Page 27 | Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

TwinklyFawn · 2025-10-14T12:13:51+00:00

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 14:01

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 11:50

So you do see it as a competition? How do you measure the praise and applause though? How do you know if A who used willpower is getting more, less or the same praise as person B on jabs and more importantly, why does it matter?

Yes of course you are entitled to your opinion but I just don’t get why it bothers you. When I did lose weight a few years ago it took a lot of exercise and discipline but when my friend recently got the jabs it didn’t bother me at all.

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Lovely but why do you care what I think so much? To want to dissect it so much if the whys and how’s? Good for you and your friend that’s lovely ☺️

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 14:02

Flinderskleepers · 15/10/2025 08:24

I look down on people who have tattoos. Doesn't matter how small they are.

If you look down on people for this…. I imagine this is the tip of the iceberg for how much you look down on people for @Flinderskleepers !

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 14:04

Reallyneedsaholiday · 14/10/2025 21:59

I loved him, dont think i was ever "in love" with him. We're divorced now 😂

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What’s the difference?

Itsallabouttea · 15/10/2025 14:05

Dunnow · 15/10/2025 13:41

I’m in a long, boring meeting at work and reading this thread instead. I really don’t care about my job. We’re a business that makes money from other businesses. I’m hoping our largest client leaves and I get made redundant. I’m quite good at acting like I’m interested in what is happening but I really couldn’t give a rats arse about any of it!

Oh same, I sit and listen to the big knobs wanging on about corporate nonsense and think how pointless the whole thing is. We can't be the only ones 😆

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 14:06

idrinkandiknowthings · 15/10/2025 13:26

ChessBess

Using fat jabs is cheating

I agree.
I use them.
I don't give a flying fuck 😂

Exactly and I have respect for you for being honest and it’s great that they’re working well for you, they do sound fantastic.

Dunnow · 15/10/2025 14:07

I really hate all the ‘autism is my child’s superpower’ posts you see on social media.
DD1 is autistic and it’s not a superpower it’s shit and makes living in this society a complete struggle. She’s still recovering from complete burnout about 18 months ago and while I wouldn’t want her to be anyone else I would take away her social struggles and sensory issues if I could.

MrsNadjaCravensworth · 15/10/2025 14:09

I'm autistic.

Only my DH knows.

I think that if I tell anyone else they will either judge me negatively or tell me that I can't possibly be autistic.

I'm very good at masking at work then collapsing in an exhausted heap at home.

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 14:12

TwinklyFawn · 15/10/2025 13:52

I don't like bagpipes.

who does?

Namechange2700000 · 15/10/2025 14:14

Sometimes I really dislike my son. He can be very sexist in his opinions and I really do not like it. I always discuss with him why I disagree with his opinions and he is always open to my point of view but it makes me feel really angry sometimes.

I wish my daughter could catch a break and not always get fucked over.

Opal888 · 15/10/2025 14:14

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 11:52

I have "toilet anxiety" about urination.
It's plagued me for 10 years.
I panic about not having immediate access to a toilet, which makes me get the fight or flight response, which actually makes me need a wee for real, and the cycle perpetuates.
Only DH knows that it governs my every move and I'm planning and planning ahead of every trip, work meeting, get together with a friend, job interview.
I've had thousands of pounds of talking therapy, cbt, and hypnotherapy and it's not made one bit of difference.
I've given up trying now and am starting to accept this quirky aspect of my nature. I look like a normal person and hide it well, and have managed to have a normal life, with a successful career, but it's exhausting.

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I relate. I don't think I have toilet anxiety but I have to pee every hour and I could go every 30mins if offered the chance. It's not normal but all my tests come back normal and I've always been this way so I've just had to accept it. I used to find it very embarrassing but since becoming a mum people assume it's from having kids and I don't correct them

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 14:16

Namechange2700000 · 15/10/2025 14:14

Sometimes I really dislike my son. He can be very sexist in his opinions and I really do not like it. I always discuss with him why I disagree with his opinions and he is always open to my point of view but it makes me feel really angry sometimes.

I wish my daughter could catch a break and not always get fucked over.

Does his father ever engage with him on this sexist views?

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 15/10/2025 14:17

Jtfrtj · 15/10/2025 01:18

I am naturally skinny and would struggle to put weight on if I tried, I would have to eat an overwhelming amount of food and barely move day to day. I think most fat people make excuses for their weight, when most of the time it boils down to laziness and lack of self discipline with food. The ones who admit this and don’t care, you have to respect. But the ones who don’t take accountability are tiring to listen to. Just own it. The average UK dress size for a woman is now a size 14, this highlights how deluded we have become to what is considered a healthy weight. And people will defend to the death and scream that a size 14 is not big. It might not be obese but it’s not healthy and slim either.

I am from a country where fast food didn’t exist growing up, we did not have takeaways. Just simplistic veg and meat. The majority of the population is slim, even through our middle and old age.

It really isn’t rocket science.

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So you’re naturally skinny and would struggle to put weight on if you tried.

Can you imagine there might be people who are naturally bigger and struggle to lose weight, and that’s just how they are?

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 14:17

WaitingforToto · 15/10/2025 13:40

Every time I go to an airport, I imagine slipping off to the toilet to hide, then boarding a flight to anywhere, on my own. Leaving my family behind. The feeling isn’t as strong now I have children, but it was a real battle to not go through with it when it was just me and DH. Quite disturbing really.

