To find 'pet' names unprofessional in CS?

[BigFatBully]

Am I being unreasonable to find the usage of pet names by customer service staff unprofessional?

I am the customer and a stranger, I expect to be treated with respect. My name isn't sweetheart, it isn't love, honey, darling or sweetie.

I think pet names are fine for family members, spouses or CLOSE friends. Am I being unreasonable to think there is a time and a place for such familiarity?

Get over yourself for gods sake. No one cares about what your name actually is, or if anyone thinks your husband is their pal or not. And I’m certain absolutely no one really thinks you are a sweetheart.

Poor bartender.

You sound rude and pathetic with this reply.

Totally normal where I am. On an average day, I could get called everything from love to doll to pal, and although some of the terms annoy me (I hate chick, personally, I never take offence because none is meant and people are just being nice. Can't imagine ever getting arsey with someone for calling me pal!

Someone called me 'lovely' the other day. As in "there you go my lovely". I was in the supermarket, doesn't bother me.

Bus drivers, taxi drivers, the man at the kebab van, the guys on the market stalls. Sweetheart seems to be popular or darling. It's called being friendly.

Depending on county, you could get called "my duck" or "my love", or "pet".

I'd rather be called Sweetheart or darling than mate mind you. I find mate really something you'd call a man.

@BedlingtonFloof , pal sounds quite rude to me, but it might be OK in some regions.

If I go somewhere like a bank, I do not want to be called love, darling, sweetheart, chuck, doll, duck, my lover, ...
The person serving should be aware that it's not acceptable.

This I'm in derry 🇮🇪, they'd last 1 min

Of all the hills to die on, this just isn't one of them. I don't remotely have the energy to get bent out of shape over this kind of thing, much less make an issue of it with a person paid minimum wage in hospitality.

OK, so you find it a bit annoying. But how possible is it to change it, really? And does it actually harm you? And if the answer is no to both, maybe it's a "let them" thing, because you only cause yourself more stress trying to control or police something that in practice, isn't hurting anybody, and most people don't even think twice about.

Life is honestly easier and less stressful without a stick up the behind.

I'm autistic and wouldn't make an issue of this, I think the issue is one of stuck up-ness, not neurodivergence!

OP, stay well clear of Ireland, North and South, if that's your attitude! It'll drive you mad there, that and the constant use of 'wee' for things than are neither small nor young.

Embarrassed for you

I’m sure they don’t actually think of you in those lovely terms but if they were truthful you’d kick up a stink.

Everyone referencing pet names as though they only happen in certain parts of the country is making me smile. Surely the point is they're used everywhere? It's not a specific northern thing or whatever.

You need to lighten up!!!

It’s so cringe isn’t it 🤣

I don’t like the names either but don’t called people out on it, they are genuinely trying to be nice, or are really chilled at work, most don’t even realise they are doing it, it’s not a big deal but honestly you’ve been a dick to the guy calling ur man Pal, and really if you’re that insulted then u should stay home. All the time. My husband calls people like you misery guts.

This I'm in derry 🇮🇪, they'd last 1 min

Is hard to walk with that stick up your arse?

Yeah no shit

I like it.

Er...I think it's acceptable. I accept it. I am able to accept it. It's acceptable.

Was you called that term in the West Country? It sounds like a South Western term - "my lovely".

Oh I love it! My mums Irish and my. Dad's a Yorkshire man so I get called all sorts. My dad greets everybody with "alrate cocker", it's normal for him:

Not sure that you have a leg to stand on telling others what is and isn't appropriate language when your grammar is that bad!

I don't see any grammatical errors...however, this is a forum, not a legal document!