Page 23 | Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

TwinklyFawn · 2025-10-14T12:13:51+00:00

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Sharptonguedwoman · 15/10/2025 11:53

PauliesWalnuts · 14/10/2025 23:15

Never been married or had kids or got engaged or lived with anyone. Never even been close. Have spent large swathes of my adult life single and now 53. Thought I’d cracked it with a four year relationship recently until it went tits up a year ago because he admitted that he didn’t love me. Slowly dawning on me that it’s not them, it’s me, and my self esteem is so low that it could parachute out of a snakes arse.

Oooh, sending virtual enormous hugs.

hevs03 · 15/10/2025 11:54

Cookieandcandy · 15/10/2025 10:42

You’re going to hell for that 🤣🤣

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Probably 😀in my defense all of the cake slices were sold and went to charity, I've since left that company but still keep in touch with my colleague who organises these things and I sometimes wonder did anyone else do what I did!

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TwinklyFawn · 15/10/2025 11:56

My cousin has no comprehension skills. Every time i send her a message she responds with a stupid question and i just end up repeating something that was said in the original message.

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Melonmango70 · 15/10/2025 11:56

ConflictofInterest · 15/10/2025 09:23

I don't believe this world is real, but I can't tell anyone or they will think I am unwell.

I often feel like this, and don't believe I even exist most of the time.

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 11:58

Tryonemoretime · 15/10/2025 11:02

I think most mothers feel the same. I also think I haven't been a good wife. It took me years to realise that my husband worked so hard to give us a good life. He'sloyal and kind. I wish I'd appreciated him more. Trying to make up for it now.

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I think I’ve been a great mother. Obviously not perfect (I’m not sure perfect would make a good mother anyway), but it is one of the few things I have done really well in my life. I don’t go round telling people that though, but lots of people have paid me the compliment.

DisorganisedMummyTurningOrgnaised · 15/10/2025 11:58

I prefer my MILs cooking to my mums…

Sharptonguedwoman · 15/10/2025 11:59

Cookieandcandy · 14/10/2025 23:48

I get £13k a year in ESA and PIP but have assets of over a million pounds.

If they aren't means tested you can.

Rickyrainfrogsittingonhislillypad · 15/10/2025 12:00

I think dead people watch us .. having sex ,on the loo .I think they are all around us ..I also think they can read our thoughts.
Untill recently I thought most people believed this as well... apparently they don't

Itsybitsytitsy · 15/10/2025 12:00

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Me too, the pressure is awful. I hate receiving 'stuff' and then caving in and buying 'stuff' for others. I ask that nobody buys me anything and lets me know what they actually want/need. I find Christmas and birthdays so stressful

Funnywonder · 15/10/2025 12:01

I have virtually no interest in what anyone has to say, unless it’s a subject I like or it’s useful information, like someone getting burgled up the street or how long the traffic diversions will be in place. In the inevitable event of being subjected to someone’s life story, I try to nod and smile in all the right places but I just wish they would shut up a bit sooner than they do. I realise I’m not particularly special or interesting myself btw😅

Also, I can’t stand my SIL’s dogs. I’m fine with dogs in general, but hers are very very annoying. Barking at every opportunity and jumping up and clawing at people’s clothes. One of them always has an itchy arse (that clearly needs to be sorted out) and rubs it everywhere, leaving lovely big skid marks. And before anyone says that most of this is SIL’s fault for not training them, I know that. It doesn’t make it any more tolerable.

Meandmyguy · 15/10/2025 12:01

I don't really like my family.

I judge most people on benefits, a bit. Especially single mothers of school age children.

I have little sympathy for addicts.

I wish I had been a better mother to my children when they were small but I was just trying to survive.

Men/women that have mutiliple mothers and fathers to their children.

Sharptonguedwoman · 15/10/2025 12:03

Luckystar67 · 15/10/2025 00:20

I wish that over 80s should be de prioritised by the NHS as they take up so many of it's resources.

Charming.

Bloozie · 15/10/2025 12:04

GarlicPound · 15/10/2025 01:20

I don’t think most slim people have eating disorders, either. The valuation of 'rightful suffering' for a slim body is a sign of disorder, as is the moralistic attitude that leads to counting weight-loss drugs as cheating. Nobody's awarding prizes for self-denial, you're not in a monastery.

(FTR, I'm not overweight and I don't use these meds. I did have anorexia, though, years ago.)

What you're saying is equivalent to calling pain medication 'cheating', for instance, or even contraception. Just put up with it and stop complaining! Abstain! You can grit your teeth through it if you want, but it's your personal choice. It doesn't make it wrong to choose kinder options..