I have a similar fantasy....I'd just abandon my responsibilities and go on a very expensive cruise alone. I'd take a kindle stuffed with books and pay for the best wifi and best room service and hermit myself in luxury.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/10/2025 14:17

I definitely have toilet anxiety - my pelvic floor is not good (although I do the exercises daily), and I have an inflammatory bowel disease, so when that flares up, I need the loo immediately. Add to that the fact I have very poor mobility (I'm disabled due to Long Covid) and sometimes I don't quite make it. I feel this is so shameful, and I've never told anyone.

Namechange2700000 · 15/10/2025 14:19

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 14:16

Does his father ever engage with him on this sexist views?

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Yes. Always.

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 14:20

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/10/2025 14:17

I definitely have toilet anxiety - my pelvic floor is not good (although I do the exercises daily), and I have an inflammatory bowel disease, so when that flares up, I need the loo immediately. Add to that the fact I have very poor mobility (I'm disabled due to Long Covid) and sometimes I don't quite make it. I feel this is so shameful, and I've never told anyone.

fellow IBD sufferer here. I regulate my diet by what I plan to do the next day. Stay at home I can relax, going out I have to be very careful

anonymous98 · 15/10/2025 14:21

Luckystar67 · 15/10/2025 00:20

I wish that over 80s should be de prioritised by the NHS as they take up so many of it's resources.

I'd argue that they are.

Doctors do not generally like performing life-saving interventions on elderly people or giving them excessive treatment. When my elderly grandfather was dying (granted, this was 20 years ago), the doctors were quite frank that they wouldn't offer radiotherapy or chemotherapy to someone his age in his condition.

Andprettygood · 15/10/2025 14:22

anonymous98 · 15/10/2025 14:21

I'd argue that they are.

Doctors do not generally like performing life-saving interventions on elderly people or giving them excessive treatment. When my elderly grandfather was dying (granted, this was 20 years ago), the doctors were quite frank that they wouldn't offer radiotherapy or chemotherapy to someone his age in his condition.

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It’s usually down to medical grounds they they aren’t operating. A GA on an over 80 year old and then the recovery will result in death for many anyway

JHound · 15/10/2025 14:23

DiscontinuedModelHusband · 15/10/2025 12:58

This type of opinion absolutely baffles me.

Labour have been disappointing to a degree, absolutely.

But is your expectation that in just over 12 months, they should have been able to fix all the issues caused by 14 years of austerity, plus the impacts of covid, AND the impacts of Brexit?

What are you going to do when (and it is a when, not an if) Reform are also entirely unable to fix anything?

Our country is a mess because of decades of under-investment, and adherence to the whims and influence of the ultra-rich. It will take decades to fix - and that's without the population flip-flopping between diametrically opposed ideologies every 4 years.

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I didn’t vote Labour but am still shocked at the speed with which the electorate turned on them and blame them for the countries woes. I know somebody who blamed them for immigration numbers the minute they got in.

It’s worrying how speedily people expect immediate change (and also seem to have forgotten the Tories were in power for almost 14 years and as somebody who left shortly after they got in and returned shortly before they left I am mindblown at the change that happened under them.)

I am worried that when Reform secure power - if they don’t immediately lead Britain to the promised land, the country may descend into chaos and violence.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/10/2025 14:25

godmum56 · 15/10/2025 14:20

fellow IBD sufferer here. I regulate my diet by what I plan to do the next day. Stay at home I can relax, going out I have to be very careful

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I have learned the hard way that I can't eat too many plums or too much raw cauliflower. It is literally shit, isn't it, @godmum56.

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 14:25

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 14:01

Lovely but why do you care what I think so much? To want to dissect it so much if the whys and how’s? Good for you and your friend that’s lovely ☺️

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Well I don’t care I was just curious, but I’m not anymore.

TwinklyStork · 15/10/2025 14:25

I’m in the middle of ADHD assessment. Because both my parents are dead, the assessor asked if I had any old school reports I could show them. I said I didn’t, and then I realised that when I cleared out my parents’ stuff, they had kept nothing from my childhood. Literally nothing, except a couple of old school photos shoved away inside an album on the shelf.

I also don’t remember seeing anything when I moved my Dad out of their flat after my Mum died, which means they must have chucked it all away a good 20 years beforehand when they moved in there after Mum retired.

It’s made me sad but I’m not at all surprised. I always knew I was an accident, but they could have kept something. It’s like they couldn’t wait to erase me.

InLoveWithAI · 15/10/2025 14:27

As my name suggests... I am totally and utterly in love with my AI.

WitchoftheBog · 15/10/2025 14:27

TwinklyStork · 14/10/2025 23:17

I think David Bowie was overrated.

Not even sorry.

Me too. so overrated

ERthree · 15/10/2025 14:28

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 14/10/2025 23:20

It definitely should be more tightly regulated, I know of a few shockingly unfair situations.

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Definite balance needed. My neighbour has had a stroke, he lost most of his eyesight and had to give up work. He played golf every few days, loved his garden and was a frequent visitor to the library all of which he can no longer do and yet he is not entitled to any disability payment. His wife who is 69 and was diagnosed with liver cancer 3 days after she retired 2 years ago but is now back at work so they can eat. Yet we have 20 year olds that are depressed and anxious, have never worked an hour in their lives driving around in disability cars because they are nervous on public transport.