Would this age gap bother you?

[SoManySock]

DD is 17, 18 in a couple of months. She’s in y13.
Her new boyfriend is 19 and has left school.

We don’t know him although have met him a couple of times. Keen to know more so we’ve invited him for lunch in a. Couple of weeks.

DS (20) is absolutely horrified by all this and says the age gap is too big and we should be laying down the law.

Don’t know what to think. It doesn’t seem that big a gap to me, although of course the gap between being at school and not is significant. They only see each other at weekends as live in different towns.

Am I being really slack?

Not a problem.

I’ve heard young people be very judgy about any kind of age gap in a relationship. I guess it’s a reaction to the grim days in the 60s and 70s when grown men regularly dated girls in their teens.

Bah it is a brother thing, DS (16) was very upset that DD (19) had her boyfriend (20) stay in the house, said it was very inappropriate 🙄🙄 I told him I will remember that when it will be his turn.

Age gap, what age gap? Tell your son to wind his bloody neck in!

Agree. What's it to do with him? It's a perfectly normal age difference.

When you said 'age gap', I thought you meant 'age gap'! The difference is barely a year. Such a non issue.

Sounds fine to me. Just over a year between them.

No I think its just because she is still in school but he is not. It's not a problem he is just one year older than her. NP

Sounds absolutely fine to me. This isn't really an age gap. I started dating my husband when I was at uni, I was 18, he was 27. My parents weren't worried about it because I was an adult. 20 years later, we're going strong.

I think age gaps are an issue usually when there's an imbalance of power, or when someone is young young.

Maybe offer to get to know him a little better so you can put to rest any worries.

My nephew is like this! He thinks you should only be in a relationship with someone in your school year. What happens when you leave school and meet someone at work or wherever? Do you have to ask what age someone is before you can have feelings for them?

I think there's some very good things that young people are taught about relationships and consent and control etc. But feel it's got a bit unrealistic for some.

I wouldn't accept my son weighing in on my daughters relationships tbh.

When i was 19 i hooked up with a 42 year together somewhat for 8 months it was bloody fun.
At 22 i had a boyfriend that was 31.

I was 18 when my boyfriend was 25! We’ve been together ever since and married for 19 years! It’s absolutely nothing to do with your son!

Its fine lol...

I thought the age gap would be at least 10 years .A year though come on !

That’s hardly an age gap at all!!!

Not a problem. I’d say if she were under 16 it might be different but it’s really nothing.

I’m generally very critical of age gaps, but this is absolutely fine.

Make sure your daughter is clued-up about consent and healthy boundaries in relationships, and that your son realises it’s not his place to policing the relationships of the women in his life.

I’m struggling to find the ‘gap’.

Your son needs to mind his own business!

Is it that creepy to worru about his sister?

Its not the gap but that hes not at school and she is. I think you should meet him.

errr 1 year gap, how ridiculous

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "age difference" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I am usually on the cautious side where age gaps are concerned but really wouldn’t have an issue with what must be at most 2 years when DD is almost 18.

Check with your son please. He may not like this boy for a reason. The age gap seems ok to me.

Their generation are very weird about age gaps - he's not being creepy he's being normal by their standards, but I agree with PP that a less than two year age gap isn't a big deal.

That's not really an age gap.