Would this age gap bother you?

[SoManySock]

DD is 17, 18 in a couple of months. She’s in y13.
Her new boyfriend is 19 and has left school.

We don’t know him although have met him a couple of times. Keen to know more so we’ve invited him for lunch in a. Couple of weeks.

DS (20) is absolutely horrified by all this and says the age gap is too big and we should be laying down the law.

Don’t know what to think. It doesn’t seem that big a gap to me, although of course the gap between being at school and not is significant. They only see each other at weekends as live in different towns.

Am I being really slack?

No but I was 17 & he was 24. Still together 20 years later.

It wouldn't bother me at all.

So a year? Er no not a problem.

No problem at all

I would tell your son that his sister's love life is not any of his business and it's creepy he is so bothered by it

It’s got nothing to do with your son, he needs to butt out. The age gap is fine.

Barely a year is barely an age gap.

Does he think you can only be in a relationship if you're exactly the same age? There's what...18 months/2 years between them.

No I wouldn't be at all bothered. Not sure why it's anything to do with DS.

This. Deal with your son.

That's not an age gap!

Thanks everyone. I feel reassured- one of those moments when you question your own judgement as I thought it was ok.

I think you need to speak to your DS about not being so judgemental and misguided.

Not at all. My DS is 20 and his gf is 18 - it’s perfectly normal imo

It really isn't an age gap at all. I have heard this kind attitude from young people before - it's good that they are concerned about dating within their own age range but they may be taking this a bit too narrowly!

DS should keep his nose out

Your son needs to pipe down

Tell DS to keep his beak out, what nonsense!

Age gap is fine. Strange that your son thinks it isn’t.

Tell ds my husband is 30 years older than me and see what he thinks to that 🤣
He perhaps needs to think about why it bothers him so much and then maybe work on his own love life and not his sisters....

He's 19 not 29 FFS. Why is there so much hysteria about "age gaps" these days? At 18 I had a boyfriend of 25, nobody commented or even cared. I was an adult and free to date who I wished. An old friend of mine age early 20s had a boyfriend 20 years older. I never really understood what she saw in him but 25 years on they are still together so they must have a good relationship and its bugger all to do with anyone else

I am going to tell you, hm. Real thread or a snort

I opened this expecting you to say there was a 10+ year gap.
Not sure why your son even cares about who your daughter goes out with.

Why is your son so bothered

I see them as essentially the same age. I mean 17 and 19?

Come on.