Page 15 | Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

TwinklyFawn · 2025-10-14T12:13:51+00:00

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

youalright · 15/10/2025 09:22

Galatine · 15/10/2025 09:17

Because you can only make a joke out of the situation if everyone knows it’s not true. Do you remember the Walkers Crisp advert where Gary Lineker steals a child’s crisps. It only works because we can’t imagine him being so mean. Of course people know you are not joking, because it is too close to a truth they don’t like admitting even to themselves.

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But i say the same stuff to the people I like and dislike they just don't know which one they are

yappypups · 15/10/2025 09:22

I think that many adults having assessments for neurodiversity have actually got personality disorders.

ConflictofInterest · 15/10/2025 09:23

I don't believe this world is real, but I can't tell anyone or they will think I am unwell.

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 09:24

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 09:18

So you get full faster so eat less ultimately though not intentionally. It’s the people who also struggle with wanting to eat a second or third cake, but they know that the empty calories will end up as excess fat on their bodies and they have to really try to say no.

It doesn’t come easy to everyone and that’s my point.

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It doesn't come easy to me. If I ate what I really wanted I'd be the size of a house. As it is, I am a healthy weight (just) but definitely not skinny. I am careful with food and exercise and sometimes it's hard and I go over a bit and have to work to get back down.

But I couldn't care less about other people with weight problems or psychological issues using the jabs. It's not a competition, it's really not about me or anyone else. It's helping them with a health issue. It's not about you or anyone else.

If you think it's such an easy fix, then why not eat exactly as you want, go mad, gain a load of weight and go for the jabs yourself?

youalright · 15/10/2025 09:24

yappypups · 15/10/2025 09:22

I think that many adults having assessments for neurodiversity have actually got personality disorders.

I think the opposite i think a lot of people (mainly women) including myself have been diagnosed with personality disorders actually are ND

SeagullSam2027 · 15/10/2025 09:24

Rumpledandcrumpled · 15/10/2025 09:00

I think people who think weight loss jags are cheating, or any other nonsense are simply jealous, resentful, messed up about weight and the sort to see other women as competition. I also don’t understand why people engage with them.

I agree. Those kind of people are toxic.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 09:25

CunningLinguist2 · 15/10/2025 08:09

“Fat jabs” are saving my life. Cholesterol & HbA1c stalled after losing 20 kilos without “the jab”. Lost the last 10 kg with “jab” and maintaining with “jab”. Not regretting it for a second. It means a flurry of reduced, strong family health risks for me & it doesn’t impact YOUR life at all, so term it anyway you like; I’ll still do it. Only “side effect” is that I now feel fantastic too & wake up grateful to be super slim as well every single day :)

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Good for you, I’m pleased you’re feeling better.

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 09:25

Mademetoxic · 15/10/2025 09:14

Sadly we all know people who milk the system. Yet if any of us mention it we get attacked.

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No mention of benefits in these 2 posts. I would say, saying 90% of people who claim to have mental health issues are in adequate is definitely on the attack.

Yes people milk the system, but that is a tiny minority, another group is people who desperately need benefits and get nothing. Benefit claimants are continually attacked in sm and the press, much more widely then anyone trying to defend them

Galatine · 15/10/2025 09:25

Jollyjoy · 14/10/2025 23:49

I pee in the shower.

Doesn’t everyone!!

artherbrownlow · 15/10/2025 09:26

All of my romantic relationships have been with abusive people, right from when I was a teenager. I do have childhood trauma which made me choose red flag type people but surely it must be me too at fault?

MessyNDepressy · 15/10/2025 09:27

I’m poor. Like no savings and £2.50 in the bank type poor. I don’t have a high income but I’m also awful at managing what I do have.

I wish I could fall in love, get married and live happily ever after but I can’t so I pretend I’m perfectly happy single.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 15/10/2025 09:30

yappypups · 15/10/2025 09:22

I think that many adults having assessments for neurodiversity have actually got personality disorders.

I know what you mean, so I'm going to sound really pedantic when I say this. Personality disorders are part of neurodiversity 😬

I know what you actually mean though which is that people go for autism and ADHD assessments because to them it sounds more palatable than accepting they have a personality disorder which can feel like a personal failing.

A gripe of mine is when people self ID as ADHD but they're actually showing screaming symptoms of autism but they don't want Autism autism, they want Autism lite.

As someone who has been through these screenings though they do (or should! Did in my case) rate my scoring for certain things to check to see if it was likely that I did actually have a personality disorder instead, but there are a lot of things they check for in the assessments like whether there's a genuine lack of empathy or whether it is actually a deficit in emotional reciprocity and whether these symptoms have been present since childhood (usually under 7, but along with early childhood development). I don't think the screening is foolproof by any stretch, but in my case it was very thorough and the clinicians were very knowledgeable and knew what to look out for and were honest in their lines of enquiry.

