Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

If my DH died I would immediately get guinea pigs.

You are right. Saying things that you wouldn’t say IRL was the premise of the thread. And I’m actually not normally a judgemental person, I like to hear the other story,‘see the other side, but for some reason that comment just annoyed me.

I can see now that the post has been explored further by other posters.

If you’re looking at selecting voters based on age, I think we should go the whole hog and base it on intelligence. Formal intelligence testing before being allowed to vote. IQ must be over 110. Sorted.

I've often wondered how manipulative and bullying people do it and get away with it most of the time. I mean, I think they must be very clever people to be able to do this and get their own way or devastate people without a second glance.

I want my own way in some things, but I must be thick as I don't know how to do it like the manipulators do. I suppose they are psycho or something, which I definitely don't want to be!

@Absentosaur I would agree with that wholeheartedly if it wasn't for the fact that IQ testing is far from accurate and is culturally biased.

Yeah a crude tool but it’s really the only practical one we have for such a task.

This type of opinion absolutely baffles me.

Labour have been disappointing to a degree, absolutely.

But is your expectation that in just over 12 months, they should have been able to fix all the issues caused by 14 years of austerity, plus the impacts of covid, AND the impacts of Brexit?

What are you going to do when (and it is a when, not an if) Reform are also entirely unable to fix anything?

Our country is a mess because of decades of under-investment, and adherence to the whims and influence of the ultra-rich. It will take decades to fix - and that's without the population flip-flopping between diametrically opposed ideologies every 4 years.

Maybe a specialised test could be developed which measures things that really matter in choosing one's representatives? I would be all for that!

My in laws are a nasty bullies and I will never forgive how they treated me. Despite now being on speaking terms, I secretly loathe MIL in particular. I know she thinks of me as some weak introverted pushover, but if she knew what I knew, she wouldn’t be so smug. I’m determined to have the last laugh in honour of all the other victims of her spiteful, narcissistic bullying!

I don't want cut flowers myself but they and the christmas trees, also carving pumpkins, are grown as a crop. The trees that you see waiting for collection are chipped and composted not destroyed. None of them would be left to grow, they just would never have existed. I don't have a live cut down tree at christmas, too much mess, but I do buy cooking pumpkins, have them for decoration for a while and then i cook them.

Wish to explain to elderly people that they have got all week (or almost) to go to the supermarket to do their main shopping on Saturday mornings. Then have the audacity to complain that it’s busy. I have started a new job 3 weeks ago which is M-F 9-5. I leave home at 8:10am and get home at 5:40/6:00pm. As learning so much my head is frazzled to shop after work at the moment.

Even a few customers of working age rolled their eyes and muttered to me “they have got all bloody week” when they were delayed because an elderly couple were dithering in front of the milk chiller, how much milk they need to buy.

I’m not the only one as colleagues have the same problem

I have a friend that I have lost all respect for.

I LOVE home grocery delivery!

I seem to have whatever the opposite of body dysmorphia is, in that I always think I look fine/good and have never struggled with my body image. I put on weight after having children and that to some adjustment as I had to get used to a new shape and how to dress for that, but I've never thought I look bad or fat or anything. There seems to be an expectation that every woman thinks they look awful or wants to improve things all the time, so I've always felt a bit out of place and I would never admit to this in real life because it sounds so braggy. To be clear I don't think I'm gorgeous or anything, I just think I look like me and I like that!

I have an old friend who always turns around any conversation straight right back to her own kids, even if you try to bring up another topic or share something of your own. Apparently another friend of hers has called her out on this so she rang me up to complain and said “I don’t do that do I?” And me being a total chicken said “Oh no”. I know it would be the end of our long friendship if I said anything so I just keep my mouth shut.

The 2 are closely linked and personality disorders can be due to unmet needs of being ND and not diagnosed and understood properly

Excellent post, agree with every word.

Wish to explain to elderly people that they have got all week (or almost) to go to the supermarket to do their main shopping on Saturday mornings. Then have the audacity to complain that it’s busy

I couldn’t agree more. Retired people who do their supermarket shopping on Saturday mornings are a selfish, inconsiderate nuisance. If I were running Tesco, I would offer them discounts / vouchers/ extra points etc which can only be redeemed Mon-Fri before 4 pm.

Nope! Pension has been changed. I’m getting half of what the cohort above me got. Works out at £600 pm. Will have to get a side hustle.

I shop at Lidl so no home delivery. Live on my own so struggle to spend the minimum for the cheapest delivery. Also get the best dates too

I probably do home delivery for things I can’t get in Lidl every 4-6 weeks plus get a couple of good deals too

That if you are a smoker and get a chest infection then you should just be left to the wolves
every year my heavy smoker father in law takes himself to the a&e at least 4 times per winter to get himself seen too for a bad chest and I just have no sympathy!

I'd get rid of smokers and vapers and raise the age of driving to at least 25. I think most other people exist to annoy me.

I don’t miss my late mum. She let me be bullied at school, never did anything to help me, never noticed how unhappy I became. She loved my sister much more than she loved me.

My friend works at a supermarket and she probably knows a few elderly people who shop on Saturday mornings as they are taken by their DD who works in the week. That is no more than 5. Understand this but not for the 98% of the other elderly customers.

My parents have been retired for 14 years on average. Only times they have shopped on Saturday morning is when they have returned from holiday on the Friday evening. Which is about 3 or 4 times!

Then my friend gets elderly customers coming into the supermarket just buying a newspaper and lottery tickets. Have they heard of newsagents?

me too! I am oldish now, I have found a style that I like on me and that is comfortable (horror of horrors, its Seasalt and Cotton Traders) and I look in the mrror and see an older woman who is going bald and weighs too much but is still active and able to enjoy my life.