Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

[TwinklyFawn]

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

At that time it was the side effects vs chance of success and i think it still is, at least it was some 10 years ago. Treatments are becoming less harsh, more able to be targetted and more successful though.

Tattoos are so tacky. I'm almost instantly put off someone if I see they have one or many.

yup. I laugh ironically when people talk about "eating the rainbow", "increasing my fibre intake" "making more use of lentils and chickpeas"

My friend likes bagpipes. She is constantly listening to bagpipes on youtube. She is the kind of person who listens to bagpipes on public transport without wearing headphones. She thinks that the world is against her because i pointed out that nobody wants to listen to her crap taste in music in public.

English, British, in fact most of Western society and culture is so backwards in many ways despite the guise of civility.

I really don't like one of my closest friends.

It's just that we've been in the same friendship group for donkeys' years, so I couldn't extricate myself from her without losing the rest of the group too.

To be fair, I don't think she likes me much either, and is probably in the same position.

I don't want any harm to come to her or wish her ill, it's just that I wouldn't be devastated if she were to, I don't know, emigrate.

The best kiss I ever had in my life was the first kiss with my now-husband. Honestly, it was years and years ago, and I can still remember how I just went weak at the knees. I'd never really considered him before that, and then POW that kiss changed everything.

Me too. I dont mind small discreet ones but these full arm, leg, neck ones look awful. Especially on women and especially on saggy skin. In my elderly neighbours words "tattoos were meant for sailors and prostitutes. What do they think they look like" 🤣🤣

I would like to be able to bring my father and my father-in-law back to life, long enough to tell them that I now recognise they were both abusive, manipulative monsters, shit parents and when they each died I was glad. Literally go to hell, both of you 👋

I have young kids and I'm not keeping anything they produce in school. I haven't kept any baby clothes bar one baby blanket. I chuck everything out (donate where appropriate) as soon as I think it's no longer needed or relevant. I love my kids dearly, but I don't want to be hoarding old stuff that I know for a fact I will never look at again. It doesn't make me love my kids any less and not having their baby stuff kept for 40-50 years in a box will not erase every memory I have of them. Just thought I'd share another perspective in case it's helpful when you think about your own parents.

I remember and dwell on things and people from years and years ago. My husband doesn't get it, that these things still affect me even so much as 25+ years later.

I feel liked i have failed at life because at 38 years old, I can't work and I can't have children, I walk with a stick and am scared to go out alone. If I didn't have my husband it wouldn't have half the things I have, I owe him everything and he asks for nothing.

I don't know about ESA, I don't get that as I work full time, but I also get full PIP despite having similar considerable assets.
It isn't means tested so there are probably large numbers of people in this position.

Well i speak the same to everyone some I'm joking some I'm not there is no way of them know which category they fall into

and this is why we need the ha ha emoji.

wanna bet?

Or maybes the first post didn't exist either 🤣👀

Great thread.

IRL I feel like my life is much harder than the lives of those around me, and I resent it (while desperately reminding myself I don’t know EVERYTHING about them).

I have a DP who works long hours, 2 small and very hyperactive children who wake me up nearly every night and have done for 6 years (nursery illnesses, nightmares, motorbikes outside.. always SOMETHING), a high level chronic illness which saps the life out of me and will probably kill me one day, no nearby family bar DP’s parents who dislike me and think my house is a pigsty because I don’t have matching curtains and cushions, and I’m NC with both parents as my dad is an aggressive alcoholic who lives overseas and my mum has some kind of personality disorder to the extent she has lost every friend and family member - she’s impossible to get along with and falls out with every neighbour she has and so on.

Hearing about people in good health, with nearby close family and grandparents who fucking help them makes me seethe with jealousy.

I honestly think parents divide into 2 groups, those who have help and ‘love parenting’ with their weekly date night and 3-times-a-year couples weekend away, and those of us who provide 100% of the care 100% of the time whose relationship is hanging by a thread because we’re exhausted and don’t get a moment alone together.

And ‘getting a babysitter’ just isn’t as easy as it sounds. Which absolute stranger would you trust to take your children overnight? Let alone paying £100 for them to do so on top of the cost of wherever you go and whatever you do.

then surely she is a just a member of the same group as you and not any kind of friend let alone a close one?

Yes. I didn’t experience that all consuming love that you hear about in book and poetry. Which sometimes I do think about.

But dh and I have built a great life together. He treats me well and I have very few things to worry about. I consider myself lucky.

My friend is fucking up her child’s life through her selfishness and pathetic desire to not conform. She wonders why her child is insecure and anxious and it’s so infuriating to watch,

I love seeing other people’s kids have meltdowns. Makes me feel better about my own kids boot offs.

That sounds like every cat I've ever met. Which is why I'm frightened of cats. I just don't trust them.

Are there lots of people in your life that you tell them what you really think of them but dress it up as sarcasm? @youalright .

Probably the cats are frightened of you too!

I think there are probably lots of us in the same boat, or experiencing something similar. Now I'm over 40, I hope people just think it's a perimenopause thing. It's particularly awkward as I'm always in meetings at work with all men, and none of them EVER need a wee! Oh well 🫠

I don’t see it as disturbing. A lot of people get this in airports or railway stations, it can be more about the different possibilities . There used to be a bus leaving the same time as my bus for work which went to a really interesting sounding destination, the opposite direction to my work . Always the urge to get on that bus.