Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

[TwinklyFawn]

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

Aww that’s lovely , well not everyone can be I’m afraid( 🤣)
But you can move here , and tell everyone you love it we will love you back for it!

We all do

Me too. Every Christmas I gear up to it thinking " here goes another crazy consumer fest" .I mean I love Christmas but the whole present fiasco is just awkward now that we are all grown ups, all work and we buy our own necessities
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I found out when my eldest went travelling ( and got chased for a tax return) she was earning more than I have ever earned or ever will, and my middle one is probably getting close to that too these days. It just seems bonkers and even though we established a directive that we each give each other person no more than 2 presents, hardly anyone is able to stick to it, me included. My brain tells me I've been stingy if I haven't splashed out say £80 or £90. We are all incapable of down-sizing. Well maybe not my son but the rest of us, we just can't do it.

They absolutely know.

And probably think @youalright is a twat

I'm the same. I don't really care about what's going on in the world.

Good

I wrote that with such anger I didn't proof read, it has so many typos!

Gosh I felt that one!
My mum drinks (has for 30years which been a barrier in our relationship forever.) Her drinking been worst since my DF died. He held her together & controlled it to a degree. I made her realise no one is going to stop her now and said mean things about reality of her death. She is now actively engaging in help-still drinking a ridiculous amount but now I feel sad. If she drank herself to death I would have been angry and resentful but now… very sad. She likely can’t stop but is facing reality alone.

I’m glad immigrants come here to do the jobs (some) brits are too fat, lazy or anxious to do. I think they’ll breed in some grit and determination.

Oh this is exactly me too. Unmusnetty hugs for you. You're not alone.

You could let HMRC know he’s a benefit scrounging fraud. Anonymously. I’m sure most tax payers would agree we hate paying for parasites like him to leech off us.

One of my former friends who was a former colleague too. She was nice in the face to our Asian colleagues. When met up for a meal, she was being very racist towards them with her comments. I wish I had the guts to tell her in the face that I don't want to hear her racist comments. Then go home on my own. She hadn't got a clue about how to get home as I either drove or knew the bus numbers, bus stops etc.

Weight isn't a competition, you can't 'cheat'.

A lot of overweight people experience an obsessive focus on food ('food noise') that a lot of slim people don't. It's not a level playing field. You may have to fight with yourself to eat less, but that's not a universal experience, and even if it were people have different levels of resources available to manage that.

It's weird to want the NHS to be able to focus more on children and not want obesity to reduce, as that would help achieve it.

People have been caught before from SM posts with them doing stuff which according to their benefits, can't get out of the house.

Weight loss isn't an athletic or competitive performance! Why do you think overweight people using the jabs is any sort of comment on slim people, or anything to do with them at all?

Channel a fraction of that anger then to actually doing something.

For a start, report to DWP.

I wish i hadn't taken on the cat ive got now...shes 8 and must have had some kind of trauma in her life...as one minute shes purring and wanting love and the next shes shredding my hand.
I took her in as her elderly owner died and i fell for the sob story but ive never had such an unpredictable spiteful cat.

Sadly we all know people who milk the system. Yet if any of us mention it we get attacked.

Sometimes it really is the parents at fault.

Because you can only make a joke out of the situation if everyone knows it’s not true. Do you remember the Walkers Crisp advert where Gary Lineker steals a child’s crisps. It only works because we can’t imagine him being so mean. Of course people know you are not joking, because it is too close to a truth they don’t like admitting even to themselves.

So you get full faster so eat less ultimately though not intentionally. It’s the people who also struggle with wanting to eat a second or third cake, but they know that the empty calories will end up as excess fat on their bodies and they have to really try to say no.

It doesn’t come easy to everyone and that’s my point.

I get this! I love my DH more than life itself but every time we have a disagreement or bicker (which isn't actually very often) I go through all my finances checking I would be ok if we split up and looking on Rightmove at where I could potentially move to with my half of the money. Currently got my sights set on a Dutch barge😂

I think it stems from my (very independent, single) mum drilling it into me to make sure I was always ok financially and never dependant on a man..

I'm probably a really hateful person but I can't wait until FIL dies.

Since MIL died (which is about as long as I've known FIL) he's been abusive, sexist, pays for sex, got his girlfriend addicted to drugs so they can have sex for longer, intentionally aggravates autistic BIL to the point of a destructive meltdown, video records it, then rings the police and shows them the really selective bits he's videod and not the bits where he has called him stupid, lazy, retarded, ugly, hit him, thrown things at him, or got him so dependent on diazepam that he withholds it to stir his anxiety up to get these volatile reactions. Adult social care and safeguarding have been involved but as BIL is an adult with capacity and refused to leave FIL the cycle just continues.

He sometimes purposefully charges at pedestrians on the road when he knows there's no cameras around, then breaks last second. He constantly gets caught for speeding then blackmails one of his (often non driving) children to do the speed awareness courses.

He can't call women by their names, just calls them bitches and cunts. It's always "I rang that bitch to ask for help today and she said no she's so ungrateful" and then you have to play a guessing game about whether thats either of his 2 daughters, his girlfriend, his sisters, me, or just someone from a call centre.

He claims PIP when he really doesn't need it and I've reported it multiple times but A. It never gets anywhere because he knows when to go to the doctors and manufacture evidence by playing on his symptoms and B. He always accuses autistic BIL of reporting him to spite him for his horrific treatment and then his horrible behaviour towards BIL escalates.

When people question whether good and evil are real things or just nebulous moral sides we apply to human behaviours I would present you my FIL.

He's been caught for fraud so many times and I have no idea how he hasn't been put in jail but I do know he often pleads poor mental health. I had the luxury of listening in to a meeting he had with the council, universal credit, and police about him claiming the rent element but never paying his rent, as a person who has been caught up for having a cash income of over £100k a year, and the displeasure of the only consequence being he would have to pay it back and his universal credit would be suspended because he has depression.

He's extremely racist. His girlfriend is black, from SA. He's Polish. But obviously according to him he's one of the good Polish people and not one of those Polish people that is coming over to steal all our jobs.

I could keep writing, but I'd take up a whole page if I did.

I don't care if wishing him dead makes me a horrible, evil person. His death would solve a lot of issues.

Wait 22 years