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TwinklyFawn · 2025-10-14T12:13:51+00:00

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Fetchthevet · 15/10/2025 17:14

MrsNadjaCravensworth · 15/10/2025 17:10

But I did feel bad, that's my point!

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Well I'm very glad that you don't now, that's my point!

Rattanlamp · 15/10/2025 17:14

itsgoodtobehome · 15/10/2025 16:56

You see - this in itself had annoyed me. So you're not actually mute - just attention seeking. That's annoying and things like this annoy me. Just grow up and speak.

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This. I find people who try to give the impression they’re deep and mysterious are often desperately attention seeking and just cunning. Not nice traits

JHound · 15/10/2025 17:15

stingyfil · 15/10/2025 15:42

I really dislike my FIL. He's a millionaire, some self made, but definitely had a huge leg up, as his parents gifted him a house and a business (long before they died, it was not inheritance, but very generous gifts when he was young enough to really use them to get ahead).

He is as tight as they come. Never helps his own children, in the way that he was helped, despite BIL being on the breadline. Keeps all his money to himself, splurges on several holidays a year for him and his new wife (who is also filthy rich), business class seats, top hotels etc.

All while his (other) son lives in abject poverty, in a small house that he can't even afford to heat. They have kids too. So he has 3 grandchildren that also go without.

Even if we all go out for a meal (very rare), FIL doesn't offer to get the bill. FIL had his kids when he was very young, so by the time DH & BIL inherit, they will probably be in their 70's, which will be far too late to really make a difference.

He also never asks about anyone else's news or how they are, and drones on endlessly about his latest holidays. If you pipe up with something about yourself he glazes over and doesn't reply.

I can't stand meanness.

Why would he have 3 kids while living in abject poverty?

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 17:16

Outside9 · 15/10/2025 14:35

English, British, in fact most of Western society and culture is so backwards in many ways despite the guise of civility.

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Yet some of the most ‘advanced’ countries still hold medieval belief systems and women aren’t important.

Stoufer · 15/10/2025 17:16

HoppityBun · 14/10/2025 23:20

I expect you’ve thought of this, but could you use the vouchers to buy presents for the people who give them to you, if you’re expected to buy them presents. Or buy stuff for charities? Like positive money laundering?

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That’s what I do!!! We frequently get John Lewis or garden centre vouchers, so I save them up then get birthday gifts for other people with them. It feels much better than re-gifting gifts other have bought you…

JHound · 15/10/2025 17:18

Stanislas · 15/10/2025 16:08

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I understand childless people who go for surrogacy but I hate the thought of a child conceived for payment. Since I read about two men who raped a baby to death I want to start a campaign against gay men adopting . Not bothered about gay men but I’ve never heard of lesbians killing a child though there may be. I live in a very “ liberal” city.

By this criteria nobody, straight or gay should ever be allowed to raise kids.

Outside9 · 15/10/2025 17:18

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 17:16

Yet some of the most ‘advanced’ countries still hold medieval belief systems and women aren’t important.

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Okay

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 17:21

The people who don't believe in FME? Are you saying that human medical knowledge has gone as far as it can and that there are no more 'syndromes" that can't have enough discovered about them to define a cause and find a treatment? IBS is still a syndrome but there is no doubt about its reality, similarly Achenbach's Syndrome. edit sorry meant FND

Snufkin88 · 15/10/2025 17:22

One of my husbands best friends kissed me when I was drunk years ago before we were married but while we were together. I never told him. I wish I had told him at the time.

ooojmaflip · 15/10/2025 17:25

I love porn and filth. I watch it a lot. I am F and hetro.

OutOfDateTreacle · 15/10/2025 17:25

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Same.
It might be too late for this Christmas but could you set your stall out in January - speak to everyone who bought you a gift this year and explain that you want to knock it on the head now. Pull the plug - 11 months notice before Christmas 2026 should be enough notice for them!

I did this several years ago. I buy now just for my husband and kids. That’s it.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 17:25

Jtfrtj · 15/10/2025 15:42

Thank you. You mirror my thoughts perfectly.

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And mine! 🤣 👏. @Thatsalineallright

I’ve been on this all day explaining this, but apparently it’s not allowed to be said 😳

Rumpledandcrumpled · 15/10/2025 17:25

Stanislas · 15/10/2025 16:08

Content Warning - added by MNHQ

I understand childless people who go for surrogacy but I hate the thought of a child conceived for payment. Since I read about two men who raped a baby to death I want to start a campaign against gay men adopting . Not bothered about gay men but I’ve never heard of lesbians killing a child though there may be. I live in a very “ liberal” city.

How could you miss baby star? And the lesbian mothers who killed her. How could you miss all the little children abused and killed by woman. Just how??

Dollymylove · 15/10/2025 17:27

muteme · 15/10/2025 15:38

People think im mute because i stopped talking at 6 years old.
I just stopped talking full stop.
I can talk im not mute but everyone around me thinks i am mute.
The things ive learned about people i can read the room and people before they even open there mouths.