Jollyjoy · 15/10/2025 09:32

Hellohelga · 15/10/2025 09:04

We all do

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Do we? Haha. My 10 year old is appalled at the idea that her younger sister does it (it makes her really happy lol) and I don’t quite know how to navigate that so I’m teaching the little one it’s the kind of thing people may do but keep to themselves!

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 09:32

I am very very happy with my life. Happy with work, happily married, two wonderful kids, I would not change any of it.

But I'm a maladaptive daydreamer and I have a series of fantasy lives that I slip into all the time. Some of them are sexual fantasies. I'd never want any of that to happen in real life but it's not real life, it's a safe and secret fantasy.

Starlight1984 · 15/10/2025 09:33

I wish more than anything I could give up work and be a housewife.

I know women fought hard to be given equal rights but nothing makes me happier than pottering round the house. The house would be immaculate, we would have lovely homemade meals every day, lots of walks with the dogs in the surrounding countryside and trips into the village to do my food shopping at the greengrocers and butchers (rather than the reality which is a quick stop at the Co-Op on the way home to pick up a pizza or lasagne to bung in the oven 😭). We live in a beautiful old house in a lovely rural village and I feel like we never get chance to make the most of it.

I could do that for the next 30-40 years and never get bored.

Jollyjoy · 15/10/2025 09:34

ConflictofInterest · 15/10/2025 09:23

I don't believe this world is real, but I can't tell anyone or they will think I am unwell.

You should go to a Buddhist Centre, you’ll find a home there…

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 09:34

Rumpledandcrumpled · 15/10/2025 09:00

I think people who think weight loss jags are cheating, or any other nonsense are simply jealous, resentful, messed up about weight and the sort to see other women as competition. I also don’t understand why people engage with them.

Of course they’re jealous because it’s unfair that they have to really try and suppress their desire for more sweets treats/high fat foods etc… because they aren’t big enough!

Fine to have something to make people slim but they should be available to anyone to make it an even playing field. Again Many slim people have to consider what they eat and make the right choices….!

BeeDavis · 15/10/2025 09:34

Me and my husband can literally not do anything without his cousin and his wife copying. Infuriating. It’s not even like it’s just us being paranoid, it has been pointed out to us by multiple other people so they’ve noticed too.

Mademetoxic · 15/10/2025 09:34

DrowningInSyrup · 15/10/2025 09:25

No mention of benefits in these 2 posts. I would say, saying 90% of people who claim to have mental health issues are in adequate is definitely on the attack.

Yes people milk the system, but that is a tiny minority, another group is people who desperately need benefits and get nothing. Benefit claimants are continually attacked in sm and the press, much more widely then anyone trying to defend them

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Someone further down this thread says their brother has a 'bad back' yet is continuously out and about doing things. I know people who do not work due to 'anxiety' yet can go out and about their normal day like anyone else. Doing things and just generally living life. There are genuine people out there but many, many others are taking the piss. Yet whenever anyone questions it, we get attacked.

TeeBee · 15/10/2025 09:36

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

OMG, me too! I find it embarrassing. I hate opening Christmas presents and try to push it as late in the day as possible; preferably when nobody else is around. My partner is skint this year so I'm really going to try to persuade him that we dispose of presents this year and just have a trip out somewhere instead. He likes 'stuff' but I hate it. Just more fucking clutter.

pontipinemum · 15/10/2025 09:38

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Get a text out NOW. Saying ' hi all I really appreciate your wonderful genorocity, but for this Christmas we have decided to limit the amount of gift we give and receive'

Most of my family no longer give gifts to each other

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 09:40

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 15/10/2025 09:12

Weight isn't a competition, you can't 'cheat'.

A lot of overweight people experience an obsessive focus on food ('food noise') that a lot of slim people don't. It's not a level playing field. You may have to fight with yourself to eat less, but that's not a universal experience, and even if it were people have different levels of resources available to manage that.

It's weird to want the NHS to be able to focus more on children and not want obesity to reduce, as that would help achieve it.

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No what’s weird is to assume food nose is ONLY something larger people experience. Children shouldn’t be obese and I judge parents if their child is as the onus is on them. It’s a form of neglect.

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 09:41

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 08:44

Oh behave. We all judge everything, everyday of our lives. We all have different opinions and some may agree and others disagree. It was a question asked about what you wouldn’t admit in really life so I answered! Low and behold people can’t handle it because it doesn’t align with their views. It’s not that deep!

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I stand by the fact I wouldn’t judge someone for losing weight through the jabs. I still don’t understand why you would though or why you likened it to people taking performance enhancing steriods.

Happyjoe · 15/10/2025 09:42

SeptemberOctober25 · 14/10/2025 20:45

My mum is getting increasingly more difficult she was a phenomenal mum growing up which makes it harder I am a different panicy person after I go see her in her old age I find myself finding excuses not to go don't get me wrong I go very regularly but I don't want to go :-(

Can be an early warning of dementia, sad to say.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 09:42

ThatCyanCat · 15/10/2025 09:13

Weight loss isn't an athletic or competitive performance! Why do you think overweight people using the jabs is any sort of comment on slim people, or anything to do with them at all?

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What?