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Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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TwinklyFawn · 14/10/2025 13:13

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

OP posts:
SeagullSam2027 · 15/10/2025 08:39

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

Slim people aren't heroes to be admired for being slim - I say that as someone who is a size 10. If there's an easy way to lose weight and keep that weight off, the smart way would be to use it. It's great that so many people are using them to improve their health and quality of life.

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 08:40

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:09

Yes but those people are in competition. If jabs make you lose weight I can’t see why others should look on it as cheating, unless there is some resentment at play by the accuser.

The resentment would be having to actively try to stay slim because they aren’t allowed the drugs, certainly not on the NHS.

Janey3090 · 15/10/2025 08:41

I don't like my sisters boyfriend, and I don't think he likes me. He's rude and ungrateful. I can't say anything though because she's happy.

FlyingUnicornWings · 15/10/2025 08:43

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

I really appreciate this and I feel the same. There’s just too much stuff!!

Although I’m more than happy to accept stuff I can eat 😆 I often just ask for things like fancy hot chocolate or coffee I usually wouldn’t buy myself.

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 08:43

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:44

Then I think you’re going to have to say something. We all spoke about it year’s ago and agreed adults didn’t buy for adults (other than couples if they wanted to) but no relatives buying for other relatives. We were all relieved to do it.

Edited

My in laws won't stop buying - we've asked them to - as they want gifts in return! I don't have anything to do with the gift buying, thankfully.

Kingsleadhat · 15/10/2025 08:43

MinnieBaldock · 15/10/2025 07:19

Oh me too as well,I love daffs though. I call them a little bit of sunshine. Flowers should be left to grow in the ground.

100 per cent agree they should be left to grow and not picked and trapped in vases. I feel the same about real Christmas trees. I get genuinely upset every year after Christmas seeing piles of dead trees in our local.park waiting to be collected and destroyed

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 08:44

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:33

I’m assuming you’re slim but have to be very disciplined to stay that way, as when I was effortlessly slim I would never have felt judgy over how people lost weight.

Oh behave. We all judge everything, everyday of our lives. We all have different opinions and some may agree and others disagree. It was a question asked about what you wouldn’t admit in really life so I answered! Low and behold people can’t handle it because it doesn’t align with their views. It’s not that deep!

MoonDanceCafe · 15/10/2025 08:45

Brother in law, you are a lazy twat. Years of sitting on benefits with 'back' issues and calling it 'your condition', it's a bad back ffs, we all suffer from various ailments it's called being human. w

You have milked the tax payer for years yet are out there playing golf, walking miles every day oh and let's not forget the SM posts every weekend of you jumping around at karaoke and generally has a nice relaxing life whilst people like your hard working brother slog their guts out every day doing 10 hour days.

You have also brought 4 children into the world and barely had time for any of them. The reason they are fucked up adults is because of you, not them as your (what is it now) 10th partner?, likes to tell everyone.

Luckyingame · 15/10/2025 08:48

Reallyneedsaholiday · 14/10/2025 21:51

I wasn't in love with my husband when we got married.

Me neither.
His circumstances were too good to let him go.
After 25 years, I realised what a decent man he is
(and I'm sorted for life).
No children, no work.

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 08:49

Another one from me....after 20+ years with DH, I've admitted to myself that I don't like my parents in law. I've persevered and persevered, but always found it incredibly difficult and uncomfortable to be in their company.

My MIL is childish, narcissistic, attention seeking and pompous. My FIL is a humourless bore.

I encourage DH to invite them round and see them as much as possible, and he'll never know how I feel (although he struggles with them himself for the same reasons).

SunnieShine · 15/10/2025 08:49

Amiable · 15/10/2025 00:06

I have a favourite child

Most parents do.

Absentosaur · 15/10/2025 08:50

SunnieShine · 15/10/2025 08:49

Most parents do.

Children have a favourite parent too 🤷‍♀️

lifeonmars100 · 15/10/2025 08:51

Very few people know that I have a brother, he sexually abused me and my sister and I have no contact with him. I have only told a few close friends and that was after many years. We are all getting old now and I am dreading what will happen when he dies or if I die before him as I do not want to go to his funeral or for him to come to mine if i pre-decease him. This is one of the reasons I am thinking of just having a direct cremation. For decades i "forgot" and minimised the abuse but as I have got older and have had other traumas in my life it has bubbled to the surface and I feel such sorrow for young girl I once was and whose first enounter with an erect penis was waking up to find her brother on top of her. My dad was a dodgy one too, lurking outside the bathroom and my bedroom and making sexual remarks. It was the 60's and there was nobody to tell. I supressed so much and just ploughed on through life.

