Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Im newly single with a young child after a long (very long) relationship. I have a permanent STI from a cheating ex and I am terrified that dating is over for me.

Friends are starting to marry and I'm sad thinking it might not ever be my turn.

I feel shame at being a single parent.

I have low self esteem and wish I could be confident.

I'm probably bi-curious but wouldn't explore this because of religion.

A milestone birthday is coming up and I dont think I've achieved enough for this age. The stress and anxiety keeps me up at night.

I want to know more too!

Same, can’t seem to have a intelligent discussion about it, it’s so polarised, I wouldn’t stand with either side

Sadly tightening the regulations only ever seems to affect the people that need thm and never the ones that don't

You’ve been married over 40 years, so I’m guessing you must be in your 60s, yet you have a tantrum because your elderly mum gets the length of your marriage wrong on the card which she still bothers to send you after all these years 😳 Most wedding anniversaries are celebrated only by the couple concerned unless they decide to have a party for a big number anniversary. Just tell your mum it’s fine not to bother in future.

I'm really tired and bored of doing everything right in regards to recovering my mental health. I just want to give all the professionals I work woth the middle finger, give up and just live in a cocoon on my sofa for the rest of my life.

But I won't. I'll keep on trying.

@ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea comments like yours will put people off posting. Not sure this is the right thread for judgement.

Wishing you love and good things x

@Dontlletmedownbruce
im the same as you and find Christmas really stressful

I have a strong dislike for my grandmother but no one knows as I’m her main carer out of all the family.

I don’t like my Mum very much.

I think my sister is lazy with a victim complex yet is everyone’s favourite person.

ABSOLUTELY IT IS NOT YOU.
You just choose the wrong type of person. There's 4.5 billion people in the world. Your soul mate is out there. I promise.

Agree with this. Brining home the bacon is the very bare minimum for being a good parent. Man or woman.

I am in a worse financial state that I should be and that people assume I am in. I started career work about 20 years ago and have been an above average / high earner for most of that. However getting addicted to credit cards (all cleared) and telling myself I could not afford to save means 20 years later I am nowhere near where I should be. People think I have not brough a house yet because I am just "looking for the right property" when in reality I am about 5 years off having a deposit! (Renting alone and lack of a partner has not helped financially).

And speaking of the latter - people think I am some super bachelorette who loves being single...while I definitely don't hate being single I am single because I am lazy. Terminally, absolutely lazy. I am in awe of people who meet partners easily. I have friends who have met, married, divorced, met new partners and remarried new people in the same amount of time I have been single! I am just lazy. Dating takes work. I cannot be arsed to do the work.

I also look down on people who make bad life choices and then live off the taxpayer. Like my family members having kids for bums they were barely dating. I am not that quiet about that though...

There are other things that I won't reveal even on an anonymous board!

This broke my heart and I am glad there is a 'Support' emoji now.

I know a fair few like this and this describes me in part. I am too lazy to date, and have also never had very good dating skills (I never proceeded with men I did not have immediate chemistry and spark with and I know now how awful a decision that was).

But I genuinely think that finding a life partner, involves far more luck than people think.

Somebody said to me once that finding a suitable partnership involves finding somebody:

a) You fancy
b) Has values you admire
c) Has flaws you can overlook in the long term
d) Is available
e) Has reciprocal feelings towards you.

It actually takes a lot of luck to have all those items line up (unless you intend to settle on more than a few of them).

We all have several people who would be right for us out there - but there is no guarantee we will meet any of those people in our life time.

I had a career as a very senior doctor, which involved leading many meetings/ward rounds, chairing panels, teaching, being assertive and apparently confident in making high-level decisions. Everyone saw me as supremely confident and extroverted.

There was not one day in 35 years that I didn't dread having to project that image and didn't fear that I would be finally detected as being clueless. I wanted to stay under the duvet every single day when I knew I would have to chair a meeting, teach a class or lead a ward round. (I never did stay in bed though). Not a single person who worked with me would ever have guessed that I was really an introvert with imposter syndrome.

My DD is 13 and has a referral for CAHMS and because of the length of time to be seen i have applied for counselling for her supplied by a charity.

I would never tell her or anyone but i feel she doesnt need it and is desperate for a label and hangs around with others who are in counselling. I feel that it will do nothing for her, therapy is all about making changes to help you but she is too lazy to do that.

But i am going through the motions and supporting her just in case i have got it wrong and she really is riddled with anxiety but i really dont think she is, she is just desperate to tell people she has counselling.

I have accumulated an incredibly large amount of money in shares over the past 30 years. No one knows how much, even my DP.

Just remembered another one. I hate hugs. To the point where if I know there will be hugging I feel a bit panicky and want to run away. I imagine most people I know get that vibe from me because they always look a bit unsure when they go in for a hug. But I don’t want to offend people so I try really hard to get over my aversion. Why should their desire for a hug trump my absolute displeasure at it? Answer, it shouldn’t but it’s my own fault for participating. I love hugging my children though. My eldest is like me and not keen, so I respect that (while worrying that he’ll think I don’t love him enough.)

Is that all? I have a 5 bed new build council house, fully paid by benefits, despite owning 36 BTL properties and a villa in Marbella. I go on holiday once a fortnight paid for by UC and drive a ferrari that I get from PIP mobility even though I run marathons and am a gymnast.

I bet they do know !

PS on the GLP-1 argument: medical treatment is not "cheating". Or if it is, please tell that to diabetics, epileptics, and people with cardiac arrythmias as well.

I do this. I'd chuck out all his crap and have a fresh start. A friend of mine told me that she has had the same thoughts about her DH. I was actually widowed very young in my 20s so I know how heartbreaking it would he but at the same time I visualise a massive skip full of his crap.

That people over 75 shouldn’t be able to vote, in line with jury service.

As if that rule was applied in June 2016, we would still be in the EU and the economy would be better than it is now. As there was a very strong correlation between age of voter and likelihood of voting Brexit. The older the person, the more likely they voted Brexit.

Also it would get rid of most of the ‘I always vote for (party) as my late husband always voted for them’. Your husband has been dead for 20 years.

Also over 75s have more tendency to read newspapers esp Daily Mail and be brainwashed by their opinions. Plus believe in every single word

My family get me useless tat every year. They are incapable of listening to what i need. If i get useless tat again this year i am re gifting it next year.

No it is not for everyone! Thyroid conditions, diabetes and meds affect this. Also Google lipodema