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Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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TwinklyFawn · 14/10/2025 13:13

Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

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BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:33

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 06:43

There we go again, the assumption that slim people are somehow ‘lucky’ because they are slim. There is no luck about it. Many people make proactive choices to stay that weight and if they didn’t they would ‘need’ the jab too. There is nothing fundamentally different to their bodies!it’s that they don’t eat as many calories etc..

I’m assuming you’re slim but have to be very disciplined to stay that way, as when I was effortlessly slim I would never have felt judgy over how people lost weight.

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 07:34

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 15/10/2025 07:01

I never tell people that I post on here. Sometimes I’ll say “I read online…” but I’d never admit to posting on an online forum and I’d never say I was a mumsnet user.

Same! I sometimes pretend a thread I'm referring to was on Reddit 😅
Partly because I don't have kids, and partly because I think Mumsnet sounds frumpy and naff, but I'm on here all the time, so I guess I know what that makes me!

CheesusChristSuperstar · 15/10/2025 07:34

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

As a slim person, this isn't true for me, I don't fight with myself to not have a larger portion, I eat whatever I want and sometimes stuff myself to bursting. However, 'whatever I want' seems to be less in terms of volume than what most other people eat. I've never eaten a full three course meal because I simply can't manage that much food, I think the size of my stomach must be smaller than most other people's or something, although I also don't naturally gravitate towards the larger portion of food if there's a choice as other people seem to, it doesn't bother me whether I have a large portion of something or not.
If people want to use fat jabs because it improves their lives then good, I'm glad for them. Having the freedom to eat 'whatever you want' like I do and not continually think about calorie content and fat content on a daily basis, probably makes them much happier, so good for them.

wineandagoodbook · 15/10/2025 07:35

I'm angry at mum for having vascular dementia and that I have to spend the next possible 10 years looking after her and her affairs just when my children are now all left school (2 adult and a late teen) and I was starting to have a life again

Nosdacariad · 15/10/2025 07:35

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Completely agree. It is stressful to be responsible for stuff.

Owly11 · 15/10/2025 07:36

youalright · 14/10/2025 22:51

I use sarcasm to tell people to their face what I really think of them they think I'm joking I'm not

Oh they know you are not joking.

PurpleFrogg · 15/10/2025 07:38

I come across as very polite, nice and ladylike but I’m secretly disgusting 🤣 In private, I sit like a man, I fart, burp, swear and I’m generally pretty gross. I’m basically a man 😆

I also come across as very nice and lovely but I’m also a writer, so I’m secretly making mental notes about stuff you say to use them as ideas in my work… no one is safe!

Nosdacariad · 15/10/2025 07:40

BeanQuisine · 14/10/2025 23:49

Me too but I'm quite happy to say that in real life. 😆

Also totally agree

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 07:40

Nosdacariad · 15/10/2025 07:35

Completely agree. It is stressful to be responsible for stuff.

Same. I think long and hard over anything I buy as it has to be just right. I'm so particular about what we have in our home, and what I wear, eat, use. I'll put something in an online basket and mull over it for 6 weeks before buying it. So anyone else buying for me will not get it right, and I end up feeling burdened by their gift. I also have plenty of disposable income, so a £50 John Lewis voucher is neither here nor there to me, which sounds awful. I truly wish people would stop bothering.

ballroompink · 15/10/2025 07:42

I muted a couple of friends on social media because of their incessant, performative, multiple posts a day about Gaza.

I don't feel particularly warmly towards my nieces and nephews on DH's side of the family. I don't hate them and certainly don't wish anything bad on them, but I don't really have any loving or caring feelings towards them either.

I don't think it's discrimination to not be able to cater for every single workplace requirement of people who are ND/struggle with their mental health when it often causes a load of extra work for their colleagues. Some jobs aren't right for some people and that needs to be admitted.

BunnyLake · 15/10/2025 07:44

TattooStan · 15/10/2025 07:40

Same. I think long and hard over anything I buy as it has to be just right. I'm so particular about what we have in our home, and what I wear, eat, use. I'll put something in an online basket and mull over it for 6 weeks before buying it. So anyone else buying for me will not get it right, and I end up feeling burdened by their gift. I also have plenty of disposable income, so a £50 John Lewis voucher is neither here nor there to me, which sounds awful. I truly wish people would stop bothering.

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Then I think you’re going to have to say something. We all spoke about it year’s ago and agreed adults didn’t buy for adults (other than couples if they wanted to) but no relatives buying for other relatives. We were all relieved to do it.

Mightymooo · 15/10/2025 07:44

I hate where we live but we can't afford to move and we had a lot of help to get here so I keep it to myself.

Whatislife73 · 15/10/2025 07:48

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/10/2025 23:06

I find getting new gifts and presents quite stressful. I only want what I need. Both my family and dhs are generous and at Christmas the house will be filled with things, especially for the children. I have so many vouchers that I don't use, it becomes another pressure. The same is expected in return so i end up with loads to buy and hate adding to the waste and extravagance. I am aware I would sound like a spolt brat if i said this but I really do prefer a more frugal simpler life.

