Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

[TwinklyFawn]

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Why do they need to be held accountable? There are drugs which enable people to lose weight and improve their health outcomes - that's amazing. Stop being bitter and jealous, it really is a very negative and damaging emotion.

Re the excessive presents: We got out of the buying presents for everyone once the next generation arrived. It became younger kids only and money to older ones. If you feel you have to buy presents I think a donkey in a sanctuary, a well in Africa, school books ditto - I'm sure you could find lots of charities. It will at least mean that someone or something benefits from the presents and emphasise how materialistic what they are buying for you is. If you can get your children involved in picking presents for deprived families, shoe boxes for Ukraine etc it could turn into something really nice

No, there are other places to live, and work!!

Haha! 😄 I'm pleased to say it did, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels similarly to me!

But people say they can’t help it and their bodies are naturally bigger. That’s BS.

And you’re making excuses. That was the literal definition of lack of self control with food. No one said it was easy but stop victimising them it’s tiring.

Me too! I feel terrible thinking it 😂

Anyone over the age of 25 should not be wearing corduroy pinafores or any type of dungarees. I hate it when grown women dress like cbbc presenters!

How is she being bitter and jealous? Honest some people do not know how to debate with logic.

Grow up fgs. You have no idea what sort of person or parent this poster is. If she is extrordinarily selfish, you are monumentally rude.
Not everyone has to do what you do. Open your mind.

Fwiw, I've kept some key items but not everything. My house is tiny and we're full to the brim without hoarding nostalgia.

This is probably quite outing, but I sometimes wonder what type of person my birth father was to influence my birth mum and get her addicted to drugs. He was Chinese and I know the drugs like heroin were very popular with the Chinese, hence the addiction.

My birth mum had a lot of issues witt her abusive father, who was a dreadful racist about my birth father, saying he hated him etc. It's most likely what druve her to the drugs.

I don't know whether I'd say i hate my birth father as I've never met him. I just hate how he lead her astray when she was so young and vulnerable. It's definitely been the best thing she did giving me away for adoption, but I needed to tell her that I didnt like how much her drug addiction had been so damaging for me (and lead to my premature birth). I'm glad I didnt tell her before she died, as it's easier to let someone pass away in peace.

Most days I am glad to be here, alive. Occasionally I feel resentful of the course of her life, my life, my health etc.

Actually, obesity is a chronic, relapsing disease so you're wrong. However, since you clearly dislike overweight people so much, be happy that so many of them have now lost vast amounts of weight with GLP1s - that's definitely something to be celebrated.

Attention. Being special and different and everyone being forced to baby them

I’d say that my husband was “in love” with me, when we got married, but never actually loved me.

It gets more complicated when you decide to ask why people find it hard to control themselves around food. I am obese, and it is something I have struggled with my whole life. I know I eat because I am depressed and have poor self esteem, because I was bullied at school. Food has never let me down or hurt me, when too many other things in this world have.

Being obese depresses me too - and the simple answer is eat less, lose weight, be less depressed - but my stupid brain fights against that.

I am doing better at the moment - losing weight gradually - but I absolutely hate it when I see people being so judgemental towards people like me. We are still people and do not deserve your nastiness. Being fat is not a moral failing.

I was not projecting.

I also married someone i didn’t love or even like. General overwhelming unhappiness can make you do these things. Sort of like a major change might be better than status quo. It didn’t work out.

I didn’t say that

There we go the victim mentality. I don’t like or dislike people based on their appearance despite you trying to use emotive language to strengthen your point because I disagree with it.

Yes, well it sounds like you made a wise choice. It’s often said that people are deceived by media depictions of ideal romantic love eg in films. But it may be that real life isn’t really like that.

You said something about being “in love” with him but not actually loving him

which really means squat all beyond a channel 5 rom com

@ChessBess - we use emotive language because this is an issue which is often deeply enmeshed with emotive issues.

That's so sad!

Where's the victim mentality - I pointed out you're wrong and lacking in education on the issue which you haven't acknowledged. Equip yourself with the facts and then let's have a proper debate.

@muteme do you understand what caused you to pretend to be mute and then live your adult life that way? Do you not feel it limits you? Do you never feel tempted to talk?