Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Thank you, @GarlicPound ❤️

A very valid point. Many people regret having children, only they would never admit it. And it's funny to see how everyone has to warn in their posts 'I'm not depressed,' as this seems to be the answer to everything on Mumsnet: You're unhappy about the supermarket prices, you're depressed. You want to leave your job, you're depressed (or neurodivergent). It's so annoying -there must be a label for everything - or an excuse.

Where to start.

I loathe my job. I have only been there 6 months and massively regret it. I spend every day debilitated by anxiety, I am in way over my head and wing it daily and most of the people I work with are utter arseholes. I have an interview lined up for something else but it far from ideal, logistically, but I genuinely have no idea how I can carry on every day.

I hate my family life, I don’t enjoy parenting and suspect I’m not very good at it and my home depresses me as there is so much to do it overwhelms me.

I drink far too much. I’m probably borderline alcoholic.

I have feelings for an ex co worker from my previous job, I have regular fantasies about us running away together despite us both being married.

I secretly want my partner to control me. I’ve always been attracted to the thought of having a partner who would be controlling. Which if you knew me, makes no sense as I also hate being told what to do..

Worried having this 2nd baby will ruin my relationship with me daughter. It’s a boy.
its a projection of my mum me and my bother. Little more of an age gap and both kids for me are wanted. She just favours him so much and always has. I’m scared

Really? I am a widow (with two young children) and it’s really fucking hard

I think people who make tattoos their personality very tedious and most of their tattoos look awful.

Oh, and most singers/music artisits are actually very boring and self-absorbed people, and movies about them are rubbish (Exception Robbie Williams and Elton John were quite good).

I feel like this. Love her so so much, but my mum isn't that educated and often behaves in a judgemental way and assumes she is right about other people and their lives. She's said things over the years like 'boys will be boys' and I find myself seeing less of her.

I could not care less about most people. My DH and DC and a small handful of others are the only people I care about. News about global events other people get angry about do not move me at all. Sounds really mean, maybe I'm weird

Oh and I forgot the big one..

Cats... but mainly people who worship them.

I beleive it is mulit-facited but the available food has a huge (no pun inteded) factor to play. When you didn't have the resources to buy food you used to get really skinny.... now you are really fat.

For people who are so obese they can't walk/toilet/wash there will be a strong mental health component to it, and a system that supports it by continually buying/preparing food. My boss had a band put in. She initially lost alot of weight but now its going back on, because she still eats the same foods i.e. high sugar.

I wouldnt dare admit to some of the things Ive done for revenge against bad bosses, and bad neighbours. Sod this "live your best life" idea. I like to see the bad actors suffer.

They know and they also think you’re a wimp for failing to be direct.

Ancient Egyptians? 😉

I hate my mother, she was cruel and abusive when I was younger. Still the same, I’m nearly 60 and still afraid of her.

I wish she had died rather than my dad.

I internally roll my eyes when people at work tell me they’re neurodivergent or have an acronym beginning with ‘A’, mostly self-diagnosed. I don’t care, I just want you to do your (very well paid) job and stop expecting me to pick up the slack because you have no time management skills.

Ditto ‘mental health’. Seems to have now become shorthand for peak self-centredness with people taking days off willy nilly because they’ve had a challenging client conversation or received some honest developmental feedback, with no thought as to who’s picking up their work while they’re binge watching Netflix.

disclaimer - I do believe in both of these things, but think they’ve been overused to the point of meaninglessness in many cases, which is really unfortunate for genuine sufferers.

I used to do this too when I was married and my children were small.
I would take the dog for a walk in the evening and look at little houses and bungalows on our route, thinking how I would arrange my furniture, and what my decor would be.

With my children all adults and being divorced I am now living my dream living alone in my lovely little house.

Could you regift the vouchers?

Even though I love them dearly, I am beyond stressed whenever my adult DC’s visit or we have to go visit either of them. Too long a story to explain why in this forum.

Don't despair !
Many people get married "later" in life. My second husband was in his late 40s when we got married.
He'd been in the forces and never married. He had taken early retirement to look after his elderly mother and I met him at church.
I firmly believe that there's a "lid for every pot".

"my self esteem is so low that it could parachute out of a snakes arse."

I cracked up laughing at this, ^ and I'm stealing it (although I suspect you didn't post it to be funny.) Having a sense of humour is a great asset. There are too many BOFs (boring old farts) in the world.

I believe that 90% of all people claiming mental health issues have nothing wrong with them and are simply just inadequate and looking for excuses.

How much I cannot stand my parents in law. I hate spending time with them. They have nothing nice to say to me or about me and little interest in me or our kids. I hate their politics which they bring into everything, they are bigoted and hateful and it’s almost impossible to have a conversation with them about anything without politics being shoehorned in. I can’t eat at the same table as MIL as she is the most disgusting eater I’ve ever met. I thank god they live hundreds of miles away. DH knows they are difficult but he loves them.

Ah that’s better!

This is horrendous. So sorry you have this mother.

I really want to know now!

Me too !