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The valuation of 'rightful suffering' for a slim body is a sign of disorder, as is the moralistic attitude that leads to counting weight-loss drugs as cheating. Nobody's awarding prizes for self-denial, you're not in a monastery.

Yes!

See also: nicotine patches and vapes are cheating. Just go cold turkey. Alcoholics Anonymous and the Samaritans are cheating. Just grow yourself a backbone. Counselling is cheating. Sort your shit out on your own. Anti-depressants are cheating. Just smile more.

chaosmaker · 15/10/2025 12:06

SunshineAndFizz · 14/10/2025 22:04

I don’t like receiving flowers. I’ve never told anyone, as lots of people have bought them for me over the years and it’s a very kind gesture. But I don’t like them.

I tell everyone I don't like flowers. I don't get flowers. Have had a peace lily plant given to me but I love that and it's still going strong about 10 years on :)

LochSunart · 15/10/2025 12:06

@Meandmyguy "I wish I had been a better mother to my children when they were small but I was just trying to survive."

When my boys were young, I was really struggling (as a father). I spoke to an older and wiser friend about my feelings of not being good enough, and he replied, "Do you bring home the bacon?" I answered, "Yes", and realised that, at the end of the day, giving your children food, a roof over their head, and stability, is 90% of being a (good) parent. So - if you and your children survived, then you've done well.

Opal888 · 15/10/2025 12:07

Anxietybummer · 15/10/2025 11:52

If my DH ever felt this way then I’d hope he’d have the decency not to burden me with it and to seek counselling if he wanted to discuss his ‘regret’.

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I'm not a DH, I'm a DW. 7 years of therapy and counting :) happily at the point where strangers on the Internet don't upset me

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 15/10/2025 12:07

I’m so sorry to read your post @lifeonmars100
You absolutely do not have to go to your brother’s funeral.

I was wondering whether you had had any counselling or therapy and whether this would help you.

TeachMeSomething · 15/10/2025 12:10

lifeonmars100 · 15/10/2025 08:57

I knew someone who self published a book of poetry, less said about it the better. They were really thrilled and thought that despite having to pay a fee they had been picked up by a publisher because they were so talented.

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My ex did this. It was practically the first thing he told me about himself when I met him. When the 'anthology' was published, I was distinctly underwhelmed at his ability as a poet...

daddysgirlnot · 15/10/2025 12:11

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 06:51

What is your job?

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NHS. It’s sh*t.

ginasevern · 15/10/2025 12:14

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 11:46

Same. Not having our last dog put to sleep sooner is one of my biggest life regrets and haunts me. We didn't know better and were led to believe that there was hope for a recovery (from spinal issues). With our current dog, who is 11 and we adore, DH and I are on the same page that we would have her put to sleep immediately if she were to get diagnosed with something life limiting.

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I'm so sorry you went through it too. Like you, I am still haunted by the thought of my poor dog and he died 21 years ago. I have a 12 year old cat now and will have him PTS when/if anything life limiting happens.

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 12:16

daddysgirlnot · 15/10/2025 12:11

NHS. It’s sh*t.

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Hopefully you’ll get a good pension, for the years you’ve been there?

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 12:16

I no longer vote because I think they are all shit, and if you vote according to the policies you appreciate then they are unlikely to implement them anyway. I wish they all wore bells and high vis so you could avoid them at all costs.

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 12:17

LochSunart · 15/10/2025 12:06

@Meandmyguy "I wish I had been a better mother to my children when they were small but I was just trying to survive."

When my boys were young, I was really struggling (as a father). I spoke to an older and wiser friend about my feelings of not being good enough, and he replied, "Do you bring home the bacon?" I answered, "Yes", and realised that, at the end of the day, giving your children food, a roof over their head, and stability, is 90% of being a (good) parent. So - if you and your children survived, then you've done well.

Obviously providing for your kids is a crucial part of parenting and I don't know enough about why you were struggling to say anything about that in particular. On a related note, though, my abusive father thought he was fantastic because he "brought home the bacon" and in fact thought that being the breadwinner meant he could treat us all like utter dirt because he was doing so wonderfully well by us by holding a job and paying for his own children.

Again, I'm not saying this is you. I just think one needs to be careful with the "well I provide" line of thought because while that is of course very important, it isn't the whole thing and there can be a tendency by some people - and it does seem to be mostly men - who think it is, and that they can do no wrong after that.

Sunshineandoranges · 15/10/2025 12:18

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Yes me too. I find new things make me uneasy.

MrsDoubtfire1 · 15/10/2025 12:22

I don't want other people's sympathy and I don't want to be the centre of attention. Just don't understand how people like Megan Markle can court so much limelight. I would have taken for the California hills years ago.