ThatAgileLimeCat · 15/10/2025 08:52

I considered getting an abortion when I was pregnant with one of my children. It wasn't planned and I was in an abusive relationship and felt so trapped. I went ahead with the pregnancy and love my child very much but they have had a very very difficult life. I think that's my fault even though the things that happened to them were out of my control.

Starlight1984 · 15/10/2025 08:55

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 14/10/2025 23:18

Sometimes when I’m home alone and both DD and DP are working/doing something else I order my favourite takeaway, watch something I like and dispose of the evidence.

Then I act like “no, I haven’t had any Chinese this month, what a great idea, let’s order”.
😇

Occasionally I'll be absolutely starving driving home from work so I'll stop at McDonalds and get some chicken nuggets to keep me going until dinnertime. I pull in and throw the packaging in a bin on the street before I get home 😂

AngelinaFibres · 15/10/2025 08:57

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

I judge fat people.I find fatness repulsive. It's probably because I'm terrified of becoming one of them and so I work really hard at staying slim.

lifeonmars100 · 15/10/2025 08:57

DontbesorrybeGiles · 15/10/2025 07:18

I know one of these too. She talked about her book for years and I bought it when it was finally self published and was genuinely blown away by how terrible it was. She asked people to write online reviews and everything. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

I knew someone who self published a book of poetry, less said about it the better. They were really thrilled and thought that despite having to pay a fee they had been picked up by a publisher because they were so talented.

Namechangerage · 15/10/2025 08:59

TomatoSandwiches · 14/10/2025 22:39

I hope something heavy squashes her from above.... or ops step dad runs her over? 🤞

😂😂

Rumpledandcrumpled · 15/10/2025 09:00

I think people who think weight loss jags are cheating, or any other nonsense are simply jealous, resentful, messed up about weight and the sort to see other women as competition. I also don’t understand why people engage with them.

METimezone · 15/10/2025 09:00

HoppityBun · 14/10/2025 23:20

I expect you’ve thought of this, but could you use the vouchers to buy presents for the people who give them to you, if you’re expected to buy them presents. Or buy stuff for charities? Like positive money laundering?

#EverydayGenius

I had never thought of this but it's a great suggestion!

Namechangerage · 15/10/2025 09:01

MoonDanceCafe · 15/10/2025 08:45

Brother in law, you are a lazy twat. Years of sitting on benefits with 'back' issues and calling it 'your condition', it's a bad back ffs, we all suffer from various ailments it's called being human. w

You have milked the tax payer for years yet are out there playing golf, walking miles every day oh and let's not forget the SM posts every weekend of you jumping around at karaoke and generally has a nice relaxing life whilst people like your hard working brother slog their guts out every day doing 10 hour days.

You have also brought 4 children into the world and barely had time for any of them. The reason they are fucked up adults is because of you, not them as your (what is it now) 10th partner?, likes to tell everyone.

Jesus, what a a waste of air he sounds like. Sorry you have to put up with someone like that in your life

Hellohelga · 15/10/2025 09:02

SunshineAndFizz · 14/10/2025 22:04

I don’t like receiving flowers. I’ve never told anyone, as lots of people have bought them for me over the years and it’s a very kind gesture. But I don’t like them.

Me too, the smell makes me feel sick

longlocks · 15/10/2025 09:02

My DM's hearing loss. I speak slowly and use words that more distinctive to listen to or repeat myself about 4 times. Its frustrating that she suddenly can't hear me. Even with the same speed, tone, volume I have been using.

LifeBeginsToday · 15/10/2025 09:03

I think people get out of life what they put into it. We live in a part of the world where opportunities are plentiful, and everyone could do better. But there is far too much victim mentality. They didn't steal your job, you are too lazy to have a job.

youalright · 15/10/2025 09:03

Owly11 · 15/10/2025 07:36

Oh they know you are not joking.

I hope so

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