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Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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TwinklyFawn · 14/10/2025 13:13

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

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ChessBess · 15/10/2025 10:13

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 09:56

So which is it? Either people on weight loss jabs get to cheat and eat as they like and stay slim and it's really enviable, or it's actually so shit you don't want to do it yourself!

I wouldn’t want to be obese so would do everything in my power to not be!

TwinklyFawn · 15/10/2025 10:14

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

So do i. I always receive gifts that i don't really need for Christmas. I am always too polite to say anything.

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JHound · 15/10/2025 10:15

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 10:13

I wouldn’t want to be obese so would do everything in my power to not be!

I am sure alcoholics feel the same

Fantomflangeflinger · 15/10/2025 10:15

Stealth18 · 15/10/2025 05:30

I believe that 90% of all people claiming mental health issues have nothing wrong with them and are simply just inadequate and looking for excuses.

Yes and it’s costing us a fortune.

Doris86 · 15/10/2025 10:16

I’d never admit what my husband and I get up to behind closed doors.

pictoosh · 15/10/2025 10:16

I bet the fad-followers who tattooed their necks wish they hadn't now.

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 10:17

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 10:13

I wouldn’t want to be obese so would do everything in my power to not be!

Which presumably would include a jab to curb your psychological urge for food if you hadn't been able to control it any other way.

You've compared weight loss jabs to using performance enhancing drugs in competition, but it's a completely false equivalence because weight loss isn't a competition. You seem to think it is, but it isn't. All this shows is that you feel in competition with these people. You're not, though. Their medical treatments to help solve their weight and psychological problems are nothing to do with you or anyone else at all. It simply isn't a competition.

Fantomflangeflinger · 15/10/2025 10:17

Kingsleadhat · 15/10/2025 08:43

100 per cent agree they should be left to grow and not picked and trapped in vases. I feel the same about real Christmas trees. I get genuinely upset every year after Christmas seeing piles of dead trees in our local.park waiting to be collected and destroyed

Same, plants should be living not dead/dying.

Thats why I never wanted bouquets.

Dollymylove · 15/10/2025 10:18

I think that many of those claiming mental health issues are just lazy grifters

DelusionalBrilliance · 15/10/2025 10:18

I have huge amounts of limerence and longing for a man I knew 20 years ago, I think I love/d him more than anyone I’ve ever met. When I see him occasionally my heart breaks and I wonder what it would have been like had I made different choices back then.

Zov · 15/10/2025 10:19

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 14/10/2025 23:07

I have a friend who loves baking elaborate cakes. They look amazing but taste awful. If she gives me a piece, I always throw it away after she's left.

What is it about these elaborate cake bakers? I have tasted no less than THREE of these cakes this past year - all look amazing, like genuinely stunning, but taste of nothing. So incredibly bland. Why can these clearly talented (artisically) people baking them, not make them taste good too? Anyone know???

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 15/10/2025 10:19

Fantomflangeflinger · 15/10/2025 10:17

Same, plants should be living not dead/dying.

Thats why I never wanted bouquets.

Just quoting you to stay relevant to the flower discussion.

I hate when people send flowers when a relative or friend has died.

Why would I want to put flowers in a vase and also watch them die as a reminder that my loved one has died?

And I get inundated by them. It's just like being surrounded by death!

LindorDoubleChoc · 15/10/2025 10:19

noidea69 · 15/10/2025 10:04

Women love "true crime" because their lives are boring.

I agree with this one, although would say "people love" rather than "women love". People who love true crime are ghoulish weirdos. There's that too.

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 10:20

JHound · 15/10/2025 10:07

You see I love the idea of waking up when I want and not having a boss....but I want to do that without having to do any domestic labour, childcare or emotional labour! 😄

I was a single mum (had a very generous maintenance agreement, more than I would have earned in a job) so there was no one I had to answer to. If I didn’t want to do housework that day I didn’t have to. I always enjoyed cooking for my kids though and loved when they came home from school there was the smell of baking pies and cakes etc. I don’t think a day went by in that sixteen years where I didn’t acknowledge to myself how much I loved not having to work.

blankcanvas3 · 15/10/2025 10:20

Doris86 · 15/10/2025 10:16

I’d never admit what my husband and I get up to behind closed doors.

well you have to tell us now?!

Starlight1984 · 15/10/2025 10:21

Doris86 · 15/10/2025 10:16

I’d never admit what my husband and I get up to behind closed doors.