Why not use the vouchers you don’t use to buy gifts. Then there is no waste!

MiserableMrsMopp · 15/10/2025 07:49

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 06:37

It’s not physically impossible for some people to lose weight! You’re making it sound like being overweight or obese is due to a differing biological make up compared to slim people and that’s absolute bollocks.

As I say, nothing like taking pain relief. I’m not against medication or even the jab to lose weight, as the state has clearly needed to step in, such is the sheer number of obese people and the toll on their own health and the cost to the NHS

Edited

I feel bad for responding to this, because this thread is about what you wouldn't admit to in real life. BUT.

Endocrinologists are beginning to consider the idea of obesity being Type 3 diabetes. Which seems to align with how WLI help (in addition to being an appetite suppressant) in those with insulin resistance.

Puddypuds · 15/10/2025 07:56

Love this thread! I too hate receiving flowers as the first flowers I ever received were from my husband after he was an absolute arse. Stuck with me ever since.

I dislike Christmas day and Boxing Day intensely and would happily never sit through another one again. The build up is absolutely fine though!

I despise it when people say oh bless to me. I don't need pity and I don't believe in any imaginary deity.

I would happily never buy a birthday/Christmas present for anyone ever again and have no issues with this being reciprocated. I would much rather spend my money on myself, for myself and on something I would like. I absolutely hate the waste both environmentally and financially.

I love my mum but if she wasn't my mum I wouldn't particularly like her. I also think she should have worked full time as I got older instead of constantly complaining about money and being funded almost completely by my Dad. I would love to shout at her that he provides absolutely everything for her and it's still not good enough.....in reality that will never happen.

I don't like dogs. I don't hate them but have absolutely no interest in them and would happily never see one again. I don't like having to pretend to like other people's dogs just to be polite.

I sometimes want to be hospitalised for a month or so (and be totally out of it) just to see if everyone would manage without me. Would it encourage my other half to learn to use the "complicated" banking app, would he be able to work out how to sort the car insurance, would he be able to read a school email and respond, would he realise that food doesn't magically appear and on and on and on. Oh and his mother and my mother would also have to be in the same coma so as not to enable his ineptitude!

Wow that was cathartic!

Glowingup · 15/10/2025 07:58

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

It’s only cheating if you use it in competitions. So yeah if you’re on Biggest Loser and competing to lose weight it’s cheating. Otherwise it’s not and nobody gives a shit.

Pinkfreedom · 15/10/2025 08:01

youalright · 14/10/2025 22:51

I use sarcasm to tell people to their face what I really think of them they think I'm joking I'm not

Are you me? I do this too.
Morons outnumber people with sense around here.

Middlechild3 · 15/10/2025 08:01

I'm so over ALL immigration. I want to walk around my neighborhood and high street and hear English being spoken. I rarely hear it, just a mix of foreign languages being spoken. I don't want to feel like I'm abroad in my own country.

MO0N · 15/10/2025 08:02

Luckystar67 · 15/10/2025 00:20

I wish that over 80s should be de prioritised by the NHS as they take up so many of it's resources.

I see your point, but I wonder if you'd think the same if you were over 80!?

Glowingup · 15/10/2025 08:04

MO0N · 15/10/2025 08:02

I see your point, but I wonder if you'd think the same if you were over 80!?

Course she wouldn’t. Disgusting attitude by people who think old age or illness will never happen to them.

MikeRafone · 15/10/2025 08:04

I don't like receiving candles as gifts, I never lite them and often give them away

nellly · 15/10/2025 08:04

hkathy · 14/10/2025 22:55

They know.

Yep!

nellly · 15/10/2025 08:06

Pinkfreedom · 15/10/2025 08:01

Are you me? I do this too.
Morons outnumber people with sense around here.

I’ve got some bad news for you 😂 I’ve met people who do this. They think they’re cleverer than anyone else. But everyone I know can see through it and thinks you’re a knob, we’re just humouring you 😁

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 08:07

youalright · 15/10/2025 06:52

Not true at all i was always skinny up until a few years ago I could eat what I wanted never gained wait. Then I ended up on steroids, got hypothyroidism and pretty sure im in peri menopause and now I just gain weight like anything I eat significantly less then I ever have yet I weigh more then I ever have. If I ate what I ate when I was skinny and didn't restrict myself id probably be about 20 stone right now.

I’m not saying it doenst get harder as we age but it’s all still relevant. Your medication etc will have contributed to your weight gain and that’s not the same for everyone.

CunningLinguist2 · 15/10/2025 08:09

ChessBess · 15/10/2025 00:42

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

“Fat jabs” are saving my life. Cholesterol & HbA1c stalled after losing 20 kilos without “the jab”. Lost the last 10 kg with “jab” and maintaining with “jab”. Not regretting it for a second. It means a flurry of reduced, strong family health risks for me & it doesn’t impact YOUR life at all, so term it anyway you like; I’ll still do it. Only “side effect” is that I now feel fantastic too & wake up grateful to be super slim as well every single day :)

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