/2025 07:01

I never tell people that I post on here. Sometimes I’ll say “I read online…” but I’d never admit to posting on an online forum and I’d never say I was a mumsnet user.

Same I don't want to risk anyone figuring out who i am and if anyone mentions mumsnet il act dumb and say whats that I've never looked at it

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 15/10/2025 07:09

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 15/10/2025 07:01

I never tell people that I post on here. Sometimes I’ll say “I read online…” but I’d never admit to posting on an online forum and I’d never say I was a mumsnet user.

I just always assumed everyone does this tbh

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:13

youalright · 15/10/2025 07:09

Same I don't want to risk anyone figuring out who i am and if anyone mentions mumsnet il act dumb and say whats that I've never looked at it

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Me too. I never ever mention MN in real life and would feign ignorance if it was ever mentioned. I sometimes fear I’ll get a response from someone saying “Real name, is that you”?

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 07:13

SunshineAndFizz · 14/10/2025 22:04

I don’t like receiving flowers. I’ve never told anyone, as lots of people have bought them for me over the years and it’s a very kind gesture. But I don’t like them.

me either. I love growing things but not fond of cut flowers at all

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 07:13

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 15/10/2025 07:09

I just always assumed everyone does this tbh

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😆 The first rule of Mumsnet is you do not talk about Mumsnet.

CautiousLurker01 · 15/10/2025 07:15

I really don’t like curry. 33 years with DH who loves it and I just smile and eat it…

DontbesorrybeGiles · 15/10/2025 07:18

MirrorMirror1247 · 15/10/2025 06:48

I know someone who's written two books and self published them. They're not very good. The story ideas have promise, but they're so badly written. But I can't say this to her.

I know one of these too. She talked about her book for years and I bought it when it was finally self published and was genuinely blown away by how terrible it was. She asked people to write online reviews and everything. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

NewAgeNewMe · 15/10/2025 07:18

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 07:13

😆 The first rule of Mumsnet is you do not talk about Mumsnet.

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Obviously 😁🤣

mine is I am sick and tired of being in daily pain.

I think of food constantly but so careful what I eat as I can’t exercise easily.

Just been on holiday with friends and they were shocked at how little I eat and I’m overweight due to medication.

I used to be a size 6 and I cry for that person that could run and walk and eat what they wanted. Hey ho!

MinnieBaldock · 15/10/2025 07:19

TheFormidableMrsC · 14/10/2025 23:13

Oh my gosh me too! It does me in. I hate them. Such a faff. I had a loss recently and my house was full of them and I couldn’t wait to throw them out. I felt so guilty that large expensive bouquets kept arriving. I’d far rather have a plant or something for the garden. The only flowers I buy myself in Spring is daffodils as they are joyous.

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Oh me too as well,I love daffs though. I call them a little bit of sunshine. Flowers should be left to grow in the ground.

MinnieBaldock · 15/10/2025 07:21

TwinklyStork · 14/10/2025 23:17

I think David Bowie was overrated.

Not even sorry.

Yeah and Elton John and Lou Reed. Love Elvis though.

ditsyditherer · 15/10/2025 07:32

I have an innocent crush on my gay work colleague.

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