Why, just why?

Jtfrtj · 15/10/2025 17:27

JHound · 15/10/2025 17:13

They may not 'literally' starve but it would take an obscene about of mental energy to overcome the biological factors that would push them to eat more.

I mean plenty of smokers quit without Nicotine patches. Doesn't mean those who use them are cheating or just not trying hard enougg.

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“Obscene amount of mental energy to overcome the biology factors that would push them to eat more” 😂😂😂

Greedy would have sufficed.

inamo · 15/10/2025 17:28

longlocks · 15/10/2025 15:30

Re receiving flowers. When my DM retired, she got loads of flowers which was pointless as she and DF were going away for 10 days. People knew about this but still bought flowers.

So I was lumbered with the flowers. Have got 3 vases myself plus parents gave me theirs. Still didn't have enough. So visiting a couple of charity shops to get more. Wasn't bothered of what they looked like, but something to display flowers which wasn't a bucket.

Same happened to me on my retirement, the gestures were very kind, but I am not a fan of cut flowers in the house.

I doled them out at the cemetery on graves that had nothing. Got rid of them all that way. 😊

TwinklyStork · 15/10/2025 17:29

LoveWine123 · 15/10/2025 15:52

For the record, I was trying to be kind to you and show you a situation where parents do love their children despite the fact they are not keeping their childhood mementos. I was hoping you could find some solace in that fact for yourself. Instead you called me selfish and horrible. Well done. Continue feeling sorry for yourself, you don't sound bitter at all. No need to respond to me further.

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I think you are selfish. Extraordinarily so. You put your desire not to have “clutter” above how your children might feel about you chucking all their stuff away. That’s absolutely awful.

GentleJadeOP · 15/10/2025 17:32

LadyBrendaLast · 14/10/2025 23:07

When I was standing at the altar and the priest asked if there was any known impediment...I looked down the aisle at the church door to see if my first love was going to run in and make it all go away.

I know that feeling ❤️

Dollymylove · 15/10/2025 17:34

I had a binge eating disorder in the 80s

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 17:35

muteme · 15/10/2025 15:38

People think im mute because i stopped talking at 6 years old.
I just stopped talking full stop.
I can talk im not mute but everyone around me thinks i am mute.
The things ive learned about people i can read the room and people before they even open there mouths.

Must make forming any kind of close relationship difficult keeping this whoppa to yourself

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 17:36

muteme · 15/10/2025 16:06

Yes i talk to myself my cat, shout at films etc im normal.
I dont live anywhere near my family either.

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Do you work? Have friends? Socialise?

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 17:37

tartyflette · 15/10/2025 16:48

Or they have naturally small appetites, or are uninterested in food or eating, or have a condition or illness they don't wish to share....
What you say about slim people deliberately rationing what they eat may be true for some but definitely not all.
And the attempt at an analogy with sporting cheats reads as nothing more than an excuse for a return to fat shaming. It's almost as if you're jealous of formerly fat people who are now thinner due to WLIs. Odd.

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No, it’s about acknowledging if you eat shit you’ll end up obese. As others have pointed out, if you ate natural healthy meals each day and cut out the processed crap including white rice, pasta and white bread you would absolutely lose weight. It’s not rocket science but people get upset when that’s mentioned because for some bizarre reason no one wants to be held accountable then kick off and say ohh that’s so mean yada yada

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 15/10/2025 17:38

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 14/10/2025 23:37

Ditto.

Awwww you're struggling with health/bereavement/new baby/stress of moving .... Here's something else for you to have to look after and worry about keeping alive.

DH and DM buy me Lego flowers now. Or Lego birds.

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I find them depressing. They're dead but don't know it yet, and just sit in a vase and fade. I think cut flowers are weird after a death for that reason. When our cat was PTS the vet practice sent us forget-me-not seeds with the card, I prefer that I think, grow a new plant in the animal or person's memory.

OutOfDateTreacle · 15/10/2025 17:41

GarlicPound · 15/10/2025 01:20

I don’t think most slim people have eating disorders, either. The valuation of 'rightful suffering' for a slim body is a sign of disorder, as is the moralistic attitude that leads to counting weight-loss drugs as cheating. Nobody's awarding prizes for self-denial, you're not in a monastery.

(FTR, I'm not overweight and I don't use these meds. I did have anorexia, though, years ago.)

What you're saying is equivalent to calling pain medication 'cheating', for instance, or even contraception. Just put up with it and stop complaining! Abstain! You can grit your teeth through it if you want, but it's your personal choice. It doesn't make it wrong to choose kinder options..

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I suspect that slim people are a bit cross than fat people can be slim now, too - having felt smug and superior all their lives.

Oh dear, how sad, never mind.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 15/10/2025 17:43

Jtfrtj · 15/10/2025 17:27

“Obscene amount of mental energy to overcome the biology factors that would push them to eat more” 😂😂😂

Greedy would have sufficed.

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You have no clue.