Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Wishing the Police, councils and other authorities do more towards money laundering 'shops'. They have legit looking 'fronts' but make their money from selling illegal stuff on the sly. Think of those barbers that popped up in the past few years. I can tell which ones are legit v money laundering ones. Firstly look at Google Streetview at the first few images (before covid) and if there is a barbers, that is legit. Most of the new barbers have the same cookie cutter signage. Black with yellow and white text.

They sell nitrous oxide canisters, illegal tobacco and vapes etc. Also I believe that some of the workers don't have the paperwork/visas to work here.

No really no, because no one is naturally fat. It all comes back to the point I was making about my home country I rarely if ever see people who are “naturally bigger”. The women, even through menopausal years stay petite. Our relationship with food is entirely different, and that can’t be a coincidence.

I was shocked when I came to this country and saw the eating habits to be honest.

Your post is the attitude I was referring to when I talked of people making excuses.

Another thing I’ve noticed is the words “overweight” and “fat” are derogatory words here. In a lot of other parts of the world, these are purely descriptive and factual. And people do not take offense. Overweight people know they’re overweight, in the UK people are very sensitive and expect no one to state the hard truth even though it’s clear for everyone to see.

Sure, you can be good at parenting without officially learning about it, especially if you've had a good childhood yourself.

But like I said, I think lots of parents are not skilled at parenting. I judge them for not trying to improve.

Similarly, if a doctor or shop assistant or whatever is bad at their jobs, they should look for training to get better. Parenting is a much more important role with a long-lasting impact on your child's life. I find it bewildering that so many people are happy to muddle along instead of actively working to get better at parenting.

I fancy Vladimir Putin.

Wow this is amazing. I don't know whether to say well done or are you ok. Sounds like you Def did not know what you were doing ... Like you said introvert with imposter syndrome

Re receiving flowers. When my DM retired, she got loads of flowers which was pointless as she and DF were going away for 10 days. People knew about this but still bought flowers.

So I was lumbered with the flowers. Have got 3 vases myself plus parents gave me theirs. Still didn't have enough. So visiting a couple of charity shops to get more. Wasn't bothered of what they looked like, but something to display flowers which wasn't a bucket.

Have you considered that your kids might want to look at it again? Or how they might feel when you realise you didn’t give enough of a shit to keep any of it? Or is it all about what you want?
Extraordinarily selfish of you. Horrible.

I’ve secretly fancied my coworker for 10 years. Didn’t admit it to myself while I was married. Now I’m separated it’s hit me like a truck (he’s got a long term partner and kids of his own). UH OH.

People think im mute because i stopped talking at 6 years old.
I just stopped talking full stop.
I can talk im not mute but everyone around me thinks i am mute.
The things ive learned about people i can read the room and people before they even open there mouths.

There is almost no one who is actually 'naturally' bigger.

There is a reason that people 100 years ago were much slimmer with lower levels if diabetes etc. They didn't have access to the junk food and constant snacks we have today.

There is a reason why bariatric surgery etc is useful for weight loss - if you eat less, you lose weight

There is a reason that people who have successfully lost weight have had to change their entire eating habits.

There is a reason why Africa has much lower obesity rates than Europe. People don't have the money to eat fast food rubbish day in day out.

Sure, some people put on weight faster than others but, seen across populations and across history, it is not normal to be a size 16. It's only been normalised now because as a society we eat shit food. It's all processed garbage.

Thank you. You mirror my thoughts perfectly.

I really dislike my FIL. He's a millionaire, some self made, but definitely had a huge leg up, as his parents gifted him a house and a business (long before they died, it was not inheritance, but very generous gifts when he was young enough to really use them to get ahead).

He is as tight as they come. Never helps his own children, in the way that he was helped, despite BIL being on the breadline. Keeps all his money to himself, splurges on several holidays a year for him and his new wife (who is also filthy rich), business class seats, top hotels etc.

All while his (other) son lives in abject poverty, in a small house that he can't even afford to heat. They have kids too. So he has 3 grandchildren that also go without.

Even if we all go out for a meal (very rare), FIL doesn't offer to get the bill. FIL had his kids when he was very young, so by the time DH & BIL inherit, they will probably be in their 70's, which will be far too late to really make a difference.

He also never asks about anyone else's news or how they are, and drones on endlessly about his latest holidays. If you pipe up with something about yourself he glazes over and doesn't reply.

I can't stand meanness.

Are you projecting here? Very strong reaction for a stranger on the internet. I hope you felt better writing this :)

I agree with this. I've been following Eddie Abbew and he talks complete sense. So much of the food you see in supermarkets is pure garbage, it's not "real" food. Also, we are not meant to eat breakfast - in caveman days it wouldn't have happened.

This year I have been eating real food only - so if you couldn't get it 200 years ago, I don't eat it. I also skip breakfast. 16 pounds down so far.

I don't love my Dad. He drinks, and is a nasty bully. I cannot go to the family home, as he has told me I'm not welcome. I have to meet my Mum elsewhere. She's totally cowed by him.
I hope he dies first/soon. I don't want to take any responsibility for him, if my Mum goes first. Also, he'll drink all of my inheritence, if he lives a lot longer.
Yes, I'm being greedy, because Mum inherited a lot of money from her family; and I know my Mum would be happier without him.

Agree. All the fad diets and beating around the bush with ‘starvation mentality’ when if they ate 2 smallish meals a day they absolutely would lose weight and not starve.

Women who are obsessed with being incredibly thin are normally quite plain facially.

Miaow! Is this a hit back because of the obesity comments?

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He sounds horrible.

Fed up re my mum at the moment 😔 She had asked us over for Christmas a couple of weeks ago and I said lovely but let me check on what my son's plans are. Tell her today we'd love to come. "Oh. There won't be enough room". She's in a big house on her own. The other guests live near by. I've suspected my LC brother has sewn the seed about lack of room. We are almost 5 hours drive so can't pop in for the day. Upset and pissed off 😔

I haven't seen any obesity comments but I don't understand the relevance?
I'm just answering the OP. I used to work in the fashion industry and disordered eating/exercise was pretty normal for many.
Obviously i touched a nerve!

@AutumnLover1989 would you not say this to her in real life?

I don’t think that’s true. But as you age a few extra pounds hides the wrinkles better

I will be. It took me by surprise 😔