Surely that's defeating the point of this thread?! 😂

SpottyAardvark · 15/10/2025 10:22

Outwardly, I’m politically tolerant, liberal & centrist. I voted Labour last year and Remain in 2016.

Inwardly, I hate what 25 years of uncontrolled mass immigration has done to this country. I hate the divisions & ghettoisation it has caused. I hate the fact that my local city has degenerated into a third world cesspit. I don’t blame the migrants themselves, although I don’t want to live anywhere near them. I blame the mainstream politicians for allowing it to happen. I will vote Reform at the next election, although I obviously won’t tell a soul IRL. There are millions like me.

SprockettsFarm · 15/10/2025 10:22

My mum left the price sticker on our wedding anniversary card (and got the number of years wrong - it's 41, not "thirty-something", FFS!) and I was so annoyed that I tore the card into four pieces and hid it at the bottom of the recycling bin.

Frequentlyincorrectbut · 15/10/2025 10:22

dollyblue01 · 15/10/2025 06:03

I hate Christmas and the whole family thing and pressure of having to see everyone and buying stuff , plastering on a smile bc it’s Christmas , always glad when it’s Boxing Day.

This is me. I find the whole thing fake, it's just made-up jollity, tinsel which is plastic crap, and nothing genuine to me. I see my family lots anyway, so it's a day with pressure for nothing. I would bypass it completely if I could by going on a holiday abroad, but the (older) children are very wedded to Christmas and I'll do it for them and be secretly happy on Boxing Day!

Poppingby · 15/10/2025 10:22

SpottyAardvark · 15/10/2025 10:22

Outwardly, I’m politically tolerant, liberal & centrist. I voted Labour last year and Remain in 2016.

Inwardly, I hate what 25 years of uncontrolled mass immigration has done to this country. I hate the divisions & ghettoisation it has caused. I hate the fact that my local city has degenerated into a third world cesspit. I don’t blame the migrants themselves, although I don’t want to live anywhere near them. I blame the mainstream politicians for allowing it to happen. I will vote Reform at the next election, although I obviously won’t tell a soul IRL. There are millions like me.

balls.

RedRec · 15/10/2025 10:23

I loved my aunt (not even blood related, was my mum's brother's wife) more than I loved my own mum. Nothing wrong with my mum but my auntie was the person I loved the most in my life, after my children. We became really close after my mum died, so mum never knew how I felt. Both gone now but I miss my aunt all the time.

ColourThief · 15/10/2025 10:24

UncharteredWaters · 14/10/2025 23:10

I think a lot of benefit claimants are cheating the system.

Cash in hand jobs, partners living there, exaggerated mental health claims. Lots of massaging the truth.

No. Benefits cheats are an incredibly small minority.

To answer OP, beautifully illustrated by the comment I responded to, I think people that read The Daily Mail/watch GB News and take whatever drivel and propaganda they are being fed as gospel are a bit dim and uneducated.

If I can see the clear attempts to incite hate and get us all fighting each other so we don’t look up at who is actually causing the problems, why can’t they?

It’s both bemusing and infuriating.

Another one, I think most boomers don’t have a grip on the reality that younger people face.
Most will dig their heels in and get furiously defensive if you dare point out how much easier it was to own a home when they were younger and seem to think if we all just cut our takeaways and Netflix and “work hard” we should be able to own our homes too.

It’s insulting and ridiculously out of touch.

We work incredibly hard, but sadly unless things change drastically with regards to wages and house prices, it’s never going to happen.

Wondering how long my comment lasts on boomer loving Mumsnet 🙄

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 15/10/2025 10:24

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 14/10/2025 23:07

I have a friend who loves baking elaborate cakes. They look amazing but taste awful. If she gives me a piece, I always throw it away after she's left.

We have a neighbour who does this... gross massive cupcakes with lollypops and haribos sticking out of icing. Straight in the bin.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 10:25

JHound · 15/10/2025 10:15

I am sure alcoholics feel the same

…and the duvet cover needs washed

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 10:25

Fantomflangeflinger · 15/10/2025 10:15

Yes and it’s costing us a fortune.

Those inadequate suicidal knobheads, chemical imbalance inbalance in their brains my arse. Those selfish twat's with PTSD, those drama queen, 5 stone anorexic teens and those lazy depressed men & women who have suffered decades of abuse and can no longer leave their homes. If only they could recognise how deeply inadequate they were, then the world would be a better place. Costing us a fortune the cheeky sods and damn all those psychiatrists with years of study and medical experience, hospitalising them, prescribing medication amd therapy that isn't required rather than listening to you two, silly little doctors.

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